A question for the Ladies

[Sacman]

Grow the hair, maybe into a standard hipster cut. I know it sucks, but I think it'd look good on you.

Cardio might be a good thing to work on.

Other than that, I recommend finding colors that match your skin tone and blah blah.

Sorry, that's all the advice I can muster. I only let Federico (my gay side) out for a few minutes at a time.

that's kinda hard because my hair grows into an afro.

don't grow your hair otherwise youll turn into a sandal, short shorts wearing hippie. long hair = bad. keep it clean cut. the last thing you need is a assumption you care for the earth and the trees. that kind of guy only attracts the worst kind of women. here's a tip, clear up your acne and make yourself look thinner. i am heavy as hell but i look skinny, try doing that. then again i am in the same boat as you.

I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...

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*hurls at picture*

jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?

that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...

yea but my problem isn't because of me. i don't talk to many people. the way things are right now doesn't allow it.

Yeah I don't talk to many people either, excluding close friends, but I guess that explains why I'm dating my cousin... but it's not like I haven't had a GF before...

Spoiler: short hair pics...

You're dating your cousin? That's sad and disturbing. You've done a bad thing and you should feel bad, and you have no right to criticize anyone else about anything in their life.

seriously it's that big of a deal? were like 5th cousins but I just refer to her as such cause I think it's kind of hot like a forbidden love type of thing...

Just because it's legal doesn't make it right.

who said it was legal?
[small]Yeah it's legal in California...[/small]

 

[TailstheHedgehog]

you're looking for women on the escapist? good luck pal, you'll need it.

*waves*

you're looking for women on the escapist? good luck pal, you'll need it.

Hello there.

i have a serious question for you ladies.
i'm 21 years old and i have never had a girlfriend.
i'm very socially active and i ask girls out.
but to no avail. so i need to ask if i'm attractive or not.
i really don't want anyone being jerks i need an honest opinion.
i ask my friends but i don't know if they're just being nice.

this pick is about 4-5 months old.
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs045.snc4/34590_1541745426490_1320598066_31541955_4389477_n.jpg

I'm demisexual, attractiveness means nothing to me so I can't answer accuratly..
I say you should get more attractive glasses though, try getting something for the spots and maybe try growing your hair long.

i took this picture with my camera like 5 min ago
http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn208/darktau21/P8280037.jpg

Yeah, you look much better in this picture than you did in the previous one. Longer hair, different glasses, and most importantly, natural light. Seriously, lighting can do wonders for a person.

You could still stand to lose a few pounds, and get into slightly better shape, but other than that, I'd say you're decent enough looking that getting a date shouldn't be the struggle that you're finding it to be.

well i have been working out and I've been losing a lot of weight. i used to be very fat and i've lost most of the fat. i went from being severally overweight to the fact that you can see my leg muscles and there's like only a inch of belly fat left.
the down side is that face fat is the hardest thing to get rid of.

if anyone knows a way to speed to the lose of face fat please speak up

Eat small portions. It's not always about excersice, or even what you eat. Smaller portions, everyday, coupled with some thirty minute walks pondering the meaning of life, and in a few months you'll be right as rain (try for thrity minutes everyday - perhaps join a gym if you haven't already?) =)

 

[Sacman]

Grow the hair, maybe into a standard hipster cut. I know it sucks, but I think it'd look good on you.

Cardio might be a good thing to work on.

Other than that, I recommend finding colors that match your skin tone and blah blah.

Sorry, that's all the advice I can muster. I only let Federico (my gay side) out for a few minutes at a time.

that's kinda hard because my hair grows into an afro.

don't grow your hair otherwise youll turn into a sandal, short shorts wearing hippie. long hair = bad. keep it clean cut. the last thing you need is a assumption you care for the earth and the trees. that kind of guy only attracts the worst kind of women. here's a tip, clear up your acne and make yourself look thinner. i am heavy as hell but i look skinny, try doing that. then again i am in the same boat as you.

I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...

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*hurls at picture*

jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?

that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...

yea but my problem isn't because of me. i don't talk to many people. the way things are right now doesn't allow it.

Yeah I don't talk to many people either, excluding close friends, but I guess that explains why I'm dating my cousin... but it's not like I haven't had a GF before...

Spoiler: short hair pics...

You're dating your cousin? That's sad and disturbing. You've done a bad thing and you should feel bad, and you have no right to criticize anyone else about anything in their life.

besides how is that sad and disturbing? we are 2 people who genuinely care about each other that should be all there is to it...

 

[SimuLord]

besides how is that sad and disturbing? we are 2 people who genuinely care about each other that should be all there is to it...

 

[NoNameMcgee]

Honest opinion:

Try to do something about the moles.

Lose a little weight.

Get some kind of basic hair style (a little gel can do wonders)

Get some better framed glasses or perhaps contacts if they look good on you (some people look better with nice glasses, they can even be stylish)

/bluntness

I don't know anything about your personality but you seem a nice enough guy. But changing the way you act around women and gaining a little confidence can also do wonders.

 

[Sacman]

besides how is that sad and disturbing? we are 2 people who genuinely care about each other that should be all there is to it...

This is what happens when cousin-cuddling is condoned, coddled, and kept kosher.

yes you posted this on my other threads too, but look at his family tree mine isn't that screwed up...

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[Sacman]

besides how is that sad and disturbing? we are 2 people who genuinely care about each other that should be all there is to it...

This is what happens when cousin-cuddling is condoned, coddled, and kept kosher.

besides studies have shown that once you hit the second cousin you might as well just pick up a random women at a bar for it makes little difference genetically..

 

[Zing]

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Myspace angle FTW!!!

Hate to break it to you, but you do look creepy as hell. Like I serial killer.

It's pretty hard to pull off long hair as a guy...I don't know anyone in real life who does.

 

[Sacman]

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Myspace angle FTW!!!

Hate to break it to you, but you do look creepy as hell. Like I serial killer.

It's pretty hard to pull off long hair as a guy...I don't know anyone in real life who does.

that's exactly the look I was going for just put on the hockey mask and bust out the axe and massive erection and it's complete...

 

[SimuLord]

besides how is that sad and disturbing? we are 2 people who genuinely care about each other that should be all there is to it...

This is what happens when cousin-cuddling is condoned, coddled, and kept kosher.

yes you posted this on my other threads too, but look at his family tree mine isn't that screwed up...

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"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one small step." - Buddha

 

[Mr Montmorency]

Let's not beat around the bush. You're overweight and you have an impressionable jew-fro coming in.

Therefore, you vaguely remind me of Seth Rogen in "Observe and Report".

Take this impression how you will, preferably with a grain of salt. It may interest you to know that many women find Seth Rogen "cute" in the way they would refer to a teddy bear as "cute".

You're a 21 year old virgin, so I think you need someone being blunt with you at this point. Personally, I'd prefer if people were blunt to begin with instead of letting you feel like you were fine all along and making you paranoid because you detected dishonesty.

 

[Sacman]

besides how is that sad and disturbing? we are 2 people who genuinely care about each other that should be all there is to it...

This is what happens when cousin-cuddling is condoned, coddled, and kept kosher.

yes you posted this on my other threads too, but look at his family tree mine isn't that screwed up...

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"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one small step." - Buddha

So what your saying a conservative and religious family would drop all previous moral values to start boning close relatives just because two of the least known relatives started dating? that's stupid...

 

[Zing]

I honestly do not think you look bad, but you could look better in my honest opinion. I think your friends are telling you the truth. However, I noticed you do not look quite as healthy as you could be. You don't have to be a body builder or a model, but a little more slim could do you some good, and even then you are healthier to boot. It's a win win situation. Even more then looks, I believe honest good people would on average like to be with someone who looks after themselves and takes responsibility of their lives, rather then the opposite.

If you do plan on losing weight though or changing your appearance, please do it for yourself at the core. Changing just to get a girlfriend is a big nono, because the chances of finding a girl based on someo0ne you are not increase every time you make a chance in your life or about yourself that you aren't primarily doing for yourself. You may even attract the wrong kind of girls this way, and that can be very bad. I wouldn't want that to happen to you.

I hope my post helped! Remember to always be yourself when you change, it's very, very important! ♥

This is good advice, don't change for someone else because things could change with that person. You should do it to improve yourself, but you can always use something else as motivation.

I can't really say anything that hasn't been said..you just have to lose weight and change/lose those glasses, and you can't really target a specific fat deposit sadly, weight loss doesn't work like that. It's like, picture your fat as a pool, every time you exercise and eat less/better it's like taking a giant bucket and dipping it in the pool and then dumping it. Weight comes off from every place at once, rather then one at a time.

Honestly, losing weight isn't that hard, you only need to put 30 minutes-45 minutes 4 days a week to it and you'll start getting fitter.

 

[SimuLord]

So what your saying a conservative and religious family would drop all previous moral values to start boning close relatives just because two of the least known relatives started dating? that's stupid...

I should be thanking you. No matter how out-there my fetishes may be, I take comfort in knowing I'm not the Escapist's biggest sexual deviant.

 

[Sacman]

So what your saying a conservative and religious family would drop all previous moral values to start boning close relatives just because two of the least known relatives started dating? that's stupid...

I should be thanking you. No matter how out-there my fetishes may be, I take comfort in knowing I'm not the Escapist's biggest sexual deviant.

yeah, uh, that's great for you... thumbs up I guess... let's just slip into petty insults *sarcasm*...

I still don't see what you tried to accomplished by this show of disapproval I've already taken enough piss from the other two threads that I made on this subject that I'm positive that you participated in by posting that same picture and using the same argument...

 

[drdamo]

It doesn't matter what you're trying to sell, its how you sell it.
Stop doubting yourself, stop making demands and expectations for the future, stop comparing your life with those of others and thus wanting another person's life; instead live your own life, show those arround you that you can enjoy life on your own, that you are confidant!

I know both physically unattractive people as well as model-material who are insecure about themselves and have the same problem.
You think it is because how you look or where your interests are, while it is because people see you doubt yourself!
You are your own worst enemy!

It took me 25 years to realize that you won't get anything if you feel crap about yourself.
It took me 1 year to be able to honestly say that i now can enjoy life and don't need anyone.
And from that point on it took me, and i'm not kidding, half a day to get the first girl and the second was already waiting in line.
And lets not talk about my current situation.

Ofcourse you could try and fix it brute force, by going to the gym and develop the shallow side of humanity and chances are you'll get exactly that in return, something that looks good and doesn't pose a mental challenge.

A friend of mine did so, believing that his weight was the problem.
He lost about 50 KG (from 130kg to 80kg) and looks much better if thats all you look at, yet he is an even worse miserable fck then before, stressed out, teeth partially rotten by lack of interest in brushing his teeth, a pessimistic view on the world and its getting worse by the day.
And he's still single.

 

[Cynical skeptic]

no it means that you don't care about looks but instead the persons emotions (the sex does not matter sometimes)

I'm just going to interject here real quick.

Please keep making up new labels for how you get off. If we get enough, eventually the entire concept of sexuality will merge into a perfectly uniform mess, where how you get off is completely irrelevant to everything.

 

[Sam Eskenazi]

My girlfriend had a look.

I'm afraid she didn't find you... very appealing.

My best advice is to get healthy! Maybe grow your hair out?

Not trying to be offensive; you asked for honesty.

 

[Roofstone]

You aint unattractive. You are actaully quite normal.

I would advise you ((from the look of your pictures, sorry if I am mistaken((really)) to wash your face each morning though. It can do wonders. =)

Good luck with the dating.

 

[PayneTrayne]

I've witnessed many worse looking people, I'm a dude but I'm sure the advice is solid. Cut pop (soda) from your diet, I did it, and I've slimmed down a bit (4 inches since December). Get your moles taken care of if you'd like to, otherwise find a femme that doesn't care. Grow your hair out, and of course, be funny as hell.

Also, it's alot of outlook. I looked like this (got a bit slimmer and grew some facial hair) and still have had a few girlfriends. [link]http://supressedauthority.deviantart.com/art/Brown-Derby-Jump-113784846[/link]