Fellow Escapists, I need advice. I have a friend whom I REALLY like: she is cute, funny, smart, witty, nerdy, loves video games and fantasy novels...essentially, if I were to imagine a PERFECT woman, she would be it. I asked her, and she agreed to go on a date with me! The only problem? The more we hang out, the more she says we feel "more friend-y, less couple-y," and thinks it will be the same after this date. We are planning on going to a ballet and dinner. Since my friends are all woefully inexperienced in this area, I turn to you: what can I do to win her heart? What can I do before, during, or after this date in order to facilitate her seeing me as more than a friend? I realize I am asking for romantic advice on the web, but I would truly appreciate any thoughtful answers.
A Pathetic, Yet Earnest, Request
- Thread starter Warhobo
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Dump her ass. That's it. She's already thinking about it, isn't she?
Tell her she's absolutely right and that you are looking for something else, and that that something else is not her.
It's mean as hell but some would argue that it beats getting dumped.
On the upside, when you both grow up, and in the likely event that you don't morph into an asshole, she might find you somewhat more enticing.
Tell her she's absolutely right and that you are looking for something else, and that that something else is not her.
It's mean as hell but some would argue that it beats getting dumped.
On the upside, when you both grow up, and in the likely event that you don't morph into an asshole, she might find you somewhat more enticing.
Poems work if you're creative. If not, don't try it. It can get pretty messy.
Do kiss her though.
Do kiss her though.
Good friends don't always make good girl/boy-friends. IF you take the people above me advice and it doesn't work out then maybe that's the case here.
There is nothing wrong with being friends with your girlfriend, i am with mine you need that casual easiness with one another. But i agree a kiss will let you know whether there are also romantic feelings underpinning it all and thats what makes it more then just a friendship.
Just kiss her spontaneously, if she responds in kind then woo relationship, if she dosn't then just blow if off with something about her lips tasting faintly like blueberries and snap back to normal friend conversation. (You might only get away with that if your me, because I'm awesome like that 
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When you go to meet her give her a hug, during the date a bit o physical contact and at the end of the evening a good ol kiss, can't go wrong.
Warhobo said:
right then, you have only one option my man: take her on that date and guess what? act like you don't care if she likes you or not, flirt with other girls, ask her oppinion on their asses, tease her, be playful and witty, be cocky but not arrogant, with any luck you'll get her, and if the still drops you in her friend zone then move on, it's her loss. rejection is a fact of life my friend, it happens to all men. exept the ones who lack the confidence to get out there and play the feild.
besides you're probably prescribing her atributes, some of which she doesn't have.
oh and for the record: MAKE A FUCKING MOVE ALREADY, NO WONDER SHE ASYS YOU'RE MORE LIKE A FRIEND IF YOU'RE NOT KISSING HER!!!! OR EVEN TRYING TO!!!!
EDIT: sorry world in general, just realized i wrote firewind instead of friend, mistake fixed