I understand where you are coming from. That said, I -never- said these fantasies were necessarily a great thing. My reply was mainly in response towards the other user (specifically), because she was on a moral high-horse, seemingly anyway, against men in general. Playing these games (and reading books like Twilight) is somewhat of a, how should we say, sad-coping-mechanism (in my opinion). There are a lot of lonely souls out there, and this helps them get by. If I were to be completely honest, I'd also add The Sims into the pot of 'sad' games. But with that said, that doesn't mean these games are 'El Diablo'. I'll explain this further down.pneuma08 said:Indeed. But is it a good thing? Sure, it's fantasy, and every rational adult will eventually realize, "hey, it doesn't work like that," but we still have to be careful to have realistic and not fantastic expectations about our relationships. The question then is, are such romantic fantasies healthy and help us vent our frustrations or do they unrealistically raise our expectations with regards to real romantic encounters?
To be completely frank, I find this 'women are puzzles oh noes' notion very silly...How do you think 80% of men think to begin with? Also, 'if only I could figure out what it is I can do to get... (etc.)' is -not- stalker mentality. What's the difference between a 'playa' and a 'stalker'? The 'playa' is probably 'better looking' and more skilled in deception, while the stalker struggles to understand 'how women tick'. Simple. Disagreement with this bit here is naivety at work. Despite being a guy who prefers 'romance over sex', it'd be absolutely ludicrous to deny that the -majority- of males are not of this mindset. Not saying they -completely- perceive women as sex objects...but for sure, the majority of men think in a 'puzzle-like' mentality to begin with. Some of them are just exceptionally 'skillful' at making it seem otherwise; these are also, by the way, the men who are swamped by females. And of course, few of them will publicly admit it, because it 'hurts their game'.I mean, it can get truly frightening in that "women are just puzzles" plays directly into the stalker mentality of, "if only I could just figure out what it is I can do to get her/him to love me". So I can imagine the fear against such fantasies. But how they truly affect us is beyond what we know.
The only thing this really shows is that after ten thousand years of existence, we still don't know enough about what makes us tick.
Games like this serve more as catharsis than anything else. Did you know games like this -reduced- rape-crimes in Japan? (really)Ugh, don't start. There's unreported crimes, the fact that train molestation is a -very- big problem, and other factors - it's hardly a clearcut issue. Not only that, but them having said games aren't the only difference between here and Japan; more likely it is the culture that produces the games and the crime patterns, rather than the game producing the crime patterns.
Despite quoting this bit, you never really addressed it. It's a -fact- that since porn (and by association, porn games) started becoming widespread in Japan, rape crimes decreased. There's a correlation, and most likely it's because of catharsis. Like I mentioned previously, I never said these games were 'the ideal'. I mean, -obviously-. The ideal is being in the arms of a sweet gal/guy in a respectable relationship that revolves around trust, respect, and love. But with that said, -not all of us- are able to easily acquire this. What I'm basically implying is that 'these games aren't the devil!', which is what, for whatever reason, a lot of people are making them out to be.