Your views on Underage Sex?
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If you're so young you can't get it up, I'd say that there wouldn't be much point in it anyway. But as long as they know how to prevent pregnancy, they're aware of STD's, and they both feel that it's what they want to do, shag until you pass out if that floats your boat.
Yeah, absolutely. Testosterone-poisoned, horny teenager in a big hurry to lose his virginity so he can brag to the others in the locker room is going to be putting so much less pressure on a 16-yr-old girl than a patient, kind, gentle, caring 21-plus man who's with her because he thinks she's incredible.bahumat42 said:
'scuse me while I pull my tongue back out of my cheek.
Italy actually has a "Romeo and Juliet" clause that adjusts the minimum age of the younger partner based on the age of the older one.
Heck, yes! DEATH to the bloody period. Do us all a favour and load everybody up with progesterone on a daily basis.fenrizz said:
I think the crucial thing is the same whatever the age: that both people know and understand what they're doing and what they're getting into and both consent to it while sober. Whether someone's mature enough to understand it is impossible to accurately legislate or test. The rules are made as an approximation, to protect most people until they're that mature while being as little hassle as possible.
That the age selected ranges from 13 to 21 suggests very different opinions among different cultures. Girls probably do mature at very different rates in different environments within one country, never mind around the world, and I'm sure the ages at which they are considered old enough for foreplay, sex, alcohol at home, alcohol at a friend's home, alcohol in the pub, a motorcycle, a car, the vote and an assault rifle do affect their development approaching and passing those ages.
As someone's already said, if they're going to do it they're going to do it, and I'd rather they do it in a nice, comfortable bed with condoms and all the time in the world. It beats a rushed and careless event in the back of a car or some alley.
As has also already been said, they're not going to be safe if they have only prepubescent playground rumours to guide them. Teach. If you find it awkward teaching 13-yr-olds about it, don't put it off until they're 19. Teach 'em when they're still 8.
Hmm, I didn't read between the lines.Tanakh said:Sorry mate, that phrase really cracked me upCount Igor said:
Anyway, do it, but don't decisive yourself; there is (neurochemically) no way in heck you are mature at 15. Just go for it and be careful, and by careful i mean at least condom, OR condom + some other means, and unless you can bet your life on your partner to be clean, ask him for a medical test of STDs.
If the OP is asking our opinion to guage a response to determine their course of action, then there is no way in hell you are ready. If you need to resort to asking people on the forums for advice, then obviously you are conflicted about it, which is good in the sense that at least you are considering the situation but you are clearly not ready for such a commitment.
No, I'm not talking about commitment as if you were going to get married (let's face it, less than 10% of high school partners stay together), but rather commiting your body. This needs to be your decision, and yours alone. If you are asking the internet for advice, then you are not ready, and my advice is simply to wait until you are. Don't just think because you know that you might get an STI or a baby, you are informed. You need to carefully consider what effects that might have on you in the future. If after considering that, you think you can live with the consequences, and you are prepared to take the precautions, you can make your choice.
That said, there is a significant difference between consensual sex with a partner and as you put it "sluts doing it three times a day in a toilet."
But don't ever let anyone, whether it be your partner, friends, colleagues or the internet tell you how to live your life. Me included. If you so desire, you can completely ignore everything I have said and do as you please.
I think that schools and the media blow it way out of proportion in terms of how awful underage sex is. They seem to believe that after a certain day you are suddenly incapable of making any sort of mistake by some God given epiphany.
As long as you're not being stupid, use contraception and are both consenting then what's the harm?
As long as you're not being stupid, use contraception and are both consenting then what's the harm?
Eeeh what to think about it well it happens doesn't it.
18 years old is way past the point that hormones begin to "play" so yeah I can see how some jump the gun.
I don't really see trouble there but I hope that those who do life in a country that teaches about condoms and safe sex. I know america fails is that.. why else have 16 and pregnant! America is in trouble with that.. you have to teach about safe sex it is that simple. They WILL DO IT.. children are mostly controlled by emotions. It takes a while for the part of the brain that offers more reasoned control to take over. 15 year olds.. are not yet thinking.
18 years old is way past the point that hormones begin to "play" so yeah I can see how some jump the gun.
I don't really see trouble there but I hope that those who do life in a country that teaches about condoms and safe sex. I know america fails is that.. why else have 16 and pregnant! America is in trouble with that.. you have to teach about safe sex it is that simple. They WILL DO IT.. children are mostly controlled by emotions. It takes a while for the part of the brain that offers more reasoned control to take over. 15 year olds.. are not yet thinking.
you're 15 years old, you don't know shit about shit and pull up your pants!
with that said, i have no problems with 13-15 year olds having sex with eachother, as long as there is birth control in the picture, a 17 year old having sex with a 13 year old is just wrong and sort of pedo in a way.
As long as there is a appropriate age difference, age don't matter that much, as of myself; I would not go below the age of 17 (the legal age here is 16).
But sure! experiment with a good friend! that is the easiest way to get over that insecurity.
(Use Birth control pills or Condoms)
with that said, i have no problems with 13-15 year olds having sex with eachother, as long as there is birth control in the picture, a 17 year old having sex with a 13 year old is just wrong and sort of pedo in a way.
As long as there is a appropriate age difference, age don't matter that much, as of myself; I would not go below the age of 17 (the legal age here is 16).
But sure! experiment with a good friend! that is the easiest way to get over that insecurity.
(Use Birth control pills or Condoms)
Like most people here let them be on with it.
Speaking as somebody just turning 18 most of the people my age have either had or would like to have sex. As of yet, I haven't there have been complications in that area. However causal sex is good for some people, personally I'd not like it being the romantic bastard that I am. Yet people can make their own choices and decisions.
So long as both parties share an understanding as to what this sex means, fun, love, bragging rights and so forth.
Just use contraception and common sense, nothing wrong with sex.
Speaking as somebody just turning 18 most of the people my age have either had or would like to have sex. As of yet, I haven't there have been complications in that area. However causal sex is good for some people, personally I'd not like it being the romantic bastard that I am. Yet people can make their own choices and decisions.
So long as both parties share an understanding as to what this sex means, fun, love, bragging rights and so forth.
Just use contraception and common sense, nothing wrong with sex.
Thank you, that quote just made my day.Gennadios said:
OT: As long as there about the same age, and there above something like 13 and consent then go nuts.
It happens its part of life rail against it all you want but destroying a life just cause it happened consensually dose not compute. Now if the parents raise hell then it moves up to a misdemeanor and a 500$ fine and automatic retraining order. Anything is better than the current nonsensical scarlet letter of the "sex offender"!
I look at sex in the same way as I look at alcohol and fine foods - when you're a kid, you don't know what the fuck you're talking about or what you want. You don't know what you've got, or how to enjoy it.
I see the younger staff at my workplace cringe up at a cup of fresh-brewed coffee or a lovely Earl Grey tea, but grab a can of sickly Red Bull or V or someshit. Those same kids will swill down flavoured vodka drinks and sneer at my German beers, fine wine or aged scotch. And when we bring in food to share, they won't touch the delicious fine cheeses, cured meats or water crackers, but scoff down the pizza or doughnuts. Why? Because they don't have the sensibilities or mature tastebuds to properly enjoy good food.
Sex is the same. Sure, it might feel good for a few minutes, but they have no fucking idea what they're doing or how to enjoy it properly. That, and they drink and smoke for the sake of it - same as having sex. I think kids should wait until they're old enough to appreciate and respect these things properly.
I see the younger staff at my workplace cringe up at a cup of fresh-brewed coffee or a lovely Earl Grey tea, but grab a can of sickly Red Bull or V or someshit. Those same kids will swill down flavoured vodka drinks and sneer at my German beers, fine wine or aged scotch. And when we bring in food to share, they won't touch the delicious fine cheeses, cured meats or water crackers, but scoff down the pizza or doughnuts. Why? Because they don't have the sensibilities or mature tastebuds to properly enjoy good food.
Sex is the same. Sure, it might feel good for a few minutes, but they have no fucking idea what they're doing or how to enjoy it properly. That, and they drink and smoke for the sake of it - same as having sex. I think kids should wait until they're old enough to appreciate and respect these things properly.
Over 'ere in the US of A the age of consent is 18. My views on underage sex? Simple: 14 or over, maximum of two years ago difference, they need to both be in a relationship with each other, and major emphasis on safe sex. Oh, and, of course, there has to be firm mutual consent.
Dutchie over here, so yeah... We tend to be pretty pragmatic about this sort of shit and say: "Well, you're probably going to do it anyway, so I won't try to stop you. Just do it safe, will you?"
Kind of a condescending way to see it. Some people also don't like 'your' beer, wine and other beverages. Why does it suddenly matter when the person not liking it is a teenager?Nerdfury said:
This is where your argument breaks down though. One of the main ways of making it more enjoyable is to get better at sex. Which you do with practice.
Well from my own experience I'll leave you with this.
Teens are going to have sex whether you like it or not, whether their ready for it or not, and whether they have all the facts or not.
So the only thing that parent's and teacher's can actually do to help is inform them. I don't mean yell at them and tell them that's it's wrong or immoral or some other stupid nonsense. I mean actually inform them about the consequences. Teach them about teen pregnancy, STDs, that they don't know their bodies as well as they think they do, and how to properly use a god-damn condom. Perhaps if they had a little more information to go on other than "I know when to pull out, don't worry!" and were a little more responsible society wouldn't have to be so uptight about it.
Teens are going to have sex whether you like it or not, whether their ready for it or not, and whether they have all the facts or not.
So the only thing that parent's and teacher's can actually do to help is inform them. I don't mean yell at them and tell them that's it's wrong or immoral or some other stupid nonsense. I mean actually inform them about the consequences. Teach them about teen pregnancy, STDs, that they don't know their bodies as well as they think they do, and how to properly use a god-damn condom. Perhaps if they had a little more information to go on other than "I know when to pull out, don't worry!" and were a little more responsible society wouldn't have to be so uptight about it.
I'd say it's just about the most irresponsible thing you can do at that age, but it's not a national crisis or anything.
The rule when I was in school was once you're over 13 within 3 years is fine.
Other than that I think we should be educating teens on how to have sex safely rather than trying to stop them having it (yeah... thats working). Situation would be a lot better imo.
Other than that I think we should be educating teens on how to have sex safely rather than trying to stop them having it (yeah... thats working). Situation would be a lot better imo.