Man crushes are fine. I've got man crushes on Tom Welling, Ian Somerhalder and a few other male actors I consider 'good'. Girls have girl crushes all the time so it's fine
Are Man-crushes normal?
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Same here, my definition for man-crush was that it goes beyond just looking up to another guy as a role-model or hero, but to the point where you just want to hang around them in the hopes some of their awesome rubs off on you.thiosk said:
I think so...
I kinda have a man-crush on Adam Johnson, a footballer who plays for Manchester City. Mainly because he's a good player really, hes not what I'd call good looking, I just admire him. And feel sad whenever he doesn't play.
But he also looks similar to Ian Curtis, so maybe that has something to do with it as well...
A couple of my mates have admitted "man crushes" as well, I think its less of a crush and more of an admiration to be honest.
I kinda have a man-crush on Adam Johnson, a footballer who plays for Manchester City. Mainly because he's a good player really, hes not what I'd call good looking, I just admire him. And feel sad whenever he doesn't play.
But he also looks similar to Ian Curtis, so maybe that has something to do with it as well...
A couple of my mates have admitted "man crushes" as well, I think its less of a crush and more of an admiration to be honest.
disregard all this religious bullshit and this strange modern age homophobia. There's around a 75% chance a male will fancy another male. same with a female.
people have been gay, or had feelings for someone of the same sex since the freaking human race began, it's not non-normal at all, it's something that can't be helped. So it should be encouraged a little more.
Trust me, homosexuals are totally chill, and natural. Just try to forget all this religious bull and cultural stuff that seems to resent this. Homosexuality is natural, and normal. Even if you think you're straight, you are still susceptible.
people have been gay, or had feelings for someone of the same sex since the freaking human race began, it's not non-normal at all, it's something that can't be helped. So it should be encouraged a little more.
Trust me, homosexuals are totally chill, and natural. Just try to forget all this religious bull and cultural stuff that seems to resent this. Homosexuality is natural, and normal. Even if you think you're straight, you are still susceptible.
Thank you for providing this opportunity. This particular phenomenon has been getting on my nerves for quite some time. It's clear that you have had, as you say, romantic or sexual feelings for people of the same gender - and male bisexuality is the one sexual orientation whose numbers will always be understated. You can call it what you like; it's not my intention to "label" you. It's just a definition that provides clarity. You sometimes like dudes. Is that normal? First answer: who fucking cares? Embrace who you are and enjoy being you. Second answer: it's more "normal" than touching kids or molesting cats, it's more normal than most of the BDSM things that quite a few "straight" (hur hur) people do, all of the incest role play and mock rape scenarios out there. Beyond that, as much as I hate to be a sideline deconstructionist, just what in the Hell is normal? Five minutes fucking a woman and leaving her unsatisfied before falling asleep dreaming of a sandwich and a better life? Vanilla sex?theninjagecko said:
That's not the part that really annoys me. Since we can accept anyone as long as we can pigeonhole them, we have to mock everything by calling it gay (because, you know, that's an insult and all). I have a joke that I like to tell:
"Everything's homoerotic now, huh? Sam and Frodo marching up the path to Mount Doom, that's homoerotic. Look, here's two professional wrestlers piledriving each other in their underwear - that's homoerotic. Look, two gay guys sucking each other off, that's homoerotic! I'm sick of it!"
When you hear someone say man-crush in the course of normal, colloquial conversation, they aren't talking about a romantic or sexual crush but a fascination with or admiration for another man. The reason why they make damned sure it has those homoerotic overtones is because they want to say it without saying it. Man, woman, transgendered persons, there is a dark force that exists somewhere in the collective consciousness that wants us all to be passive agressive, cynical, hateful sissies who can't stand up and insult someone like an adult. So we have to call someone queer without calling them queer (again, because that is of course a huge insult). I admire Danny Carey because he plays the drums probably better than I ever will. I admire Christopher Nolan because his films transcend my expectations. Penis has nothing to do with the equation. All of these idiots who think I have a man crush on Jason Segal need to just say it: "I think you're a little gay, and as worthless sissy and deplorable homophobe I don't know how to express that in a sincere way."
...and that's why washed-up beauty queens are running for President.
I would have gone into detail with her, if only to unsettle your parents AND make her look like a fool for trying to force shame on you.
My man-crush is Cillian Murphy, for obvious reasons.
My man-crush is Cillian Murphy, for obvious reasons.
He is a sexy, sexy manDr Snakeman said:
Him and Justin Timberlake....
Considering I'm a bit of a rock man myself it's a little odd, but I'm comfortable enough to be able to see a guy as sexy, which has been viewed with some degree of oddness by female friends.
But yeah, completely normal
I think the answer is an unequivocal yes. Just look at Bridget. LOOK AT HIM.
However. I don't think i personally can say i've had a "man-crush". Actually, i don't really understand how man can be seen as sexual full stop - i'm male but i'm actually a little bit misandryist. I don't like men, i don't find anything about the male physique or even general male culture to be remotely attractive or enticing.
Though like others have said, it depends on what you mean by "man crush". Do you mean in finding someone of the same sex to be sexually attractive? (See TvTropes: BiTheWay) Or do you mean being able to find someone of the same sex romantically appealing even if you are not sexually compatible?
I tend to have the theory that anyone can fall in love with anyone else, regardless of genders / orientations. Or at least have very strong feelings for. Love is a difficult notion to define since it can be used in so many different contexts. I'm guessing though by your original post that you mean the former. I guess appreciation of the same sex for one or two specific individuals may be classified as "normal" (some psychologists and whatnot believe we're all bisexual to some degree) but you sound outright bi to me since you've gone and experimented. Most hetero guys would likely find the idea repulsive, no matter how burly they thought Russel Crowe or whoever looked. However if the "man-crush" in question was very feminine looking / behaviour, they might not be so disgusted. But then i would question whether it would really be considered a "man crush" if the guy is basically a girl with no tits and a tackle.
I would say your girlfriend is somewhat homophobic OP. Actually it's something i've seen before to a worrying degree. Women seem to think homosexuals are "inferior", or they feel insecure if they think their boyfriend / husband / lover has homosexual tendencies because they feel it is some failure on their part. I think that might be why your girlfriend lashed out in such a passive-aggressive manner. Though to be fair i think men probably have that problem as well if their girlfriend leaves them for another woman or they announce they're bi; the boyfriend might get insecure in his ability to please her and might think he will "turn her gay", just as a woman may think she is so sexually inadequate that the man can only seek pleasure from another man.
DISCLAIMER: Please don't gather the angry mob, these are just my thoughts and theories! I am in NO WAY an expert on sexuality and sociology, nor do i claim to speak for everyone or be able to read their minds!
However. I don't think i personally can say i've had a "man-crush". Actually, i don't really understand how man can be seen as sexual full stop - i'm male but i'm actually a little bit misandryist. I don't like men, i don't find anything about the male physique or even general male culture to be remotely attractive or enticing.
Though like others have said, it depends on what you mean by "man crush". Do you mean in finding someone of the same sex to be sexually attractive? (See TvTropes: BiTheWay) Or do you mean being able to find someone of the same sex romantically appealing even if you are not sexually compatible?
I tend to have the theory that anyone can fall in love with anyone else, regardless of genders / orientations. Or at least have very strong feelings for. Love is a difficult notion to define since it can be used in so many different contexts. I'm guessing though by your original post that you mean the former. I guess appreciation of the same sex for one or two specific individuals may be classified as "normal" (some psychologists and whatnot believe we're all bisexual to some degree) but you sound outright bi to me since you've gone and experimented. Most hetero guys would likely find the idea repulsive, no matter how burly they thought Russel Crowe or whoever looked. However if the "man-crush" in question was very feminine looking / behaviour, they might not be so disgusted. But then i would question whether it would really be considered a "man crush" if the guy is basically a girl with no tits and a tackle.
I would say your girlfriend is somewhat homophobic OP. Actually it's something i've seen before to a worrying degree. Women seem to think homosexuals are "inferior", or they feel insecure if they think their boyfriend / husband / lover has homosexual tendencies because they feel it is some failure on their part. I think that might be why your girlfriend lashed out in such a passive-aggressive manner. Though to be fair i think men probably have that problem as well if their girlfriend leaves them for another woman or they announce they're bi; the boyfriend might get insecure in his ability to please her and might think he will "turn her gay", just as a woman may think she is so sexually inadequate that the man can only seek pleasure from another man.
DISCLAIMER: Please don't gather the angry mob, these are just my thoughts and theories! I am in NO WAY an expert on sexuality and sociology, nor do i claim to speak for everyone or be able to read their minds!
err, you ask a intriguing question. i think its ok, although i've never experienced that. how do you mean "experiment"? i've drunkenly kissed my mate (a bloke) but thats it. i think more than a kiss is probably gay.theninjagecko said:
that said if you don't feel any need to do it again, or any inclination to stop doing things with girls, i wouldn't say its gay.
You know, I was basically going to say everything this fine gent just did.Catchy Slogan said:
The lack of respect and the horrifically narrow minded trait that displays isn't something you should accept in a partner. And in front of your parents?!?
I'd tear that ***** a new asshole. Good. Grief.
But hey, you know your own business best, man. In any case, I suggest you enjoy Adam Jensen's crazy dancing.
Everyone thinks that the person they're attracted to is attractive to everyone else.hooksashands said:
"I think Karen O is a sex goddess, for obvious reasons."
No, not really, though I do worship at the alter of Karen O.
I mean, I guess I get it. Cillian Murphy is a Helluvah character actor, and he did play Scarecrow, so that's kind of cool. At the height of his career and popularity women really dug Nicolas Cage, and he's certifiably ugly.
Then again, I shouldn't claim to have taste in male beauty. I still think all of the guys from Twilight look like douchebags, so what do I know?
"I happen to think a man looks nice with good hair in a ponytail, but no, I'm not gay" -Robert Freeman
Thinking someone looks good or having experimented to in the past and ended up not liking it does not necessarily make you bisexual. It is incidental so you can keep calling your self straight. In the end you just do what feels natural and not worry about what is right.
Thinking someone looks good or having experimented to in the past and ended up not liking it does not necessarily make you bisexual. It is incidental so you can keep calling your self straight. In the end you just do what feels natural and not worry about what is right.
I realize beauty is a subjective principle, you don't need to assume everyone is stupid.funguy2121 said:
Not only are they normal... they're essential!!!
I got man-crush on Ted Price - head honcho at Insomniac.
I got man-crush on Ted Price - head honcho at Insomniac.
To be completely honest I thought I did then I watched some porn and that straightened me out (pun intended)
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I've collected three very sensible answers from my reading of this thread...Thedek said:
There ya go.
Everybody has some thoughts sometimes, but few people would act on them.
I honestly think its a bit odd to discuss it, especially with your girlfriend, but that may just be my personal experience.
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I think it's normal, I've had a man crush with myself for a long time now, but it's been ruined by this stupid scar I have from yesterday, I accidentally burned my eye and it left a scar that makes it look like I have makeup on my eye, how horrible my beautiful face is ruined D:
