Your current relationship, be honest, Did you "settle"?

[Griff Morivan]

Shit, I married up. My wife is smarter than me, prettier than I deserve (she is that kind of cute pretty, where she is gorgeous when she wants to be, and cute when she doesn't. I look like an initiate to the hells angels.) and a hell of a lot more grounded. She says she didn't, but I always feel like she settled.

 

[dalek sec]

Nope but that's because I haven't talked a girl in any serious form in like over six years... So yeah, didn't have to "settle" because I'm a friendless loser. D:

 

[FallenRainbows]

I may have to. I will probably never find someone who fits my standards in my entire life. I'm currently single and unsure whether to pursue a romantic relationship. Sometimes, I feel lonely and/or socially obligated to get a girlfriend, but I'm also constantly worried that I may be unhappy if I settle for just anyone and that the person that I do settle for won't understand me and what I need as an individual.

Never sell yourself short my friend. Don't be together from societies demands, be together for a desire to, don't settle, Ms Right will come along.

Thanks. I sincerely hope that what you say will come to pass.

There is a major problem, though: I don't find real women very physically attractive, nor are they all that interesting. It may be because of my heavy childhood exposure to the media, but I'm the kind of guy who is far more likely to develop a crush on an anime character than a real person. It's kind of sad to admit, but it's quirks like this that make me seriously consider that being single is the best way to go.

People are attracted to different things, anime is a seemingly popular one from my experience , furthermore it isn't sad at all, people can not help to what they are attracted to neither should they be ashamed/embarrassed. Have you ever been with anyone? If not giving it ago will probably fix those issues of a lack of attraction , if you have then somebody will come along.

Also as for you seeing yourself as odd for reasons to be single, nonsence, most people have weird little quirks, I introduced my missus to MLP not the other-way around, I'm quite insane and like I said she's spazzy, such quirks make us unique and our quirks are why we are loved. Nobody loves perfection.

Hate to be that guy but:




'One does not find love in perfection, love is finding those imperfections perfect'

One of my own:

'Music is made of imperfect sound waves, that is why it is beautiful. Love is made of imperfect people, that is why it is beautiful.'

(I threw that out in Year 11 Psychics as studied sound, the class was stunned with my depth... Fuck Yeah!)




Yes. I have a knack for trying to be helpful, it's my nature.

 

[Parivir]

HA! There will never be a woman attracted to me, even if I was the last guy on earth!

I could stand next to you so you seem good in comparison.

 

[FallenRainbows]

Never sell yourself short my friend. Don't be together from societies demands, be together for a desire to, don't settle, Ms Right will come along.

But don't we all beckon to societies demands at some point? Yeah, it makes for a feel good expression to say otherwise, but honestly, it happens, a lot and to most of us.

That kinda leads into a trend I see starting in this thread that's pissing me off. McCa you didn't do this, but I will state this.

Don't be pretentious when you say you didn't settle. There is absolutely nothing wrong with settling, and sometimes it must happen for good relationships to form.

Of course we oft bow to society, lest we all be anarchists. I simply meant do not bow to society on things of such import.

Furthermore. Settling does sometimes lead to good, and sometimes you find out that the person in question was better than you thought. Usually however settling does lead to problems down the road.

From a romanticist standpoint people are protective of their relationships they are proud of them and people like myself live for them, I have nothing else in this world I really care about, I find love to be the primary reason for living (as opposed to surviving)we are all bound to find 'settling' to be bad as it is having such an important part of your life second best. Not to offended or anything, it isn't pretentious to find something bad providing you actually see it as bad.

DISCLAIMER: This does not apply to starting a relationship Mr/Mrs Right will never be right in-front of you, however still settling after a year or so is what '2nd best' refers to.

No, its not pretentious to say you believe something is bad, it is, however, if you present your opinion as fact and imply that people who disagree are wrong. I know you didn't do this, but I think iI made that clear, I wanted to get that out there. I also feel that relationships are important, though not as much as you. My mentality is the same as wolf, in the sense of mate>family(pack)>yourself>everything else. But you must know the situation and make a choice accordingly,as in, never sacrifice the entire pack for your mate solely, but that kinda thing happens so rarely, it wouldn't matter. This may be why my relationships never work out, I treat them as casual thing, and hardly ever reveal my full hand.

True enough, but you should understand that people who think as me oft see it as fact. I understand that while it means everything to me it doesn't to many people, and that's okay, they don't impede upon my love, they couldn't if they tried. I save my disdain for those who deserve it, not for those who differ.

Casual relationships are cool, as long as both know it's casual, I'd imagine anyway.

 

[Denamic]

I've never even considered 'settling' with anyone.
I was pretty happy with my last girlfriend.
She died, though.

 

[Snowalker]

Casual relationships are cool, as long as both know it's casual, I'd imagine anyway.

Oh, whoever said that casual relationships are cool lied. Having be the only way to get fulfillment out a relationship. Its a headache, cause you can never be certain if your partner is faithful, even though they probably are. Cause its too lose, and none of that gritty emotion. But oh well, maybe I'll find someone who's on the same wavelength as me. Or as you say, my wavelength will shape to theirs.

 

[open trap]

This time, in my current relationship, i did not settle. I really really really really liked my girlfreind before we started going out, and she felt the same about me. We have been going 4 months strong and i can safely say i love her and know i mean what i say. A few of you may think that is a little early, but she is.........special. I don't know how to put it. My last girlfriend i did "settle" and well, things didnt turn out well.

 

[Seabear]

im currently single because i refuse to settle

This. I've tried relationships since this one incredible girl, and I can't muster up enough feeling for anyone else like I did her. OH THE PAIN...

 

[Jake Lewis Clayton]

I don't know to be honest.

I never truely had high expectations when i got with my current girlfriend, but after 3 years and a couple of months, i can't say i ever imagined being so close and intune with another person, things have changed but we have remained true to ourselves and are getting ever closer to the whole 'maybe we was made for each other' idea.

 

[FallenRainbows]

Casual relationships are cool, as long as both know it's casual, I'd imagine anyway.

Oh, whoever said that casual relationships are cool lied. Having be the only way to get fulfillment out a relationship. Its a headache, cause you can never be certain if your partner is faithful, even though they probably are. Cause its too lose, and none of that gritty emotion. But oh well, maybe I'll find someone who's on the same wavelength as me. Or as you say, my wavelength will shape to theirs.

By casual I meant essentially 'fuck buddies' or words to that effect. Though your point is the same opinion as mine, causal in that sense most usually doesn't work.

Oh, and theirs to your wavelength too, a perfect centre, meeting half-way as it were.

 

[Connor Lonske]

Well seeing how I get more attracted to guys mentally but girls physically, I will have to settle one way or another, and damn it I don't want to. If only I knew a guy who had the body of a girl, maybe with a penis. Hummmm, yeah, that would be nice. Like, a trap or something?

 

[Snowalker]

Casual relationships are cool, as long as both know it's casual, I'd imagine anyway.

Oh, whoever said that casual relationships are cool lied. Having be the only way to get fulfillment out a relationship. Its a headache, cause you can never be certain if your partner is faithful, even though they probably are. Cause its too lose, and none of that gritty emotion. But oh well, maybe I'll find someone who's on the same wavelength as me. Or as you say, my wavelength will shape to theirs.

By casual I meant essentially 'fuck buddies' or words to that effect. Though your point is the same opinion as mine, causal in that sense most usually doesn't work.

Oh, and theirs to your wavelength too, a perfect centre, meeting half-way as it were.

Oh, yeah, I don't do fuck buddies, remember that whole wolf thing, loyalty comes with that also. I mean the kind where you're together but you just kinda chill when you can, and your lives go their own ways and just hope that they cross. Like I said, major headache, but its the only way I feel comfortable.

 

[Midnight Crossroads]

Nope. I pretty much did a back flip the first time she agreed to go out with me. I guess that means she probably settled for me.

Although, to be fair, I didn't know how hot women could be until after I left my High School. I meet new girls everyday who are prettier, more intelligent, and have better personalities then anyone in my High School. And some of them are actually interested in me. It's like I was blind, but now I can see stuff. So, it's possible the girl I'm going out with would be average to most people. She's not to me though.

 

[staika]

Well my current relationship is going....... who am I kidding I'm single at this moment.

 

[FallenRainbows]

Casual relationships are cool, as long as both know it's casual, I'd imagine anyway.

Oh, whoever said that casual relationships are cool lied. Having be the only way to get fulfillment out a relationship. Its a headache, cause you can never be certain if your partner is faithful, even though they probably are. Cause its too lose, and none of that gritty emotion. But oh well, maybe I'll find someone who's on the same wavelength as me. Or as you say, my wavelength will shape to theirs.

By casual I meant essentially 'fuck buddies' or words to that effect. Though your point is the same opinion as mine, causal in that sense most usually doesn't work.

Oh, and theirs to your wavelength too, a perfect centre, meeting half-way as it were.

Oh, yeah, I don't do fuck buddies, remember that whole wolf thing, loyalty comes with that also. I mean the kind where you're together but you just kinda chill when you can, and your lives go their own ways and just hope that they cross. Like I said, major headache, but its the only way I feel comfortable.

Ahh, I see what you mean now... Not to be rude or anything but my ex seemingly had that mentality. That crashed and burned. Hard. Then again it was my stupid fault for not noticing it after two years and a break-up. Oh well, happy now ^.^

 

[Snowalker]

Well my current relationship is going....... who am I kidding I'm single at this moment.

Admitting it is the first step... wait that an addiction.

Friend the way you made that sound, I think you might want to go to the advice section. It can helpful, I frequent it a lot.

 

[staika]

Well my current relationship is going....... who am I kidding I'm single at this moment.

Admitting it is the first step... wait that an addiction.

Friend the way you made that sound, I think you might want to go tot he advice section. It can helpful, I frequent it a lot.

You don't got to worry about me, I am quite capable in the dating scene I just don't have a GF at the moment. Now that it's summer I might fix that soon.

 

[Snowalker]

Well my current relationship is going....... who am I kidding I'm single at this moment.

Admitting it is the first step... wait that an addiction.

Friend the way you made that sound, I think you might want to go tot he advice section. It can helpful, I frequent it a lot.

You don't got to worry about me, I am quite capable in the dating scene I just don't have a GF at the moment. Now that it's summer I might fix that soon.

Well, good luck mate, your post just kinda seem more depressing and less sarcastic than the other single posters here. My mistake.

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

I remain single for now. It doesn't help that i have an inability to find girls that are even remotely interested in me, and there is a girl from my past to whom all (very few) possible romantic interests are compared and found wanting.
unrequited love is a ***** ¬¬