No it seems most of the ones doing the rape reconcile it by suggesting other men at the problem and that Toxic masculinity attitude is what drove them to feel the need to do it so clearly the issue is other men need to be taught not to rape too because other men are going to be as awful and toxic as them.
Do you think Joss Whedon is responsible for the majority of rapes?
How does that even work? Is Joss Whedon like some evil version of Santa Claus? Does he fly around the world in his magic sled sexually assaulting people?
Like, we get it, you don't like Joss Whedon. I don't like Joss Whedon. There are very few male celebrities who I like, because sooner or later they all turn out to be creeps.
Let's be real here though. Joss Whedon is not a nice person. He is certainly guilty of sexual harassment, but as far as we know he has never actually raped anyone. Mike Cernovich, right wing provocateur, has actually raped someone. Donald Trump, right wing US president, has raped several women, including some who were children at the time. Those men would absolutely tell you that any sane man knows not to rape. They'd also tell you that they personally never raped anyone, that what they did absolutely doesn't count or that it never happened and their accusers are lying.
If all it takes to characterize "most of the ones doing the rape" is 5 or 6 celebrities being creeps, then no. It absolutely does not seem like most of the ones doing the rape are concerned with toxic masculinity.
Like, I'll be real for a moment. As someone with a research interest in masculinity, the word "toxic masculinity" makes me want to claw my eyes out, and for very similar reasons to the ones you describe. "Toxic" masculinity implies that there is such a thing as non-toxic masculinity. It is a deflection tactic, it's a way of drawing the line between other men who are bad, and some special chosen group of "good" men whose masculinity is benevolent. It's no different, in fact, from what you're doing. You're also trying to pretend that there's some special group of men out there who are conveniently responsible for all of the bad things attributable to men as a whole, thus leaving you and the people you like magically blameless. You've just flipped the targets around.
Sadly though, it doesn't work that way. The problems with men are too widespread to be attributable to special type of toxic masculinity, or a minority of "terrible people." All masculinity is toxic. Abuse is so baked into the fabric of what masculinity is that it cannot simply be removed. There is no type of man who is automatically safe, or who can be trusted not to rape someone or turn into a monster given the opportunity.
We've all encountered dreadful profeminist men who turned out to be creeps. I have encountered far, far more of them than you have. As an academic, I have had people I used to respect and look up to turn out to be abusive or predatory. They are still a tiny, tiny minority of the abusive men I have encountered in my life.
Because in part it literally helps them hide it or makes their victims not want t come forward because they see the person doing all this supposed good and pushing the right points that they don't want to come forward against them.
Again, the handful of male celebrities you don't like and have decided are single-handedly responsible for all the rape in the world are defined by the fact that they got caught. They didn't hide it or get away with it, unlike the countless men who did. Your sample is literally selected on the basis of the fact that they didn't do the thing you are claiming they did.
Almost all men who rape someone will get away with it. The chance of them not getting away with it is so insignificantly small that it may as well not exist, which is why you can assume that anyone who settles in a rape case is 100% guilty. In fact, as sad and awful as it makes me feel, I cannot in good conscious recommend that anyone comes forward to report a rape against them, because it's just a traumatic experience which goes nowhere and will typically leave you far worse off than the person you're accusing. I would say get a friend to beat them up or slash their tyres instead, but you might actually get arrested for that..
As for the arguement women do those things, some women do, some. Unfortunately getting un unlicensed cabs still happens so do people getting black out drunk without friends about to make sure they're safe. I've seen girls alone in pub / clubs without friends about in the stage of being drunk where you can see their eyes starting to basically glaze over. It's really unfortunately not as uncommon as you seem to think.
The fact that we're even talking about this, incidentally, is an example of a rape myth.
Most women are not raped on nights out. They are not raped because they got too drunk or took a minicab. This whole line of thought is just a silly derailment based on a complete misunderstanding of what rape is or why it happens. It's not going to protect anyone, and it's never put forward by anyone with any real interest in protecting anyone. Far more often, it's put forward by men with an interest in camouflaging their own behaviour.