At times of my life id love to change my entire name let alone my last name... i used to have a real hatred of my life and everything that went with it.. so i thought the best way to fix that would have a complete name change and a complete new life 
Would you give up your name?
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Depends. It would be a matter of how important it is to the person, to me, and what the exchange or compromise is. It's certainly not off the table, but there would need to be something else as part of the deal.
I'm inclined to find it true, actually. Our society does have that niggling tradition thing still hanging on, and the tradition in question likes women to change their names for their men, and doesn't like divorce. It's possible to be married within three days, but divorce can take the better part of a year just to get to the point of paperwork going through, if not longer. It is fairly ridiculous.Susan Arendt said:
I'm think I'm more attached to my selection of usernames than my real name, I figure my brothers and sisters have procreated enough and I have no responsibility to keep the family name moving on, and I'm also adopted, so while I've got a lot of love for my parents, I'm not feeling an attachment to the name.
although my name has cause me a fair few problems in the past, I wouldn't want to give it up, its mine, and I have had it as long as I can remember haha,
Yeah, since I'm kind of traditional like that, and because I hate my last name.
But if his last name is Penissmith, Cockgobbler, or something stupid/horrible like that, yeah, not taking it then. Maybe we could both change our last names to something better/different in that case.
But if his last name is Penissmith, Cockgobbler, or something stupid/horrible like that, yeah, not taking it then. Maybe we could both change our last names to something better/different in that case.
Well, I am married, so...
My wife kept her name when we got married. I honestly didn't care that much and offered to take her name if she wanted. She didn't, so we have different last names.
It does lead to some confusion however. A lot of times people will see we have different names and assume we're still dating. I've had mail come to me addressed to Mr. [wife's last name].
And it took my family about 2 years to stop addressing everything. Mr and Mrs. [my last name].
It's all good now though. She finally gets to have Dr. [her last name] on everything.
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My wife kept her name when we got married. I honestly didn't care that much and offered to take her name if she wanted. She didn't, so we have different last names.
It does lead to some confusion however. A lot of times people will see we have different names and assume we're still dating. I've had mail come to me addressed to Mr. [wife's last name].
And it took my family about 2 years to stop addressing everything. Mr and Mrs. [my last name].
It's all good now though. She finally gets to have Dr. [her last name] on everything.
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Nope. And I wouldn't expect them to give up theirs.
The trickier question is what do you name the kids.
Personally I have both my parents surnames in my name, even though my mum gave up hers, as well as a middle name. So it's like having two middle names, which makes my name sound posher than it should be. Especially as my middle name ALSO sounds like a surname. So it's like having three surnames.
The trickier question is what do you name the kids.
Personally I have both my parents surnames in my name, even though my mum gave up hers, as well as a middle name. So it's like having two middle names, which makes my name sound posher than it should be. Especially as my middle name ALSO sounds like a surname. So it's like having three surnames.
I don't like my surname to begin with.
Not with how pro-marriage and anti-divorce this culture is. >.>Susan Arendt said:
Well, it's me and my sister, and I imagine she'll take her future husband's name, leaving me to carry on the family name.
I would very much prefer that my children take my own name, but it's not an absolute necessity, just a big preference.
Fun fact: One explanation for this behavior is that, with women, it's really damn obvious if a child is yours or not, given that you *gave birth to it.* With men, however, the name is the only reassurance aside from testing that the man is actually the father of the children he is raising. The argument doesn't extend to spouses, but it does apply for children. In that sense, we should pick a biological gender to adopt names from (male or female, doesn't matter to me) and stick with it. Mixing it up just makes it confusing (especially when trying to map lineage).
I would very much prefer that my children take my own name, but it's not an absolute necessity, just a big preference.
Fun fact: One explanation for this behavior is that, with women, it's really damn obvious if a child is yours or not, given that you *gave birth to it.* With men, however, the name is the only reassurance aside from testing that the man is actually the father of the children he is raising. The argument doesn't extend to spouses, but it does apply for children. In that sense, we should pick a biological gender to adopt names from (male or female, doesn't matter to me) and stick with it. Mixing it up just makes it confusing (especially when trying to map lineage).
Male. I would want my family to have the same name, I would prefer it to be my name, but I would be open to taking her name if she was opposed to giving up her own.
I should clarify, I've seen a family where both parties kept their own last names, it led to a lot of confusion, and it virtually divided the children so that they would only listen to the parent who's name they shared the oldest had the father's name, the youngest had the mothers name. I would never do that to my family.
I should clarify, I've seen a family where both parties kept their own last names, it led to a lot of confusion, and it virtually divided the children so that they would only listen to the parent who's name they shared the oldest had the father's name, the youngest had the mothers name. I would never do that to my family.
Fuck it. I would never be able to remember that shit, and would never recognize my name when people left notes, or tried to talk to me or whatever.
I probably would. My last name has no real connection to me. It was my fathers name, who left the family(to put it nicely) when I was one year old. It wasn't even his real last name, but one he took after his foster parents.
When I was younger there were plans to get rid of the name for all of the family, but I guess the fact that my mothers maiden name is the most common in Sweden was even more boring.
Though if the girl had a weird/bad last name I'd pass and let us both stick with our old ones.
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When I was younger there were plans to get rid of the name for all of the family, but I guess the fact that my mothers maiden name is the most common in Sweden was even more boring.
Though if the girl had a weird/bad last name I'd pass and let us both stick with our old ones.
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I'd expect her to take my name I think. It may sound sexist but it would just feel wrong to me if she didn't. To me, her taking on the new name is part of the marriage.
If she expects me to get down on one knee, I expect her to take my name.
I mean this in a loving way, by the way. There's something exciting about having your girlfriend become your wife and take on your name, continuing the family. I realise this can work both ways but I don't think women are expected to carry on the family name in the same way men are really.
And I sure as hell wouldn't take hers. I'd feel so un-manly, it'd drive me crazy.
If she expects me to get down on one knee, I expect her to take my name.
I mean this in a loving way, by the way. There's something exciting about having your girlfriend become your wife and take on your name, continuing the family. I realise this can work both ways but I don't think women are expected to carry on the family name in the same way men are really.
And I sure as hell wouldn't take hers. I'd feel so un-manly, it'd drive me crazy.
My girlfriend has an awesome last name, so maybe. I like the idea of keeping the family name for kids but I don't really expect any future wife of mine to take my name.
Well my wife took my last name we didn't even discuss it really after a few days of being engaged she said she was looking foreward to taking my name. She has a VERY french maiden name and NO ONE every pronounces it right, especially difficult for a teacher who's students are all hispanic children. My last name is really easy to say and only has two syllables. She has two older brothers though so maybe that's why she wasn't concerned about the name being 'lost'..
I never would and maybe I'm an asshole but I expected anyone I married to take my name. I've worked in government long enough to know that hyphenated names and families with more than one last name confuse the hell out the gov't when you're trying to get documents. Not to mention I know for a fact that my surname is dying out because Scandinavia kind of suppressed Sami culture for a long time. I've never met or heard of anyone with my surname that I'm not related to.
I never would and maybe I'm an asshole but I expected anyone I married to take my name. I've worked in government long enough to know that hyphenated names and families with more than one last name confuse the hell out the gov't when you're trying to get documents. Not to mention I know for a fact that my surname is dying out because Scandinavia kind of suppressed Sami culture for a long time. I've never met or heard of anyone with my surname that I'm not related to.
Well, I'd give up my first or middle or second name just because names are merely a designation we apply to ourselves. Names don't really mean anything, when you think about it.
I wouldn't mind giving up my last name...
I mean, as a traditionalist I wouldn't be the one considering it either...
Depending on her last name I would bring up the subject, but, would never pressure her into changing her name...
I mean, I would give mine up if the situation called for it, but... Otherwise, traditionalist values are what I live by really...
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yes, thinking that there is actually a woman who can stand me really is a vision in itself...
I mean, as a traditionalist I wouldn't be the one considering it either...
Depending on her last name I would bring up the subject, but, would never pressure her into changing her name...
I mean, I would give mine up if the situation called for it, but... Otherwise, traditionalist values are what I live by really...
captcha: creative vision
yes, thinking that there is actually a woman who can stand me really is a vision in itself...