This highlights why it is so confusing for people.
Not really.
The only rule, is there are no rules, except you better know the rules or you're a bigot.
Most people don't need rules to interact with human beings. You deal with similar situations of ambiguity every single day, and somehow manage to navigate them. If you don't want to have to expend the same effort on trans and non-binary people as you would on anyone else, tough. We're not going to link our brains up into some kind of hivemind where we all think and feel the same way just because you can't be bothered to see us as individuals.
You have social skills, use them. Maybe, instead of treating other people like accessories who only exist to provide you with reassurance that you're not a bigot, spend more time focusing on those people and treating them as if they are important.
I realise I'm being slightly ableist. Maybe you struggle with social skills and do need clear rules in order to interact with people. Think though, because the answer is actually quite simple. How would someone who cared about other people resolve that situation?
Did she? She's done nothing to her voice if that's the case. I'm not sure she's don't anything except wear feminine clothing and make-up, plus she lost some weight.
For someone who talks about language being universal, do you genuinely not understand the concept of a singular they/them?
Yeah the way I get it, if you're transitioning, you by definition are transitioning from "something" to "something else", so there has to be a something, and there has to be a something else
Why does one of those things have to be male and the other female?
Why is it impossible for you to imagine a stable point outside of those two identities (at least, to the extent that any human identity is stable).
I think people are so preoccupied with not making others feel weird or bad that they just allow for some super illogical stuff in the name of kindness and that just doesn't make sense to me.
I'm sorry to tell you this. But there's nothing "logical" about the fact you base a huge part of your social identity on the shape of your genitals. In fact, it's actually pretty silly and nonsensical. So much so in fact that for some people, being non-binary is intented as a political statement to illustrate how deeply silly this whole neurotic crotch obsession of yours is.
People like you burn down forests because you get too excited about whether an unborn fetus has a dick or not, and yet we're the ones who are too hard to accommodate..
Sometimes you just have a calm contemplative mood, other times you have a go getter mood, you don't have to give em roles and lives and act em out, you can just kinda integrate them into your greater being like personas.
Speaking as someone who is actually genderfluid (which most non-binary people are not). I don't give "gendered roles" to my emotions. I'm really not sure where you got that idea.
The "fluidity" in my identity is based on whether I want to be interpreted as more feminine or more masculine, not which emotion I am feeling. You can, believe it or not, be feminine or masculine and still be a complete person with a full range of emotions.