Woman's worries

[Mallefunction]

Well I've been having dating problems since...forever. When I was in middle school, I was flat and short...and nerdy. In high school, I was once again too nerdy and since I didn't like to do drugs and party...yeah.

I've only had two boyfriends, both lasting about 6 months each. The last one dumped me because I wasn't smart enough for him. XD

Basically, I didn't know C++ and I wasn't into taking apart computers. I like the more artsy side of gaming. What can I say?

In college so far...I've been hit on by creepers. And I MEAN creepers. Like, the kind of guy that literally watches/follows you for an hour and never says a thing until you're JUST about to go to your dorm. I even had one guy (after finding out that I was an English major looking to teach) say, "I want to be your student. You're so pretty."

First conversation with the guy...fuckin' creepy.

Tried online dating...got mostly guys about ten years my senior or more hitting on me and they were all pretty socially awkward (Confidence and hygiene are my only real demands from my true love). I did find a guy I really like and we're both interested in one another...but he's 2000 miles away and both of us dun want to try a long distance thing...so we're kind of at a weird spot.

*pants* So there you have it...my boy troubles. My life is just SO friggin interesting, I know.

 

[dmase]

Ugly people usually have to be nice because it their only redeeming quality. Ugly nice people get friendzoned. You're welcome.

Out of curiosity what about the good looking nice guys that get friend zoned?

 

[FernandoV]

Ugly people usually have to be nice because it their only redeeming quality. Ugly nice people get friendzoned. You're welcome.

Out of curiosity what about the good looking nice guys that get friend zoned?

That is due to having no swag. People can be good looking but if your social skills/ way you carry yourself (VERY important) is not up to part then women will look towards more capable men in that area. An ugly guy can attract A LOT of girls if he has swag.

 

[iLazy]

I can't read body language so I can't tell the difference between friendliness and flirting. Oh, apparently tons of guys have liked me. They're just too chicken to tell me.

The one relationship I would've gone through with was a girl, and she moved.

Other then that, I'm good. I'm more worried about finishing school then dating.

 

[BanicRhys]

Women have dating problems? I always thought they just sat back and waited for the men to ask them out and if they don't like him all they need to do is tell him to piss off.

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

i have a girlfriend, who im extremely happy with (maybe marriage? wouldnt that be wonderful!!) but as a lesbian, i lack any interest in men, besides friends. But for some reason i seem to attract the douchebag guys who think they're God on earth. This morning, i was at thte grocery store, when this guy grabs my ass and then when i turned to him, gave me that smirk that reads "ive got a 10 foot dick and im better than anything else youll have". I dont think ive ever kicked a man that hard in the junk before in my life... *thinks*

 

[nothingspringstomind]

Never been on a date in my life... And i'm getting married next year.

I swear i'm more of a girl about it than my missus.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Is it normal behaviour for a woman to completely change her mind after two years of dating, and go from telling you that she's deeply in love to ignoring you and finding a new guy in a few weeks?

This isn't meant to be offensive, I'd just like to know for future reference.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Haven't seen one of these threads before. Time to go make a vs thread and populate the forum with some originality.

But seriously, is reading about people trying to understand other humans and having emotion problems actually entertaining?

Ugly people usually have to be nice because it their only redeeming quality. Ugly nice people get friendzoned. You're welcome.

That's funny, I thought beauty was subjective and some of the most unattractive people I've seen have been the biggest dickheads I have ever met. Mind you, I've never encountered a single person who let the idea of sex dictate their entire personality.

 

[DementedSheep]

This will inevitably devolve into a bunch of self-described "nice guys" who are incredibly misogynistic without realising it, and generally mean spirited towards other men for doing better with women than they do complaining about their problems.

Don't forget the veiled accusations that all woman are shallow and only interested in looks. Cause the problem couldn't possibly be their personality or the fact that never actually talk to any woman.

 

[Svenparty]

The main problem with all these "relationship" threads is that most of the guys come off as kind of stalkers or overbearing which usually annoys the object of their affection. Personally though I believe if you have to ask the Internet for advise on a girl clearly things are too complicated already.

In short wait for the signals and if it's supposed to happen it'll happen. None of us would be conceived if they had advice forums before the Internet.

 

[trollnystan]

TL;DR: Whine whine whine, cheese, whine. Gripe, whine whine, gripe, cheese, whine gripe. Whine.

SNIP

I could go into detail about why I have no one to go to said club/bar/social spot with - and in Sweden social spot = club/bar - and how I am uncomfortable around drunk people - when a guy who hits on you reminds you of your father during one of his drunk binges, that's a problem right? - but most of it'll probably sound like excuses. Some of it probably is. Being clinically depressed doesn't help. /violin /woeisme /cheeseandwhine

My experience in bars btw: Every man who's hit on me in a bar has been drunk. As in REALLY drunk. As in polysyllabic words come out of their mouths like unsorted Scrabble tiles and they don't do much better with monosyllables. And the most coherent thing they've said is, "D'ya wanna fuck?" or "D'ya wanna make out?" or more likely "Dya wndfmr?" My reaction? Recoil in horror and go hide in the ladies room for 30 minutes. I'm such an adult. /sarcasm

Oh and by nice guy I don't mean someone who'll roll over and do whatever I want him to and/or who'll run around me like a yappy-type dog trying to get my attention all the time. Ugh, please no. I mean someone who is polite to people around him; someone who'll try to keep that politeness when provoked but who, if pushed, will stand up for himself; someone who won't litter the streets even if the closest rubbish bin is 20 metres away... That kind of thing. The last thing I need is a push-over; nothing would ever get done! I'm more into the strong, silent type... *tries for sexy look but comes off creepy*

Er, cough cough... Basically what I need first is friends, normal friends. Who live in my town. Sigh... /moarviolin

*Bump* Hi there...

Kidding. It's not crazy, I've never gotten why there was a dating scene in the first place. I understand we're all social creatures and everything but dating's just seems to have been turned into a sport.

Oh by crazy I mean I'M crazy. I have... issues, as the Americans say >_>

But yeah, I find the whole dating concept rather uncomfortable. I'd prefer something like the Japanese goukon, only not quite that awkward. Just a group of people going out to a movie or something, maybe pizza afterwards, just having fun. I.E. I need to go back to school apparently.

Hi...I'm questionnairebot. I enjoy cooking and am an amateur stand up comedian...I'm kinda crazy to Had to say it.

Are you over 25 and live in Sweden? =P

 

[dmase]

Ugly people usually have to be nice because it their only redeeming quality. Ugly nice people get friendzoned. You're welcome.

Out of curiosity what about the good looking nice guys that get friend zoned?

That is due to having no swag. People can be good looking but if your social skills/ way you carry yourself (VERY important) is not up to part then women will look towards more capable men in that area. An ugly guy can attract A LOT of girls if he has swag.

I see so this swag... where can I get it? Does it come in a can? Do I have to sell any niceness to obtain it?

 

[SouthpawFencer]

Is it normal behaviour for a woman to completely change her mind after two years of dating, and go from telling you that she's deeply in love to ignoring you and finding a new guy in a few weeks?

This isn't meant to be offensive, I'd just like to know for future reference.

As a guy who got dumped after about five years by a woman who then decided that she was really a lesbian (as is now in a steady relationship with a man) I need to ask: What's "normal"?

Sometimes, feelings change. It sucks, but it happens. Somebody I tried dating broke up with me (the right decision; I was NOT boyfriend material at the time), announced that she was taking a break from dating, and was engaged three weeks later. I don't think she was lying about taking a break, but things changed. As far as I know, she's still married to that guy a decade and a half later.

That ex-lesbian-ex-gf that I mentioned earlier? She loved me once, but things changed. Hell, she was in a relationship when she met me and we became friends, but her feelings about that boyfriend changed fairly quickly.

That this happened to you probably shouldn't be taken as a sign that you're particularly defective. You MIGHT be, but I don't know you, so I wouldn't be able to say. But the situation you described does NOT make me automatically think "Wow, he must have been a total loser for her to do that!".

 

[GestaltEsper]

Haven't seen one of these threads before. Time to go make a vs thread and populate the forum with some originality.

But seriously, is reading about people trying to understand other humans and having emotion problems actually entertaining?

Yes. Very much so.

 

[putowtin]

I've been married for five years and been with the same guy for 12 years, no matter what your gender, tastes and interests, there's someone out there for everyone, it's just if you want to look in the first place.

Now you want women worries, I may be pregnant!

 

[GestaltEsper]

I've been married for five years and been with the same guy for 12 years, no matter what your gender, tastes and interests, there's someone out there for everyone, it's just if you want to look in the first place.

Now you want women worries, I may be pregnant!

Not to sound rude/ignorant but what exactly is the problem? I only ask because I know other women who would be ecstatic to be pregnant. Is it money problems? Are you worried you won't be able to support the kid?

 

[Dogstile]

Just a group of people going out to a movie or something, maybe pizza afterwards, just having fun. I.E. I need to go back to school apparently.

You just described my group of friends. Rarely get drunk and we tend to just hang out randomly. We took out a couple of tents last week and just hung out all day in the rain because why the hell not.

You don't have to be school age to have a decent group of friends.

 

[trollnystan]

You just described my group of friends. Rarely get drunk and we tend to just hang out randomly. We took out a couple of tents last week and just hung out all day in the rain because why the hell not.

You don't have to be school age to have a decent group of friends.

That sounds so cosy! Actually the Swedish word fits better I feel: MYSIGT! I love the sound of rain, and sitting in a tent hanging with friends at the same time sounds awesome =)

[sub][sup]Note to self: 1) Invest in tent. 2) Wait for it to rain. 3)??? 4) PROFIT! =D[/sup][/sub]

 

[Booze Zombie]

Yes. Very much so.

That is very strange to me, I shall be honest.