This is true. And it can be justified or even moral to transgress against society to accomplish something good or build a better society. The problem is not that going against established norms is inherently bad, the problem is that many act as though going against established norms is inherently good, and the vast majority of the time is isn't good. Traditions don't come from nowhere, people do things certain ways typically for good reason.
Again, just like neonazis thinking that "spoiling the race" is a goal or even a factor in asylum, you assume that "power over the rules" or "going against established norms" is its own reward - simply because it's your own taboo and everyone must absolutely find it as important as you do. No one cares. No one else but you measures a policy's worth by its deviation from what is done so far (or more precisely, from the religious dogma you avoid referring to too directly), one way or the other. People are just indifferent to it because it is a non-issue, while you go whine that "waaah they all do it on purpooose".
It's a pure projection because you're incapable of thinking outside of the framework of ultra-conservative priorities. You assume that the factors at the center of your world are at the center of everyone's world, either positively or negatively. But your stupid norms are simply being crushed in total indifference, solely because they don't weight a damn in front of genuine human issues. Because they are an obstacle to morality and understanding. Others don't go out of their way for them, neither to stomp them or to avoid them, they're simply on the way. It should be obvious when assessing the quantity of norms and activities that aren't contested and that would be if it was a goal in itself.
Problem being that conservatives seem to prefer the illusion of freedom to the real thing.
"Freedom" doesn't mean much by itself. It's freedom to do something, and it's usually at the expense of another freedom. Conservatives have their own sets of freedoms to preserve, mostly the freedom to control the skin color and sexuality of people around them, the freedom to make profit at the expense of others, the freedom to live in a homogeneous society, the freedom to shoot and kill, the freedom to grab-them-by-the-pussy, the freedom to pollute, the freedom to exploit, the freedom to indoctrinate. They are not illusions, they are real. But they have, upon other freedoms, consequences that progressives do not accept.