Your Views on Marriage

[cobra_ky]

Hey everyone.
I recently had an arguement with a person about marriage. This person believes that marriage is just a label.

I also believed that marriage is a special bond and promise between two people that shows that they will only love and be with each other until they die.

I've always kind of considered marraige sacred (so to speak) and I think if you take the leap, you should be ready for the long haul.
I also always thought that by being married, you may have the extra incentive to try harder to work through problems and try to figure things out.

What is your view of marriage?

i think marriage is a commitment, but it shouldn't necessarily be a monogamous one. it's a contract between you and the spouse, and once you agree to it you should make an effort to work through the rough spots that any relationship goes through.

I actually stumbled on this site the other day: http://www.nomarriage.com/

It's pretty good and kind of echos my thoughts on marriage.

do your thoughts on marriage boil down to "American women are crazy bitches?" Because that's what i'm picking up from that site.

 

[Takoto]

I think marriage is just another was of showing how much you love someone, and another way of saying you'll never leave them.

 

[UnearthedArcana]

I think marriage is just another was of showing how much you love someone, and another way of saying you'll never leave them.

So I argue that we should cut out the middleman.

 

[NicolasMarinus]

Marriage is standing up in front of everyone you know and will ever meet and saying:

"I choose this person and no one else and I will stand by that choice!"

 

[iJosh]

It is a special bond. In a way.
But I also think its just a way to waste money and another reason to get drunk.
Don't think you really need this paper to bond you guys to love eachother.

 

[Julianking93]

If you want to get married, that's fine, but I really see no point in it.

Why do you [b/]have[/b] to get married to show that you love each other? Its just a bunch of legal bullshit dressed up to look good. And if you ever talk to a woman who wants to get married or is excited to get married, most of the time, they don't talk about how much they love their spouse, its always, "I want a big beautiful wedding."

Its just this mentality that unless you're married, you can't love someone to the fullest.

And when (I say when because its pretty much inevitable) you decide to split up, its not a simple, "Fuck off, I don't want to be with you anymore." its now, "Fuck off, I don't want to be with you anymore, now you have to give me half your shit and its gonna take about 5 or 10 years to finally get the divorce completed."

Love shouldn't have anything to do with government documents.

 

[Random Argument Man]

It's a process to "lock balls" forever. The day I'll abandon my freedom as a man for a woman will be the day I get married.

Note* No offense. I'm young and have plenty of stuff to live before I even consider about settling down. Although, the process of settling down annoys me to no end.

 

[DrDeath3191]

If people don't take it seriously, it's a useless label. If people do take it seriously it's one of the most beautiful things on earth.

 

[VanityGirl]

Arent humans supposed to stay with a mste for life?
I mean generally?

 

[floppylobster]

I've been unmarried with the same girl for 9 years now. Neither of us need to the label.

It's not the vow that saves a relationship, it's communication, honesty and trust. Trying to keep a promise when circumstances change can fuck you up. Not being married forces me to take nothing for granted. Sure I could walk away from it all at any moment, but so could she.

If children can't keep marriage together I don't think a ceremony will do it either. (my parents were married for 37 years until death did them part, for the record.)

 

[Cilliandrew]

Eh, just a point:

If you live with each other long enough (in Canada it's a year), the law basically sees you as BEING married, anyways, and the other person has the right to 50% of your stuff. It's called "Common-law partner" up over here.

I dated a girl for 2 years. We were pretty happy living together. Then she decided to head away for a Master's degree at a university that was 2.5 hours up the road. I had a full-time job that i couldn't leave, so we tried to do the long distance relationship thing for awhile. We got along very well, but i was sacrificing an awful lot for the relationship (every weekend i was driving up to see her, so i basically had no life outside of work and her). She then took a job that was another half hour up the road (so it was a 3 hour drive now!)

I tried to find work up there, but there was nothing. I was literally weeks away from breaking things off with her when she told me she was knocked up. We were at an impasse. She didn't want to move back to the area where i worked, i couldn't in good sense leave my job (it was a very good job in a field that was tough to get into, and now that i may have a child on the way, the benefits package i had was more important then ever!) ..There was alot of soul-searching and discussion done on whether we were gonna try to make this work or no.


I finally decided to commit to trying to make it work, but after everything that had gone between us, all the uncertainty....How do you really let each other know that it's not just talking lips and words?

I proposed to her. And her complete emotional breakdown that night told me all i needed to know about how important the vow of marriage was. She's not even religious, a complete atheist.

 

[Joos]

Like everything else you want to last a long time, for example cars, computers etc, relationships needs to be maintained. A marriage is not an auto-maintenance plan. If you think so, yours is going to fail. That's why I think that people who go into marriages with the feeling "So, its settled then!" is going to end up unhappy.

Thus, marriage today, is mostly a symbolic measure, or label if you will. If there is no will from both parties to build on the relationship and make it work, its not going to magically make things better, or even bearable. Respect and work is needed from both sides.

 

[Gator the Dark Freelancer]

Game ova.....No, I think that marriage is a sacred bond of love and commitment between a man and woman, sanctified by God. Yeah, I know I'm like the only one.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

It's a way to show your love to the one you're together with. To show that you want to be with him/her forever. And if it's to expensive, have a cheap wedding. It's all good for me. What's sacred is the promise.

 

[Skreeee]

I view marriage as pretty unnecessary this day in age, unless one's religion places special emphasis on it of course. If I'm going to stay with someone the rest of my life, I don't really need an official paper telling us and the country I'm in that I will.

The only good reason I even see to actually get married is the tax benefits they give wedded couples.

 

[ace_of_something]

Speaking as someone who is getting married in about oh. Two weeks. I am for it.

On thing is it makes insurance/taxes and the like much easier to deal with than if you're two single people living together.

The big ass expensive wedding is as much for the parents as it is for the people getting married. All relatives come

A lot of you are fairly young (not that I'm old only 29) but when you get older playing all the games you do with dating no longer hold the appeal. When you find someone that is perfect for you (you'll know) you don't want them to get away. You have to be in the right... maturity to level to see how good it is.

Things that used to scare me, like buying a house, getting married, having kids, settling down. None of that bothers me anymore because it's her. She's the same used to be a commit-o-phobe. But we're together we make each other happy and she is my absolute best friend in the world. We have made a commitment and even though we've had an argument or two I would've broken up with a woman in the past over we stuck it out and are stronger for it. It's not about proving your love to anyone else either it's about making a commitment to each other saing "nothing, NOTHING is going to stop us now."


I am 100% willing to say "I Thor Ambolt the Third take Catherine D'Aubignet to be my wife"

Hey everyone.
I recently had an arguement with a person about marriage. This person believes that marriage is just a label.

I also believed that marriage is a special bond and promise between two people that shows that they will only love and be with each other until they die.

I've always kind of considered marraige sacred (so to speak) and I think if you take the leap, you should be ready for the long haul.
I also always thought that by being married, you may have the extra incentive to try harder to work through problems and try to figure things out.

What is your view of marriage?

I tend to agree with you completely though if you asked me that 4 years ago I wouldn't have.

 

[cathou]

ok, i'm married, so i guess i'm biased a bit

for me marriage serve two purpose. First it's an emotional thing. When i was young, i was dreaming of getting married and all the traditions around that.

Also, on a purely materialistic way, it help a lot when you try to buy a house, do your taxes, get insurance, etc. True in canada after a year that you live togheter you are considered legally engaged, but for the law it's less than marriage, and it doesnt give you the same advantages for everything.

But, for my marriage we had a very intimate ceremony at the courthouse (since catholic church dont performe marriage between two girls), with a few friends and my wife,s family. we ask people not to bring gifts, and it cost us total below 1000$ for everything, rings included...

 

[annoyinglizardvoice]

Firstly, I HATE weddings and have NO intensions of having kids.

I am 100% in favour of long-term faithful relationships, but I completely fail to see how a silly ceremony makes all the difference and why anyone other than the devoutly religious should bother with marriage. If you truely love someone, you don't need to prove to the world that you do, you just just love them and that is enough. If you don't love someone, then wasting time and cash isn't going to improve your opinion of them.

 

[Abedeus]

Useless. Too expensive, too noisy, too many preparations, too many people you must invite.

I survived my sister's wedding and I don't want to have one.

 

[Captain Blackout]

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Pretty much...
And it is pretty much a label, its pretty sad if you need an outside party to deem that you love someone.

If this is your assessment of marriage, you have completely missed the point.

EDIT: Let me add this: Marriage is about making your commitment public and making yourself accountable. This whole "if I love them it doesn't matter" crap is a 15 year old's view and says more about you than about marriage. Way to go pansies.