Your views on bisexuality

[Andy of Comix Inc]

As a bisexual, I think bisexuality is overrated.

I usually justify it as "fun!" or "pro-choice!", but frankly, I hate to have to "justify" it anymore, and I come off as sex-crazed and insane. And while I am sure insane HYUK HYUK KILL ALL HUMANS I'm not so insane that it's how I want to come off.

So yeah, my opinion: bisexuality sure is a thing. Yep.

It exists.

...hooray.

 

[Legion]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

1) If it came up.

2) Wouldn't mean anything. I am not one of those backwards minded people who assume that bisexual means you have to be attracted to both men and women simultaneously. That is, that bisexuals want both relationships at the same time.

3) No. I don't see anything wrong with it in the slightest. Then again, there is no logical reason to.

 

[Nimcha]

Pansexual is the thing to be these days!

I don't like that term.
It sounds like a fetish for cookware.

Hahaaa! Thanks, I chuckled.

 

[Muspelheim]

I would love to hear your views on bisexuality. I recently 'accepted' (I put this in quotations because it's not like something I have to deal with, it's just something that was always there) the fact that I'm bisexual and I want to know a few things.
1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Now I'm not trying to start fights, I just want your honest opinions on it.

1) I would, it's not exactly a dark secret of sorts. No need to rush it, though, I've never met anyone who considered it a big deal.
2) Likely "Good for you", and not much else. As long as they're at peace with themselves for it, that's all that matters.
3) Of course not. If anything, it's practical. Well, alright, it tends to make well-meaning grandmothers a bit confused, but life, even at its autumn, is about learning.

 

[Ranylyn]

1) If I was bi, my fiancee would have a right to know. I'm not saying we'd ever introduce a second man to our relationship or anything (I love her too much to ever share her like that! I want to selfishly keep her to myself!) But at the same time, she deserves to know if I might be more likely to get into trouble drinking with the guys than just hanging with female co-workers.

2) I've had friends admit to being bi before, and I never make a big fuss about it, but I DO WANT to ask questions. I just don't because it would be rude to pry too much. Of course, this is also largely because I'm mature enough to find a man handsome without being sexually attracted to him, so I guess I understand bisexuality's appeal better than most heterosexuals.

3) People who have issues with bisexuals or homnosexuals are living in the past of indoctrinated bible thumpers. Religious texts were written by educated men of the past and warped to give themselves authority. Look no further than the story of Adam and Eve, for example, where it blames the woman (who was made from man) for sin and gives man dominion over her. That was a second story of creation added in addition to the original tale (of the seven days) passed down by word of mouth for generations.

There's nothing wrong with having a strong faith, but people who blindly believe what their elders tell them are the reason for all the fighting overseas. Has anyone else here ever read the Khouran or however you spell it? (I apologize, I AM half asleep.) It's actually a very peaceful religion, but look at all fighting in Afghanistan, which is born from twisting the teachings to control the youth into dying for the selfish causes of the elders. Hell, my step niece is muslim, and her own mother has lied to her about things like their god cutting her legs off if she ever eats pork. Like come on....

Point being, I honestly believe that without the kinds of bigots who use religion as a weapon, the LGBT community would be much more publicly accepted instead of it actually being considered a controversy.


EDIT; Oh, and I forgot to mention, being somewhat into Japanese games and anime, the term "pansexual" made me think of bread, since Pan is Japanese for bread. And then it made me imagine my friends walking around holding loaves of bread in front of their pelvis just to be goofballs. Thank you for that mental image. My imagination is quite weird sometimes.

 

[Rule Britannia]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
Yes, if I were bisexual I would feel obligated to do so.
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
I would be surprised at first but I'm not going to shun somebody if they are.
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?
No, (greedy bastards) lol I joke .

 

[Bloodtrozorx]

1) I believe you'd probably have to at least in the name of being honest with each other.
2) I wouldn't be shocked; it's just another preference in this world.
3) No, I know some people think it is but I take the "Do your own thing" attitude.

 

[TehCookie]

1) Probably, I wouldn't flat out tell them but when you're getting to know each other that would be part of me.

2) If it was random I'd be confused and probably just congratulate them for sharing. If it was someone I was dating I'd just ask if he's fine sticking to one gender.

3) Nope, love is love.

 

[Broady Brio]

Greedy bastards.

1) If asked, I wouldn't lie.
2) Fine, as long as they don't parade it and force me to be one.
3) Greedy bastards, you can't have both! Nope. It's all about experimentation right? Nothing wrong about that.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

I'm comfortably straight, and I'm comfortable with everyone else being however they are. I don't get to choose other people's sexual alignment, so why should I be bothered by it, if a dude asks me out, I just tell him it's not my thing, simple.

I have friends who are Bi, I have friends who are gay, I have straight friends as well, and you know what? I never even think to categorize them, they're all my friends, and that's just how it is...

 

[wadark]

I think a big part of the questions regarding bisexuality and homosexuality are how we define those words in our modern social context. The words themselves obviously refer ONLY to sexuality. However, it seems in a modern context, the words have come to mean not simply a sexual preference, but a preference of relationships as well.

In this context, I think that everyone is bisexual, in that we are capable of forming deep emotional connections with anyone. I mean it works exactly the same way as heterosexuality works: I have female friends who I'm very close to, but have no sexual desires towards at all. By the same token, I'm very close with my best friend (who happens to be gay). There are things I've shared with him that I've never shared with anyone else, but I have no sexual attraction to him.

I wouldn't rule out the possibility of being attracted to a man, it just hasn't happened yet.

All-in-all, to answer the questions, I think it should work the same as it does for regular relationships. You tell people if you feel like telling them. The fact that it is a hetero- or homosexual relationship shouldn't have any bearing on that decision, nor their response...but then, I dream of an ideal world.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

1) No. I don't see why it is important to mention.
2) Sexuality doesn't play a part in what I think of you.
3) No.

 

[RatRace123]

1. I'm not sure, but I probably wouldn't bring it up unless someone asked.

2. I wouldn't care, not that I mean to sound apathetic; I mean it more as, it wouldn't change my opinion of someone.

3. No, and anyone who thinks it is is dumb.

 

[deathninja]

For years I was unsure, then sure that I was and hid it, then after much discussion on these very forums came out, and accepted it myself (was a bit of a fucked up time, seeing as I was on the run from home and everything).

It's not the first thing I would mention on a date, but it helps to get it out in the open sooner rather than later, but not preach about it; from experience too many people I know personally define their whole lives by their sexuality (or lack of one).

 

[Leadfinger]

Makes it easier to find a date for the weekend.

 

[Mikeyfell]

I relate to topics like this a lot because all but one of my friends are gay or bi.

There is one thing about Bisexuality that bothers me somewhat and that's that if a woman says she had sex with a woman everyone assumes bi, and if a man says he had sex with a man everyone assumes gay.

Even if the people the guy said told know that the other guy has had sex with women in the past.

On to your points
1) Hell yeah, if I was bi I'd use it as a selling point. If you go out with me we can have 3-ways you're comfortable with!

2) Well, I have been on the receiving end of: "I'm a lesbian" "You know I'm gay right?" "I could have sworn I told you I was bisexual before now." and even "I think I might be bi, will you help me find out for sure." (That was a good day...) I think it's pretty cool

3) Bi sexuality is the best sexuality. (Even if you count all 3000 subsets of bisexuality)
And I'm one to talk, I'm strait.

 

[xplosive59]

All the Bi people I know in real life are all doing it for attention (but have never actually ever gone out or done it with the same sex), which is really sad because I know that there are genuinely Bi-sexual people out there that arn't attention seeking and these guys give them a bad name.

 

[Cannibal Johnson]

All the Bi people I know in real life are all doing it for attention (but have never actually ever gone out or done it with the same sex), which is really sad because I know that there are genuinely Bi-sexual people out there that arn't attention seeking and these guys give them a bad name.

I know what you mean, I'm a bi man myself and when I ever I tell people or someone brings it up I end up getting the "You're just doing for the attention" card.

 

[Keymik]

I tend to have the viewpoint of ''It got nothing to do with me, so let people do whatever they want'' but I do hate how most teenagers proclaim themselves bi-sexual just to seem different. Sexuality isn't a f'ing trend people -_- I bet you that over half of those people haven't even kissed one of the same sex as themselves.

 

[Zen Toombs]

-OP Snip HO!-

*takes a look at the responses*
Wow, this didn't turn into a flame war like many of the others. Huh.

Spoiler: story that's amusing to me

The thread that got me into the Escapist was actually a thread like this talking about bisexuality and pansexuality. My favorite response to the then-current bisexual haters was:

You see this bicycle? It's not actually a bicycle. It's actually a tricycle, or maybe a unicycle in denial.

It made me laugh. ^_^

By the way, I'm bi. While I usually tell people before I date them, this is mostly because my friends find out pretty quickly due to me enjoying both guy and girl fanservice, or another situation where it comes up. I don't feel like I have an obligation to tell my dates if it doesn't come up (as I won't cheat anyways), but I definitely won't hide it.

As for how I'd respond to someone telling me that the they were bisexual, it depends on their gender. If guy, say "alright then" and congratulate them on being an endangered species. If a girl, say "alright then". And then invite both to the secret bisexual no-pants parties.

As for whether it's wrong.... O' course it is, love. You obviously need to choose between guys and girls, or you're just being a greedy nymphomaniac. If you say anything different, you're obviously in league with the homosexuals, and pushing the gay agenda on our kids.