Your views on bisexuality

[BloatedGuppy]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

I would say "I am bisexual".

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

I would think "This person is bisexual".

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

This is kind of a ludicrous question. Of course not. Why would I even care? How does right and wrong even enter into it? Do you think it's wrong to like both chocolate and vanilla ice cream?

 

[Aurgelmir]

I would love to hear your views on bisexuality. I recently 'accepted' (I put this in quotations because it's not like something I have to deal with, it's just something that was always there) the fact that I'm bisexual and I want to know a few things.
1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Now I'm not trying to start fights, I just want your honest opinions on it.

1) I don't know. Maybe not at first. Since you are Bisexual you are just as attracted to her/him as anyone else, so it shouldn't matter. But sure I think it is something you should eventually bring up.
2)I have had people tell me, and I didn't mind much at all. What does it matter?
3)No, why should there be? You swing both ways, good for you, more to choose from. I don't swing both ways so there is less for me

 

[Avery]

1) Yes. I'm all about honesty from the start.
2) Totally fine.
3) Being bisexual myself it would be rather ironic if I said it was, Now wouldn't it.

 

[Wolfram23]

I don't have an issue with it, in fact I'd definitely date a bi-sexual girl. Just because you can swing both ways doesn't mean you are allowed to by default, either. I think the same general rules apply in a relationship - that of being monogamous (unless agreed upon to have outside sex, or sex parties, or 3-somes, or whatever the case may be).

I also don't really know that being bisexual is something that needs to come up. Obviously not good to hide it, but I just don't think it should really have much bearing on a relationship since, as I said, it would still be expected of you to be commited/monogamous.

 

[Kermi]

I think a bisexual person is a person sexually attracted to both males and females.

To answer your questions specifically:

1) if I were bisexual I do not think it would be relevant. Being bisexual doesn't necessarily mean you're not monogamous, so whether I'm dating a guy or a girl I don't think it matters. I can see how it might become an issue later if I'm dating a girl and she doesn't like that I used to date or am attracted to guys, but that's something we can work through if it ever becomes an issue.

2) Someone revealing to me they are bisexual does not change my opinion of them. I am married to a woman who, while she has never been with a woman, does find women attractive. While theoretically this improves my chances of an FFM threesome, realistically nothing is different in our relationship.

3) No.

 

[dark-mortality]

1) I tell EVERYBODY that I am Bi :3

2) WELCOME TO THE CLUUUUB

3)Feck no! Even if it was, it is so fun to be bi :3

 

[someonehairy-ish]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

Yes. It is the kind of thing people would feel betrayed about if you didn't tell them when things start to look serious.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

Well, being a straight guy I'd think it was straight up awesome if a girl I was interested in told me she was Bi. Think of the fun that could be had... and if a dude told me he was bi, that wouldn't bother me. I have friends who are bi, I've even got friends who are pan or furry. It was a bit odd to find out but now its just a source of friendly jibes and otherwise doesn't affect our relationships at all.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Of course not.

 

[CaptainMarvelous]

1) Ehhh, depends, I'm not Bi, so I don't know but I don't start my relationships now with "By the way, I'm straight" so I guess not

2) This has actually happened before when I was dating a girl and my response was "Awesome". Immediately followed by "I bet I've kissed more girls than you". I was wrong ;_;.

3) Not in the least

 

[trollnystan]

1) I don't see how it would come up on a first date, but if it did - and if I was bisexual - then yes.
2) "Good for you? Want a cookie?"
3) I'm a rather firm believer in the Kinsey Scale - I think most humans have a little bisexuality in them - so no, I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

 

[Sara Fontaine]

1) Yes, if it looked to be a relationship that might last then I would tell them that I am bisexual. As it stands now, I told my current partner that I was bisexual and his response was "That's alright; so am I." Turned out quite well

2) I'm happy for anyone who is able to realise their true sexual orientation; I know from experience that sometimes it can be quite frustrating to figure out fully.

3) Well, naturally, I don't think there's any problem with it.

 

[ShindoL Shill]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date? I don't see much reason too, unless it comes up (ie, a girlfriend finds my gay porn).
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you? I wouldn't care. Unless they were propositioning me. Then I probably would.
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual? Obviously not.

Pansexual is the thing to be these days!

I don't like that term.
It sounds like a fetish for cookware.

 

[Jonluw]

1) Probably. As a way of making conversation I guess. Introductions.
2) "Uh, good for you I guess?"
3) Yes, bisexuals are just sluts who want to justify their sodomy.
Oh, wait.

 

[Vuliev]

1) Yeah, why not? It's not really a big deal.
2) I'd be like "ok" and not think much of it.
3) Nope, why would it be?

 

[thom_cat_]

My girlfriend is bisexual.
She told me at a random point in time, but she's always been fluctuating.
I don't care at all, because she loves me and just me. So it doesn't make a shred of difference.
And if your opinion of someone changes because you find out their sexual preference then I don't think that person should have to deal with you. You don't deserve to be their partner.

 

[Rastien]

1) I can't see how its relevant if i was /shrug im intrested in the person the fact that i like dudes and women shouldn't me an issue.

2)If someone felt the need to tell me it must be playing on their mind so i would treat it the same way i treat anything of this nature. "Well thats good to know an all but your still the same dude to me /shrug"

3) Nah, i aint got no beef let people be

 

[RustlessPotato]

1) Well, my sexuality isn't really the first thing I bring up in a conversation. I am straight, if I need to mention it. But if she would ask, i'd simply tell.

2) I would go :" good for you ". Someone elses sexuality doesn't interest me in the slightest. I do dislike people who mention theirs every chance they get. I don't do that and neither should you.

3) Ofcourse it's not wrong.

 

[TheMyffic]

Many people are tri-sexual: They tri and tri but nothing happens! Ha!

You've totally earned my response by reading my bad joke



1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

Yes, but ease into it. No need to whip out your whole CV during the first 5 minutes.


2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

I've had a girlfriend tell me that. We checked out other girls together and it was fun.


3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

You already know the answer, this community is chilled out and liberal, you were just looking for confirmation. Now go and have fun!

 

[Eamar]

1. I tell people I'm dating, yes. It's not the first thing I bring up, but I like to get it out of the way pretty early on, if only because I don't want to end up dating some ignorant douche who has a problem with it or believes the stereotypes you hear about bisexuals (both gay and straight people can fall into this strategy). I don't even remember how it came up with my current boyfriend, but it wasn't particularly awkward or anything.

2. I know a lot of other bi people and I always get a little surge of excitement when I find out, in the same way most people do when you realise someone else is "like you" in some way. A lot of the time (as in the case with my best friend who's recently started to accept himself as bi), I'm not particularly surprised though. The first friends I came out to saw it coming a mile off as well, even though I thought it would be a big shock...

Beyond that initial conversation, it's no big deal. It makes no difference to how I treat someone, other than the fact that I might occasionally ask them if they want to go to a gay bar or club with me

3. Of course not. No sexual activity between or attraction to consenting adults is "wrong."

 

[Patrick Buck]

1: If they asked.
2: My friend did this, and my first reply was, to jokingly call him greedy, then we just carried on. Might have been such a little deal to me, because I already assumed he was, but he hadn't actually TOLD me spesifically.
3: No.

 

[DocMcCray]

1. Depends on whether you want to be exclusive or not. If you want to be with that one person whether they are male or female and no one else, no it isn't relevant. If you want to do them and someone else, they should probably know.

2. Because my opinion of what someone else does in their bedroom is *SOOOOO* important... wait, wait, no it isn't. None of my business. Means my opinion doesn't mean s**t.

3. You find men attractive. You find women attractive. I don't see a problem with that. (In other words, no I don't think bisexuality is wrong.)