Your current relationship, be honest, Did you "settle"?
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No, my girlfriend is exquisite.
mojodamm:
Honestly though, I don't know how I ended up so lucky. I rolled a natural 20 on my relationship, even though I bombed my CHA.
To that post, I feel exactly the same way. My CHA ain't great, but I treat her well, don't act like a dick or try and push her round. She has had enough of that from an ex, and it ain't my style. Yes I have a low CHA but style (dress terribly simple though).
mojodamm:
Honestly though, I don't know how I ended up so lucky. I rolled a natural 20 on my relationship, even though I bombed my CHA.
To that post, I feel exactly the same way. My CHA ain't great, but I treat her well, don't act like a dick or try and push her round. She has had enough of that from an ex, and it ain't my style. Yes I have a low CHA but style (dress terribly simple though).
My gf is a tall asian bikini model and fitness competitor. She is beautiful, has wonderful fake breasts (which I for one just love), and also happens to be the sweetest and funniest person I know. Additionally, she likes video games and her favourite TV show is Game of Thrones.
So I did okay. Not sure how I would/could do better.
So I did okay. Not sure how I would/could do better.
Pretty good Kanatatsu, I'll raise you (lol). Gf is also asian, petite, with a smile that can melt hearts, uni graduate, occupational health professional (healer/cleric), and likes Game of Thrones, Anime, Computer games and beating me in Liar's dice or other card/dice games.
*looks over at Japanese love pillow on bed only to stare at the anime girl's eerily cheerful smile before turning back to the computer*
...The hell do you think?
...The hell do you think?
I didn't settle. Then she went away. I realise it wouldn't have been settling. I realise she was as close to everything I want as is possible.
Not happy right now.
Not happy right now.
Physically? No. As close to perfection as she can get (according to me and media-perception on how a woman should look) - Huge fake knockers, reasonably tall, very slim, well-formed and large rear, etc. Most physically attractive mate I'v had so far.
Mentally? Eh..No, but at times, I do wish she'd have a better general know-how about the stuff I do. Then again, she plays as much video-games as I do (even MMORPG), so one should not complain.
Mentally? Eh..No, but at times, I do wish she'd have a better general know-how about the stuff I do. Then again, she plays as much video-games as I do (even MMORPG), so one should not complain.
I really don't care how happy you are - unless you're extremely attractive, have loads of money, or possess a silver tongue that can persuade just about anyone, yeah, your ass settled.
That's sort of like me and my GF. The gaming, finishing sentences, and the nerd link. Although we've only been going out for about 4 months (I miscounted in my earlier post), so we haven't gotten to anything truly intimate, aside from some hardcore snuggling. XDShoggoth2588 said:
That and Both of us make baked goods. Her sugar cookies are pretty good, but my Chocolate chip will wreck anything. Hands down.
Well congrats to you. Glad it's working out.
Is she in your state? No? Then don't worry about it.Snowalker said:
I've been there. It sucks dicks. Most people don't even have the common sense to realize a long distance relationship requires double the effort, meaning IMing only and no video or simple voice chat leads to shit tons of miscommunication. Then you'll start getting blamed for forgetting things when you never even had them told to you, and they'll go on and on about how she feels and when she wants to do things and blech
Put it to you like this: The stereotype about how not giving too much of a shit gets their attention is not just a stereotype. At least until you get older. Late twenties, early thirties. Just about everyone's mentality alters for the better by then. PATIENCE is in abundance...mostly. UNDERSTANDING isn't so rare you'd think she'd have to dig through an African mine to get some. Even issues about money are-
-Well no, that's always there even with the better girls. No one wants a jobless spouse. Understandable.
...Where the fuck was I going with this again? Oh right! Long distance!
Yeah, it just makes you bitter to the core so don't worry about it. My best friend pulls it off with her boyfriend. God bless her I say. But for the majority it's best to stay away from it.
...And go for someone who isn't in your age group, because, for the most part, men and women around 20-23 are painfully fucking childish.
*knocks back a bottle of alcohol before passing out in a pool of depression*
Fable 3? I think a mistake has been made...TCPirate said:
Lol, jk, glad you have a girl who's into gaming.
If it makes it any better, she complained like a ***** when she finished it.Harkonnen64 said:
"Fable 3 was soo much worse than fable 2... which didn't even come close to fable: TLC!! Why would anyone make a spellcasting-swordfighting game and replace bows and crossbows with pistols and rifles? how does that make sense?! AND WHAT'S WITH THE GUILD SEAL SYSTEM...."
the rest of her rant was a blur to me... I've gotten used to it.
I bet you didn't beat her by much. I kid, I kid. This one made me laugh. Same with your User name.TheRightToArmBears said:
I didn't think I was settling with my current girlfriend. But now each day feels like I'm settling more and more. Its one of those things thats just kinda filling the time until I go for the girl I've been patient waiting for till were both out of high school and we would be able to give it a real shot.
Gosh, yes.
But the guy I'm dating is amazing. He's sweet, supportive, intelligent, talented, handsome and we're on the same wave length about a lot of important things.
But he is not "THE ONE".
He has no ambition, nothing that drives him, and he's immature. On top of that, he's high maintenance emotionally. None of those are my ideal traits. But when everything else is fine, I'm not one to complain.
Sometimes there's nothing wrong with settling. After all, my ideal guy, intelligent, confident, ambitious, community service driven, probably doesn't exist. And I can't help but wonder if that guy isn't who I want to be but in male form. Someone I can aspire to, someone to emulate.
I doubt that guy and I would have a good relationship.
But the guy I'm dating is amazing. He's sweet, supportive, intelligent, talented, handsome and we're on the same wave length about a lot of important things.
But he is not "THE ONE".
He has no ambition, nothing that drives him, and he's immature. On top of that, he's high maintenance emotionally. None of those are my ideal traits. But when everything else is fine, I'm not one to complain.
Sometimes there's nothing wrong with settling. After all, my ideal guy, intelligent, confident, ambitious, community service driven, probably doesn't exist. And I can't help but wonder if that guy isn't who I want to be but in male form. Someone I can aspire to, someone to emulate.
I doubt that guy and I would have a good relationship.
My girlfriend in High School... Yes I settled. And I fully regret it. I was a HUGE nerd in school before it was pretty much accepted as normal, (why was I not born 5 years later?) and so when I heard that this girl I knew nothing about thought I was cute, I jumped at the chance.
Now, as for our relationship,we broke up about 6 times, and ended up going back to each other. Hell, one time she broke up with me over talking to a female co-worker. And before that she broke up with me over not remembering our 2 month anniversary... WHO CELEBRATES THAT SHORT OF TIME? Oh... yeah.... 16 year old morons...
Than I left for 3 days on my senior class trip, and it was probably the best 3 days of my life. I even thought of calling her and breaking up with her as soon as I got to New York, but decided against it when I remembered she was the kind of girl who is NEVER single for more than 2 days. Anyways some stuff happened on the trip (I sorta cheated on her), and I was going to break up as soon as I got back. Turns out I'm a horrible person, because I got home, her parents were out... can you see where this is going?
After that we were still together for about a month. We broke up shortly after I graduated because "She can't handle a long distance relationship" (We live 5 minutes away from each other)
She than start spreading rumors that I raped her, and still doesn't know why I refuse to talk to her (and this is 6 years afterwards). She also looks like a meth addict now.
Since than, No. I don't settle unless it's something that isn't a big deal in the long run. I don't have that high of standards, but I have them.
Now, as for our relationship,we broke up about 6 times, and ended up going back to each other. Hell, one time she broke up with me over talking to a female co-worker. And before that she broke up with me over not remembering our 2 month anniversary... WHO CELEBRATES THAT SHORT OF TIME? Oh... yeah.... 16 year old morons...
Than I left for 3 days on my senior class trip, and it was probably the best 3 days of my life. I even thought of calling her and breaking up with her as soon as I got to New York, but decided against it when I remembered she was the kind of girl who is NEVER single for more than 2 days. Anyways some stuff happened on the trip (I sorta cheated on her), and I was going to break up as soon as I got back. Turns out I'm a horrible person, because I got home, her parents were out... can you see where this is going?
After that we were still together for about a month. We broke up shortly after I graduated because "She can't handle a long distance relationship" (We live 5 minutes away from each other)
She than start spreading rumors that I raped her, and still doesn't know why I refuse to talk to her (and this is 6 years afterwards). She also looks like a meth addict now.
Since than, No. I don't settle unless it's something that isn't a big deal in the long run. I don't have that high of standards, but I have them.
My perfect woman happens to be Paragon Femshep and I will never get that.
This being said, I wouldn't change who I have for the world. I don't personally think there is one person who is perfect for anyone. Aside from a few very small ticks no, I didn't settle.
This being said, I wouldn't change who I have for the world. I don't personally think there is one person who is perfect for anyone. Aside from a few very small ticks no, I didn't settle.
Sounds a lot like me. I suffer from "most women treat me like a kid brother" Basically, I'm kinda screwed.Nocta-Aeterna said: