Are Man-crushes normal?

[McMullen]

Your experimentation is, in my opinion, quite normal. At the very least, it is far less bizarre than your girlfriend's behavior. I know I don't know anything else about her but I still can confidently say that she is a ***** and you should dump her. Worthwhile, decent people don't do what she did, and it'll only get worse.

 

[Saltyk]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
Kinsey Scale, dude, you sound like a one or two, I consider myself gay at five, so there's that. Not a big deal unless you make it one, or society does, which it often does...

I'm probably a zero on that scale.

Anyway, I don't think there is anything wrong with man-crushes. Or anything wrong with being sexually attracted to men for that matter. I think everyone has at least at some point wondered about that part of themselves. So, whether it's introspection, experimentation, or outright having sex with men exclusive or otherwise, why would it be wrong?

Your girlfriend sounds like my mom. "Hey, mom, do you wanna meet this girl that I have been having sex with (or at least trying to)?" "Why sure. Do you wanna hear about the time my son went trick or treating as..." "Well, it was fun, mom. Now, I have to go repair the damage that you just did to my sexual prospects." Yeah, my mother is fun.

 

[jacilon]

I can only be gay for fictional characters. You should hint about a secret and dont tell her about it for payback.

 

[CODE-D]

Now, to clarify, this is not synonymous with 'Are gays/homophobes all evil?' This is about a straight man (or even woman) having one or more romantic crush/es on members of the same sex.

Its okay in that its gay. If its romantic/love and same sex its gay but its okay if your slightly gay, your choice man.

 

[CODE-D]

Sure, but it certainly isn't a gay thing. I have a man-crush on Jude Law in the way that I want to be him.

Sounds less like a crush and more like you wanna kill and replace him ala single white female ...duh...duh. duuuuuhhh...

 

[Naix99]

I turned couple str8 people myself. I showed them the way.

Come get some8)

 

[SonicKaos]

I have a man crush on the Old Spice Guy. He's just too awesome.

 

[trollnystan]

Man-crushes and the like are utterly normal. I think it's adorable myself. My brother-in-law has a bit of a man-crush on Daniel Craig for instance; so cute!

 

[Wushu Panda]

Now, to clarify, this is not synonymous with 'Are gays/homophobes all evil?' This is about a straight man (or even woman) having one or more romantic crush/es on members of the same sex.

I mentioned once to my girlfriend that I had little crushes on a friend I have, (the young) John Lennon, and John Barrowman's coat. I also once... Experimented with a bloke I know. I am neither ashamed nor proud of that moment, and we are still friends, so as far as I can say, it was just 'an experience.' One that changed my 'interested in' on Facebook for precisely three months.
Anyway, my girlfriend brought this up (with a small amount of disgust, and sparing no details) in a conversation with my parents. Not to ramble about my own life, but I wish she'd take a hint sometimes.

Anyway, I publicly announced all that just to ask a very broad question; was I really all that weird? Or was my girlfriend blowing it all out of proportion?

nah, its not weird. a mancrush means in no way that you are homosexual, its just an idolization/affection from one straight man to another. Bromance is a beautiful thing.

 

[Nouw]

I believe I speak for every guy in this thread when I say "Nathan Fillion is one of the sexiest men alive."

 

[WolfThomas]

Pretty normal. As much as I love the womenfolk, I've had a few man-crushs, never acted on them. Don't really regret not doing anything, but also it probably wouldn't stop me acting on them in the future if the feeling was reciprocal.

 

[BabyRaptor]

No, you're not weird. You're just curious. Safe sexual exploration is healthy, despite what certain religions would like to dictate.

Also, no offense, but your girlfriend needs a smack across the face and more than a few lessons in tact.

 

[Dogstile]

Your girlfriend is a fool.

It's probably more like hero worship and not really sexual in nature at all, people anymore seem to have forgotten that admiration doesn't have to mean "I want to fuck this person."

And I would totally fuck Liam Neeson. I don't care how weird it would be, I would do it. So its normal.

Wait, is this like a dude so awesome that even as a straight guy you know if you were to say, suddenly wake up female tomorrow you would totally do them kind of thing? As I have a few of those.

Yeah pretty much. That's about the gist of it. It helps that he is a BRILLIANT actor.

 

[funguy2121]

I would have gone into detail with her, if only to unsettle your parents AND make her look like a fool for trying to force shame on you.

My man-crush is Cillian Murphy, for obvious reasons.

Everyone thinks that the person they're attracted to is attractive to everyone else.

"I think Karen O is a sex goddess, for obvious reasons."

No, not really, though I do worship at the alter of Karen O.

I mean, I guess I get it. Cillian Murphy is a Helluvah character actor, and he did play Scarecrow, so that's kind of cool. At the height of his career and popularity women really dug Nicolas Cage, and he's certifiably ugly.

Then again, I shouldn't claim to have taste in male beauty. I still think all of the guys from Twilight look like douchebags, so what do I know?

I realize beauty is a subjective principle, you don't need to assume everyone is stupid.

Corrected, and reported for misquoting, which is a violation of policy. Try not to be rude. The point that I thought I made very clear was: why Cillian Murphy, for obvious reasons? Apparently not so obvious, 'cos I don't see it. I even very clearly stated that I don't know what I'm talking about when it comes to this sort of thing, and for that, you claim that I'm condescending. I'd like to see where you connect those dots.

 

[Bocaj2000]

It's not weird at all. I would actually call it part of being straight. Denying that any man (or woman) is attractive is unnatural and homophobic.

For example, I have a man crush on Thomas Giles.

 

[Alandoril]

No, of course there's nothing strange about those feelings. This is the 21st-century, and hell same sex attraction has existed since probably the dawn of the civilised world (if not before even then.)

To be honest I find it odd that people willingly restrict themselves to relationships with a single gender. As far as I'm concerned if the feelings are there then run with them, there's nothing wrong with it.

 

[Furious Styles]

Man crushes are fine, I've got one on George Clooney. He's just so cool! Its more that I admire his abilities and the way he carries himself than anything sexual, which is probably true of most guys and their man crushes.

Oh, and Jeff Buckley. Again, its probably more his singing voice than anything, but still.

That they're both fine looking fellas doesn't hurt either, though

edit: once, during a particularly drunken game of spin the bottle, me and another guy did kiss. It wasn't open mouthed, but it still most definitely was not for me. That's all the experimentation I'll ever need, seriously.