A question to women

[SidingWithTheEnemy]

This is a very funny thread.
My girlfriend has double (or triple) D cup and she told me I stared (rather creepily) at her breast at our first date. She was a little concerned but things went well nevertheless.
The funny thing is that I didn't even remember staring at her that way. It's not that I don't like to look at boobies or cleavage, but I must have subconciously stared at her breast (for too long) without even noticing.

 

[Dimitriov]

I certainly look, although I always try to be discreet. Sometimes though you see a girl that just seems to be able to short circuit your brain... I am pretty sure most guys have had one or two times where they suddenly discovered they had been staring without even realizing it.

Honestly, ladies sometimes it's not our fault! D:

Though I gotta admit I am more curious if the less well endowed girls are aware that they are being checked out. Any girl with a C cup or higher has to be aware she's gonna get looks, but do women with smaller breasts realize that lots of guys are still going to be taking a look?

Sorry if any of that sounds creepy ):

 

[morsus]

Oh, they know. And, if they complain, they're bullshit.

You chose
To expose

This x 1000.

Why do some of them (not all) complain about this? I mean seriously, us men are fairly primitive beasts in terms of things we want. So of course if you expose yourself this way, men will stare. It's a fact of life - get over it.

Quick glances are fine. As a woman who is attracted to women, I will agree that they are pretty much uncontrollable. Continued staring in the middle of a conversation, on the other hand, is more questionable.

This exactly, I don't mind glances particularly when I do have them exposed I suppose it's nice to feel attractive in that way. But in saying so I hate blatant staring thats really embarrassing especially when I don't have anything exposed and my boyfriend's father is the one looking. Awkward.

 

[Dimitriov]

I have to wonder how many guys know that a gay man is staring at their crotch and/or noticible muscle definition.

As a straight guy I have to say... I certainly hope so!

Although the way you phrased that it sounds like you mean all the time... As if I would be sitting at my computer and just happen to look behind me and there would some guy just standing in my room checking me out.

 

[Von Strimmer]

They notice guys. I'm pretty sure they notice... =/

Perfect proile picture for the situation methinks.

On topic who doesn't look? Seriously girls look, guys look you cant just repress your entire genetic purpose for being on this planet :/. I look, just very very very very very very very discreetly.

True!

Anyway, if they complain about it, you can just say something like "Hey, it's not my fault you're really, really, really, ridiculously good looking."

And then you give them the Blue Steel...

I like the blue steel idea. However I think if you came back with that response you would either get a stare so withering it would kill flowers, or the man mountain boyfriend would throw you through a wall. Not speaking from personal experience or anything...

Completely off-topic/shameful venting: Theres this girl I want to ask out but I am too timid for such a venture. Damn these mental roadblocks!

captcha: issue overnh... no the issue is not overnh

 

[Mimssy]

I notice all the time. I honestly find it funny. Sometimes I will call them out on it if only because watching my friends blush is kind of entertaining. As long as my friends don't stare, I don't usually mind it.

 

[kortin]

There actually has been research that shows women check men out more often than men check women out. Women just have better peripheral vision than men do. So they are able to look at men without men noticing, but men get caught all the time. Women also tend to notice the smaller things due to this better peripheral vision, so they see you when you glance down at their breasts and back up.

Women ALWAYS notice.

And the reasoning behind checking out someone is actually ingrained into humans. They do it to find out potential mates.

 

[Vault101]

(exposition, not really necessary, just my reason why i'm wondering)
i work in a liquor store, and today a girl came in with fairly large breasts with a noticable amount of cleavage exposed. as she walked past, every guy in there immediately looked at her eyes, but for just a second a piece, i watched their eyes glance down and back up. and this isn't the first time i've seen it happen either. and it had me wondering...


How often are women aware that men are looking at your breasts. Whether they're a good friend, or a random stranger, it seems every guy talking to any girl tries to steal a glance at the woman's chest.

do you know this is happening? how do you feel when it does?

im not very well endowed so I wouldnt know :/...I do get the impression somitmes people are nicer too me though, in certain situations

 

[A-D.]

Eh, personally i do take a quick glance towards the general chest area, also a little further down, you know, waistline. But thats about it, generally, most men and women that do look anywhere are at least not staring the whole time. I'd figure thats really irritating to People.

A Good idea is, focus on the lips when talking, for one, if the Girl, or Guy you are talking to has really nice Lips, it keeps your attention there instead of being diverted by the other assets. Eyes work as well for this. Of course, with sufficient distance you can see the chest anyway without needing to look down at all, so there's that too :3

Generally, i'd myself not notice if anyone really "checked me out" as it were, i wouldnt bother checking for it if they were anyway, unless they get very rude or "grabby" about it.

 

[peruvianskys]

well, as a guy who previously had a 15inch mohawk, i can say that i never really sought anyone's attention, i did it cause that's what i liked, and what i liked to look like. i, of course, knew that i'd then receive attention for it, which i took in stride, i can't be mad at people for noticing something that noticable. but honestly, it wasn't to seek attention. i would have been just as happy had nobody ever even paid it any mind, like it was just a normal everyday thing.

I agree with this. A lot of people have "weird" styles and they don't do it just to get attention, they do it because it looks nice to them. Women exposing cleavage are the same way, for the most part. I think most of them like to see themselves in the mirror and feel good or feel the approval of their peers. Most of my female friends say that they dress the way they do for other women more than men. I agree that it's weird when women dress incredibly provocatively and then complain when people stare, but often it's because they really don't want the approval of men nearly as much as they want to feel good about themselves; it's just that our sexual dynamic makes women feel best when they think men would be attracted to them.

 

[Lurklen]

I think it's like any distinguishing feature, a glance is fine even repeated glances are fine as long as they are subtle but stareing is rude. If I had a huge nose or a unibrow or a scar on my face it would be rude to stare but I couldn't blame people for being distracted.

And breasts are just distracting man, woman, straight, lesbian doesn't matter, you see a large pair of breasts it's distracting they stand out it's kind of one of their main jobs. You are going to get caught looking just be as polite as possible, apologize accept it's somewhat awkward and move on.

There was this one dude while I was working in customer service he was asking for help and my eyes just kept drifting up to his forehead. He had this huge black unibrow and it was so distracting I was having trouble helping him, I really couldn't help myself I didn't want to stare but it was almost uncontrollable. That was tough, I felt like such an ass.

 

[Zoe Castillo]

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[BoogieManFL]

Big knockers get attention from both genders. I've seen well endowed girls get eyeballed pretty good by girls many times. A girls who are into girls don't seen any different about them than guys. My brother worked with a lesbian who would sometimes say to him later things to the effect of "Did you see the rack on that one?!"

Big or small, guys check your pair out all the time girls, I promise you that. Most guys are nice enough to at least be discreet about it and look when they know they won't been seen doing so or do it quickly. To do so very obviously for an extended amount of time is rude though for sure. But we do it because we're genetically inclined to do so, so don't blame us for a quick glance.

To a point it's completely valid to say if the girl is wearing something that essentially puts them on display they should expect it, but to be decent.. Use moderation. I once got excessively eye raped by two gay guys at a theme park once and it gave me real perspective what it must be like for women to have guys rudely stare at them. Flattering at first, but after a certain point it's uncomfortable.

 

[BabyRaptor]

Oh, they know. And, if they complain, they're bullshit.

You chose
To expose

Careful with that logic there, bro. Yeah,

They chose
to expose,

But I have two points of order here. First:

Rhyming your points
makes you a douche

and second

If you're fucking creepy about it
you should feel lucky if she ONLY complains.

Thank you. Just because I chose to wear something revealing doesn't mean people have permission to be pigs about it. Look, but have some decency.

That said, yeah. I usually notice. But I'm another of those women who are "blessed" with a large chest...Pretty much whatever I wear is going to look like I'm trying for attention.

 

[LiberalSquirrel]

I notice when random people look at my chest, and I certainly notice if I'm distracting my male friends. It's gotten to be a running joke with a few: any lapse in conversation will be blamed on "being distracted by the boobs/bouncing/insert alternate synonym here."

I find it a bit flattering, to be honest. As long as it's a glance and not a prolonged lewd stare (which I have also been the recipient of), I'm fine with it (but the prolonged stares are just creepy and uncomfortable). I do double-take glances at cute, well-built guys. No reason I should be offended by the same idea with flipped genders.

 

[PrototypeC]

There is a difference between glancing and staring. I was reading an article in Psychology Today that said that women may be building up a psychological resistance to sexual harassment that isn't immediately threatening. I wasn't sure how to feel about that.

A lot of people have "weird" styles and they don't do it just to get attention, they do it because it looks nice to them. Women exposing cleavage are the same way, for the most part. I think most of them like to see themselves in the mirror and feel good or feel the approval of their peers. Most of my female friends say that they dress the way they do for other women more than men. I agree that it's weird when women dress incredibly provocatively and then complain when people stare, but often it's because they really don't want the approval of men nearly as much as they want to feel good about themselves; it's just that our sexual dynamic makes women feel best when they think men would be attracted to them.

This is what I hear, over and over. Sometimes a woman wants to be desired by men, sometimes they don't; but they want to feel good about what they wear, and how they look. It's not (usually) a conscious effort to attract YOU (yes you, reading this right now)!

 

[tirsden]

I'm 6'3", weigh in at about 160lbs (actually having issues keeping weight on but that's a whole other can of worms), and used to way 210-220. Guess which part of me didn't change much with all the weight loss? Yeah. I can wear the most boring t-shirt on earth with a typical not-exposing-anything-at-all collar, and I *will* get looks. It's the creepy ones that bug me, I've had guys look at me with "yum yum" kinda expressions and that's beyond rude. They don't know me, and shouldn't even begin to think they can give me what I want or that they would ever get anything other than the look they're giving me right at that moment.

Add to it this: the average guy walking down the street doesn't know that nature pretty much goofed and gave me the wrong gender. That adds a whole other layer of frustration over guys checking out my chest, even though I am attracted to men (and women somewhat, but again, I'm the wrong gender physically, so that confuses things). Oh, and I do wear dark glasses when outside at any time other than night (and sometimes even then) due to light sensitivity... so in theory I'd catch more than my fair share of guys looking since they can't tell where I'm looking, but for the most part I tone people out due to my own brain's social wiring issues. ^^;;

/essay

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

Another member of the "gifted" club, even if I went baggy sweatshirt or sweater, they are still going to be there. I know guys will look, its instinct, but don't be creepy about it

 

[kidwithxboxlive]

Oh, they know. And, if they complain, they're bullshit.

You chose
To expose

this. I know girls that are friends of mine saying things like 'OMG! Did you see that? he was looking at my tits! what a weirdo!'

At which point i say 'well if its like that, why do you show your tits like that in public?' Yeah, they don't respond to that very often...

 

[])rStrangelove]

When i see a girl exposing them on purpose i make a habbit of not paying attention at all.