A question to women

[axlryder]

A lot of people have "weird" styles and they don't do it just to get attention, they do it because it looks nice to them. Women exposing cleavage are the same way, for the most part. I think most of them like to see themselves in the mirror and feel good or feel the approval of their peers. Most of my female friends say that they dress the way they do for other women more than men. I agree that it's weird when women dress incredibly provocatively and then complain when people stare, but often it's because they really don't want the approval of men nearly as much as they want to feel good about themselves; it's just that our sexual dynamic makes women feel best when they think men would be attracted to them.

This is what I hear, over and over. Sometimes a woman wants to be desired by men, sometimes they don't; but they want to feel good about what they wear, and how they look. It's not (usually) a conscious effort to attract YOU (yes you, reading this right now)!

Yup. I've got big ones, and I don't think anyone looks anymore since I'm older and gravity is what it is, but when I was younger if I'd wear something revealing it was about me, not about my audience. Looking in the mirror and being confident and being happy to feel sexy and be happy about your own body. When guys stare-- I don't mean just glance, but STARE-- it breaks the fourth wall in a way, it makes you realize that some stranger has just taken that thing that's all about you being happy with you and made it about them. Then you want to hide in a tent and never come out, and that's an awful feeling. Don't, guys. Seriously, don't do this to someone else.

If that were the case, why even go out in the first place? If it was about YOU feeling comfortable with YOURSELF than there should be no reason to have an audience in the first place. Wear that skimpy top indoors. but that wouldn't be the same, would it? No, it's not about you, it's about other people acknowledging you, that you're sexy or attractive. You want them to praise you. I'm not going to be so presumptuous as to speculate why, but the extended stare really just breaks the illusion that you're doing something other than arousing a man's desire to copulate with you. to fulfill his desires. The sad thing is that a lot of guys don't WANT to feel this way. Many want to see you for the valuable person that you are, but those revealing tops were creating a barrier for them. Making it harder for them to see you as something other than a piece of meat. At least that's the way I viewed these girls in high school. It's kind of sad, really.

I just want to say this is all imo. I'm not claiming it to be fact.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Depends on how skilled the man is at his "craft"

Women know you will be looking so they pick it up very easily, you need to make sure you're extra careful, really not easy when those curves are right at your face and the brain is screaming "LOOK AT THEM"... but shades help alot.

 

[Radelaide]

I'm generally aware that my breasts are looking at everyone.

It does depend on what you're wearing. I decided I wanted to take the girls out last night and yeah, they got some attention.

We notice. We REALLY notice.
And as long as they don't keep staring, it's sort of flattering.

 

[MorphingDragon]

You know what sometimes works for me?

Just say you're depressed.

One of Two things will happen:

1) Oh Sweety, don't be. (More Boobage)
2) *Slap in the face*

 

[HardkorSB]

us men are fairly primitive beasts in terms of things we want.

As opposed to women who are oh so complex in those terms.
Women look just as much as men do but when they do it, men generally have a positive reaction to that. I actually get turned on sometimes when I notice a girl staring at my ass, especially when I find her attractive
When it's the other way around, some women act as if they're being assaulted for some reason.

 

[tthor]

Oh, they know. And, if they complain, they're bullshit.

You chose
To expose

This x 1000.

Why do some of them (not all) complain about this? I mean seriously, us men are fairly primitive beasts in terms of things we want. So of course if you expose yourself this way, men will stare. It's a fact of life - get over it.

especially the women who go really far, even putting glitter on their chest, and then giving a nasty glance at anyone who looks; woman, if you put shiny stuff on your chest, then its pretty obvious you're not trying to make them notice your pretty eyes >.>

 

[Aurgelmir]

Us men are designed to look at breasts. It is the first step in how babies are made...

 

[putowtin]

Oh, they know. And, if they complain, they're bullshit.

You chose
To expose

my breasts are big yet never what you would call exposed (I don't wear low cut tops or anything that shows off my cleavege) yet men still stare. Say what you want, men like boobs!

triple d

DD's

double (or triple) D .

double F, talk about a weight on your chest!

 

[tthor]

Big knockers get attention from both genders. I've seen well endowed girls get eyeballed pretty good by girls many times. A girls who are into girls don't seen any different about them than guys. My brother worked with a lesbian who would sometimes say to him later things to the effect of "Did you see the rack on that one?!"

xD all that reminds me is the time I was hanging out with a female friend of mine along with her family, and I had my nice camera out photographing stuff, and the girls mom points out a kinda slutily-dressed girl and says something to the effect of "oh, photograph her! she's hot ", and i think she honestly meant it.. lol

 

[Aurgelmir]

Can't say I notice all that often. Then again, my assets aren't exactly generous, so I get more stares at ass level than at chest level. I don't mind either way; glad to be nice to look at.

Return question: How often do you guys notice girls checking out your ass? And do you mind?

Never. I honestly can't say I think anyone does that But keep in mind, an ass is on the opposite side of my body from my eyes, so it is hard to know.

Where as a girl has eyes and breasts at the same side, so you are facing the "looker" when he looks

 

[Killertje]

I am rather well endowed so it really doesn't matter what I wear, people look. I've worn jumpers two sizes too big and people have looked. It doesn't bother me if it is a quick glance, I'll check out peoples physique but there have been a few occasions that have been just shocking.
One in particular, I was standing in the corridor waiting for a class to start and some complete stranger walks the entire length of the hall staring at my chest, he passed less than 30 cm by me and even turns his head back after he has passed. I didn't know whether to humiliate him or slug him one. I ended up just dumbly staring at the guy because I couldn't believe it. It was just really really creepy. Use some discretion please.

I'm in the same situation as you, no matter what I wear, well they're there. When I worked retail I had a lot of customers stare and I had to tell some of them that my face was higher up if they actually wanted to ask me for help.

Did any of them say: "Just browsing, thanks." by any chance?

 

[a.mitch]

Okay, this thread finally prompted me to register, after many weeks reading and laughing at some of you guy's weird ideas about women. There's some interesting ideas floating around about boobs and women in general.

To start off with: women usually dress to please themselves, or each other. Many times it has little to do with men. (Female make-up salespeople are a prime example.) So when you see someone wearing something revealing, it could be that:

Full-busted people look horrible in high necklines. Seriously, have you ever seen a well-endowed lady in a T-shirt, button-up or turtle-neck? Horrific. Not flattering at all.

Also, chesty women are often also heavier or more curvy in general, and use the low necklines to distract from parts of their bodies that they don't like so much, like curvy hips or thighs.

And to answer the OP's question, YMMV. Some women are more aware of it than others, some will like the attention and some will think you're a creeper. Some women are hyper-aware, to the point of seeing men checking them out everywhere, and yes, some women do seem to dress to seek out that attention. But whether they are or not, you might not want to make it blatantly obvious. I myself must plead guilty to some pretty obvious staring- as a former bra lady, some people's bra choices are upsetting and are worthy of checking out, in a train-wreck kind of way. And please, I beg you, stop trying to quantify women's cup sizes. You all suck at it, and saying things like "I only like flat/busty" women just makes you sound like you're trying to hide the opposite.

 

[Rawne1980]

Of course they bloody notice.

Some of us blokes aren't exactly subtle about it.

Just don't bloody stare. I know some women don't mind if you have a glance, some even like it, but they hate being stared at.

 

[Sphinx86]

Full-busted people look horrible in high necklines. Seriously, have you ever seen a well-endowed lady in a T-shirt, button-up or turtle-neck? Horrific. Not flattering at all.

I have to disagree.

We had an Admin start at work who would make some ...interesting choices about appropriate office attire. I still maintain the *most* distracting outfit she ever wore was also the most business appropriate. Button up top that went all the way to her neck and a calf length business skirt - it was the curves she had that filled it out which made it so distracting.

Though in some ways it may depend on what you consider 'full-busted' or 'well-endowed'.

 

[a.mitch]

If you can button it, you're not that well-endowed.

 

[Batou667]

To women who expose themselves and then blame men for looking... I found this cartoon which expresses my counterpoint more eloquently than words could express.

 

[FamoFunk]

Us Women *know* Men (and other ladies) will look, any Woman who say otherwise is lying.
Breasts are now a sex symbol, get them out, expect attention or looks.

 

[EmperorSubcutaneous]

1. I'm a AA.
2. I have never once noticed anyone staring.

 

[Batou667]

Full-busted people look horrible in high necklines. Seriously, have you ever seen a well-endowed lady in a T-shirt, button-up or turtle-neck? Horrific. Not flattering at all.

Whoa mama, have I seen evidence to the contrary.

I'd probably get instabanned for posting picture evidence (even though a woman wearing a turtle-neck sweater is by definition non-explicit), but for the curious...

Spoiler

Denise Milani. Google image search is your friend.

 

[Marmooset]

(exposition, not really necessary, just my reason why i'm wondering)
i work in a liquor store, and today a girl came in with fairly large breasts with a noticable amount of cleavage exposed. as she walked past, every guy in there immediately looked at her eyes, but for just a second a piece, i watched their eyes glance down and back up. and this isn't the first time i've seen it happen either. and it had me wondering...


How often are women aware that men are looking at your breasts. Whether they're a good friend, or a random stranger, it seems every guy talking to any girl tries to steal a glance at the woman's chest.

do you know this is happening? how do you feel when it does?

I'm sure someone's already pointed out the irony of the thread's title, and the stampede of guys who've rushed to answer?
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