Your views on bisexuality

[Everin]

I would love to hear your views on bisexuality. I recently 'accepted' (I put this in quotations because it's not like something I have to deal with, it's just something that was always there) the fact that I'm bisexual and I want to know a few things.
1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Now I'm not trying to start fights, I just want your honest opinions on it.

 

[Melon Hunter]

1) I guess it would come up eventually? I dunno. I guess it would depend on the person I would be dating at the time, and if it ever came up in conversation.

2) Well, I guess there would be that little interlude of 'I never knew that!', but c'mon, it's the same person as before, you just know their sexual preferences now. If they're willing to tell me that, more power to them.

3) I don't really know what kind of messed-up world you'd have to live in where it was 'wrong' to be attracted to more than one gender. Bisexuality is just one more preference. OK, so it's a little more profound than simply being attracted to both brunettes and blonds for instance, but it's hardly wrong.

 

[StonedNarwhal]

1) It depends on the circumstances. If I had only met them recently then I probably wouldn't, unless it was mentioned. If I'd known them for a while then I would make some effort to communicate that to them.

2) It wouldn't (and doesn't) change someone's personality. When I first told people they were surprised for a bit, but they quickly got over it (even my sligthly homophobic friends) because my sexuality doesn't really make any difference to our friendships.

3) It is most definitely not wrong to be bisexual. It is simply who you are.

 

[Lunatic High]

Just another preference I ain't against it just means you got a better chance for a threesome.

 

[manic_depressive13]

1) Yes. Not because it's a huge deal- quite the opposite. It's so trivial that if they had an issue with it I would know they're not the kind of person I would want to date.
2) I wouldn't care.
3) No.

 

[Nickolai77]

1)I'd make a point of implying it on a date, the person your're dating does have a right to know your sexual orientation. It could potentially be to your benefit as well.

2)Wouldn't bother me, if i had a bisexual girlfriend i would however pay more attention if she's getting bit too emotionally close to another girl.

3)Nothing wrong with it all. I would be slightly envious of you if it meant it would be easier to have a threesome.

 

[Phasmal]

1) Certainly, it's no big deal. If they think it is I wouldn't date them in the first place.
2) Several friends have told me this. My reaction is generally `Oh, really? Thats nice`. It's no big deal.
3) Clearly I do not.

People who make a big deal out if it should find better things to do with their time.

 

[BathorysGraveland]

Same as my views on homosexuality. I have no problems with it, but I'm not going out to my way to join their little freedom/rights crusades either. As for the questions:

1) If I was bisexual, then yes. It'd be easier to get that out of the way first because you'll never know if the other person has a problem/is uncomfortable about being in a relationship with a bisexual. It's a courtesy thing, I think. You could argue that the same should go for fetishes, but they can at least be turned aside - an entire sexuality can not.

2) I would have no problem with it. If a girl I was with also likes girls in that way, maybe an orgy could be arranged. Jokes aside, it really doesn't matter to me. It's the same person, after all.

3) Of course not.

 

[DoPo]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

If I was a bisexual or as I am now? Either way, I suppose there is no harm in telling them my sexual orientation. I don't want to make them confused.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

"Cool. Do you want another beer now?"

Actually I had a friend of mine "come out" to me. No he didn't make any moves on me, he was actually interested in another person I knew. I saw nothing wrong with that, aside from his first love interest being straight. I mean that kind of sucked.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Yes, homosexual people are all right, but the bisexual are the bane of society! I'm joking of course. See above, I'm fine with it.

 

[Girl With One Eye]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
Yes, I have no reason to hide being bisexual.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
It wouldn't bother me at all.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?
No.

 

[Zeckt]

1) No, because I am focusing on building a relationship with the present person. Bi sexuality at the moment does not matter.
2) Cool, I can be both sexes for them. Fun!
3) Nothing about sexual preference to men and women is ever wrong bi sexuality included.

 

[Reginald]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

Yep. I'd get a handle on their thoughts on the matter, then tell them on the second date. Seems like a sensible plan.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Not at all. I can't fathom why anyone would think that.

 

[Vault101]

hmmm if he was I don't see how it would matter....its not like it increases his chance of cheating

 

[Secret world leader (shhh)]

1) Yes, i'm assuming that if i trusted them enough to go out with them i'd trust them enough to let them know.

2) Not a big deal really, my friend actually told me last night and my only reaction was being happy A) for him telling me and B) because i'm bi too and he's sexy

3) Not at all.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

1) I?d probably tell them in passing, but it?s not really that important. If anything, I guess I?d just be laying out my openness to threesomes.

2) I?d just shrug and say, ?OK then. Cool.? Sexuality is really not a big deal, and it?s certainly not a defining personality trait.

3) All sexualities (heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, pansexuality) are perfectly natural and ?right?.

 

[Zeckt]

1) Yes, i'm assuming that if i trusted them enough to go out with them i'd trust them enough to let them know.

2) Not a big deal really, my friend actually told me last night and my only reaction was being happy A) for him telling me and B) because i'm bi too and he's sexy

3) Not at all.

ooo, congratulations.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
No, at least not right away. It seems that most women where I live would be put off by it. Of course I married a Bi woman so thats not so much an issue now.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
Actually its not a big deal with me as the whole Woman on Woman thing doesn't appeal to me as much as it should. My bi wife has said on more than one occasion that I'm gay, but I think I'm just bi. I already have a woman so seeing others really isn't that impressive. I never really had a guy so its sort of like a rare fruit for me. So perhaps if a guy said they were bi it would affect me more.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?
I think it depends on the person. Bi is on the list along with pansexual, aspergers, adhd, and probably a few others that people just tend to diagnose themselves with. Its like the new cool thing to be. I don't take what they say to heart. Someone who see's two guys kiss and thinks it hot automatically thinks their bi. I personally think you need to be into guys a little deeper than a kiss before you can say that, but thats just me.

 

[gazumped]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

I never make a big deal out of it to anyone. I'm certainly not going to go "I have something to tell you... I'M BI." I don't think it affects the relationship at all, after all, when I'm with someone I'm not going to be going after anyone else of any gender.
But I tend to go for liberal minded people who wouldn't have a problem with it anyway, plus I'm not particularly secretive about it so they can probably guess. I actually told my first boyfriend before we dated how I'd had a crush at a girl at school. About a year later it came up that I was bi and he went "What... since when?" I reminded him I'd already told him about crushes I'd had and he went "Oh... I thought you were joking!" But yeah, he certainly didn't have a problem either way.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

Obviously I'm not bothered. (But I may be interested if it's a pretty girl who's telling me.) I live in London so it's not a particularly sheltered thing.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

No, but I've had reasons for not making a song and dance about it. When I was little and realised I liked girls I cried to my dad that I was worried people were going to beat me up for being a lesbian. And in secondary school (a girls' school) I kept my mouth shut about it because there were girls who would have beaten me up for it.
Now that I'm out of an institution filled with scary teenagers I don't really have to hide it, girls don't tend to care, but guys can sometimes be a bit too interested in it and that can make my skin crawl, so I resist the urge to comment if guys are talking about hot wimmins or similar.

 

[Nimcha]

Bisexuality is sooo 2005.

Pansexual is the thing to be these days!

 

[Mr Pantomime]

Some people like both men and women, not a big deal. I don't criticise people based on what they eat, so why would I criticise their love life? The eating thing is far more relevant.