A Pathetic, Yet Earnest, Request

[whycantibelinus]

I can think of no other way.

This method has never failed me.

Works two out of three times.

 

[steroidaided]

if you gave her the best of yourself, and she didn't want it, then she's to blame. (anyways..a little physical contact)

 

[Ultrasnail]

try as hard as you can to be with her as much as possible talk alot and text as much as you can.
after a while ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend.
if she says yes you're good to go. if she says no it wasn't ment to be.

on a side note, a good relationship should have a bases of friendship.

 

[Kushin]

Right dude... Time to be brutal.

If she's as perfect for you as you say she is and you get on really well... Fukken Snog Her.

Easiest way to find out if she's as into you as you think she is/isnt. I'm not saying spring it on her like its a trap, take it slowly and be gentle (use tongue's if you feel brave, just dont shove the bastard in there... actually... that advice works better at 4th base)

Might get rejected? So what?! If you can fall down a hundred times, only to bounce up 101 times, you'll find someone who loves you for the guy you are.

Good luck, now go get her tiger *rawr*

 

[fulano]

Dump her ass. That's it. She's already thinking about it, isn't she?

Tell her she's absolutely right and that you are looking for something else, and that that something else is not her.

It's mean as hell but some would argue that it beats getting dumped.

On the upside, when you both grow up, and in the likely event that you don't morph into an asshole, she might find you somewhat more enticing.

I sense some truth in your harshness. I guess you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes.

I was trying to be funny, not cruel...which makes me suck.

 

[steroidaided]

yeah, bad thing about forums, you can't sense sarcasm or humor unless you write
*****************Sarcasm*********************

 

[Mean Mother Rucker]

I find that if you two were to become friends for a while, that would help bridge the gap. Afterwards, if you guys feel comfortable (but not to the point where she considers you a sibling), then work this out. Trying to patch this up when she's not feeling entirely comfortable will just kind of break this down. Let her get some breathing room for now.

I may be wrong entirely. I may not be. But hopefully something in this thread will help you out.

Good luck, dude.

 

[steroidaided]

Be sure to tell us what happens.

 

[Warhobo]

Be sure to tell us what happens.

Aye, but the date is a week hence.

 

[Mcface]

Fellow Escapists, I need advice. I have a friend whom I REALLY like: she is cute, funny, smart, witty, nerdy, loves video games and fantasy novels...essentially, if I were to imagine a PERFECT woman, she would be it. I asked her, and she agreed to go on a date with me! The only problem? The more we hang out, the more she says we feel "more friend-y, less couple-y," and thinks it will be the same after this date. We are planning on going to a ballet and dinner. Since my friends are all woefully inexperienced in this area, I turn to you: what can I do to win her heart? What can I do before, during, or after this date in order to facilitate her seeing me as more than a friend? I realize I am asking for romantic advice on the web, but I would truly appreciate any thoughtful answers.

Start treating it more like a date, less like hhanging out.
Tell her shes attractive, etc etc.

 

[Slug]

NAKED MANNNNNNNNNNNN

 

[DrDeath3191]

I suggest covering yourself in glitter and stepping into the sunlight. Because chicks dig men who twinkle in the sunlight, amirite?

All kidding aside, you need to make an advance, NOW. But take that with a grain of salt: I haven't even found someone who interests me yet.

 

[jboking]

Just kiss her spontaneously, if she responds in kind then woo relationship, if she dosn't then just blow if off with something about her lips tasting faintly like blueberries and snap back to normal friend conversation. (You might only get away with that if your me, because I'm awesome like that .

I don't mean to remove your belief that you are a unique butterfly, but that works for me too.

OP: Really though, this is going to go one of two ways depending upon what she meant by her words, and without being there to hear it, I'm sad to say I cannot tell you what she meant. Anyway:

A) By she "still sees you as more 'Friend-y, not Couple-y'" she means that you have yet to make a move and she is wondering why. Move in for a gentle kiss when the moment is right. If your not ready for a kiss, then slow dance and hold her close to your body. Slow dancing can do wonders for figuring out if someone likes you in a boyfriend kind of way. Watch for her to rest herself on you. Not every girl is like that(the rest on the chest of my guy kind of way), but most are. So, slow dance and kiss.

B) by she "still sees you as more 'Friend-y, not Couple-y'" she means that she has made up here mind about why this relationship is going to end. You are fighting your way out of the friendzone and losing. Sorry bro, but if you don't draw her to you as a boyfriend soon than the relationship is likely lost.

 

[RobCoxxy]

I can think of no other way.

This method has never failed me.

Or me for that matter.

 

[Ghonzor]

I can think of no other way.

If you want a decent relationship with her...AVOID THIS AT ALL COSTS.

 

[Warhobo]

I would just like to thank everyone for their kindness and support so far. There's are reason I come to The Escapist!

 

[ma55ter_fett]

Just say "Hey, I really like you (do this while holding her hand and looking into her eyes from across the table), Is there, you know any chance that we could be more than friends?"

or "I think we have something you and I, could we take it to the next level? Like kick it up a notch?" (Again at dinner while holding her hand and looking her in the eye)

or "If I give my heart to you will you in kind give your heart to me?"

That last one was so corny that I would only recomend useing it for a proposial.

Also (in my option) a Ballet and dinner sounds like a serious date, so yeah I think she would be open to an general escalation in all things romantic.

 

[Julianking93]

As corny as this is going to sound, be yourself. You can't try to make her fall in love with someone you aren't.

Cliche? Yes, but its probably the best advice anyone can give. If you open yourself up to a girl and show her who you really are, and she doesn't like what she sees, just say fuck her. She obviously isn't the right one if thats the case.

 

[KaiRai]

For one, kudos for stepping outside of the "movie" thing with ballet and dinner!!!

Not what I would've gone for myself but well done on the originality. Just flirt with her a little, if she likes you, it's bound to kick off in an atmosphere

 

[ironlordthemad]

take her soul

i think he might be on to something here...

but in reality i would just go for what seems like the next step in the relationship, like a kiss, or something thats age appropriate...

baum chicka wap waum

just make sure you want to go through with it and make that commitment and make sure she agrees to it as well, just remember if she gets a restraining order, your doing it wrong...