Knight Captain Kerr said:
There are white Eastern European people in Ireland who would question your belief that they don't suffer from racism. Likewise, Irish people in 19th Century America would question the idea that they didn't suffer from racism. And it's not just white people, Japanese and Chinese people haven't always gotten along that well.
But in those contexts, the prejudice + power formula still applies.
OK, you got me, the "white people suffering from racism is a result of racism against blacks" statement is only true in a U.S.A. context, but the principle itself can be applied to many different societies.
For gender roles, there aren't any alternative non-patriarchal societies to talk about. If there would be a continent where women expressing political, economical, and cultural power over men has a thousand year tradition, then in that context, we could say that men are sexist against women.
What hardships men suffer, (more military casualties, more homelessness, etc.), are just as true in Iran as in Sweden, and in Ancient Rome as in Victorian England. They are not examples of some quirky reverse sexism, but fit tightly into different degrees and severities of a general attitude that could be described as a "patriarchy", and which Anita seems to equivocate with "sexism" in her own terminology here.
And the ones that DON'T fit into it, or go against it, for example saying that "men shouldn't be allowed to vote" are about as irrelevant on a social level as saying that "coffee drinkers shouldn't be allowed to vote". It might be a wrong thing, but so unrelated to real injustice that it's not really part of any meaningful "-ism".
Knight Captain Kerr said:
Now I understand what she's saying but I disagree with her. I'd define sexism as discrimination based on sex, it impacts men and women. Sexism as an institution also impacts men and women, men get certain benefits and disadvantages in society as do women. You could say overall men tend to be in a better position and yeah you'd be right, they are. But just because women have it worse than men doesn't mean the problems men suffer from aren't real. To say men can't suffer from sexism comes across as dismissive of the problems men face. Both are bad, both should be dealt with. Just because what women face is worse doesn't mean what men face isn't bad.
Even when sexism is not "institutional", it's still "social" enough that we treat all discussions of it as a matter of "social justice".
For those who care about the evils of social injustice, looking for an equivalence between individual hardships regardless of context, can come off as denying that such injustice itself exists too.
Not hiring someone because you don't like his eye colors, and not hiring someone because he is gay, are equally shitty personal level, but to simply say that "both are problems" can feel like denying the special problem of the latter.