By engaging with her in exactly the same ways she stated make her feel that way in her initial post.Houseman said:How did I make her feel alienated and uncomfortable?
Of course, her specific reaction *to you* was more 'weary irritation' than discomfort, I took my cues from what she originally said. And if you can't see that not even remotely listening to how average people outside GamerGate (and she did go out of her way to show she's an educated, informed reader) react to the way you conduct your arguments isn't a PR problem, and you're content to blame games journalists for GG's iffy reputation, I don't imagine you're ever going to come close to solving your image problems.Not The Bees said:And it's more or less still this way. On Twitter, or Youtube, or god forbid in a thread here on Escapist dominated by the Gamergate people (with the exception of about a half dozen of some very nice, sensible, and lovely people that I would say I truly enjoy debating), anything you say that falls out of line of what they think you have:
A) Not done your research (to whit I say bullshit, I've read every article, read all the threads, and watched the videos)
B) Am trying to derail conversations (to whit I say bullshit, the conversation was already derailed, I was only making a point, the thread brought up X,Y,Z and I was only trying to add my two cents in as someone who had experience in that field)
C) Am just some SJW feminist (to whit I say stop trying to call me a feminist. I'm not. I never have been. I'm a pacifist, I'm a teacher, and I'm a woman, but those are the only labels I call myself. Stop putting me in a box)
D) Won't bring in evidence (to whit I say, I just posted 10 effing links that none of you bothered to read. I even brought in blogs that I wrote trying to help smooth things out for GG people, though I know I'm only a small time blogger, but I was only met with disdain or ignoring.
E) Ignored all out (to whit I say, I prefer this one all together)
So maybe I don't have to be afraid, but I sure don't feel comfortable. And quite frankly, I think that's a lot worse. At least I know what to do when I'm afraid. I can fight back. Right now I'm not even sure I want to continue to visit the Escapist any longer, as it's no longer a website that makes me feel welcomed. I'm more of an outsider here than I ever was in high school
I think the first step of GamerGate looking like it actually listens to women is by actually listening to women.