Are Man-crushes normal?

[BehattedWanderer]

It's a man crush, man. Much like a hetero crush, a man crush happens when you see desirable qualities and traits in another individual, and either want to be close to them because you find them admirable traits, or like them as a person enough to move past such binary concepts of homo versus hetero. In truth, sexuality fits on scale, called the Kinsey Scale [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale]. Looking at it like that, where there are ranges, makes much more sense. So no, you're not abnormal, or some kind of freak, but well among the populous. Most people fit somewhere in the middle.

Oh, please. Of course they're normal. I firmly believe that everyone at least has a crush on Neil Patrick Harris.

I see your NPH, and raise you a Jason Segel.

 

[bobbob88]

I have two words for you- Nathan Fillion.

Don't deny it.

Neil Patrick Harris as doctor horrible and Nathan Fillion as Captain Hammer.
but in all seriousness its totally fine. i have "experiment" with my one friend too and i feel it was pretty healthy. I hate when people claim pan/bi sexual people are like, faking.... but that's wholly another topic.

 

[Robert Ewing]

None of my man crushes are fictional "Sephiroth. Yep."

I guess it's just context, I live in one of the gay capitals of the world so I'm bound to know about homosexuality, which is why I don't understand other people's spite and hate for homosexuals. If she's being "homophobic" (wrong word but everyone uses it like this) then she's in the wrong, if it was done during the relationship and could be considered cheating then she's right. If the girl did this to me I'd have chucked her out of my house and told her to go fuck herself.

Butt sex. It's as simple as that.

disregard all this religious bullshit and this strange modern age homophobia. There's around a 75% chance a male will fancy another male. same with a female.

people have been gay, or had feelings for someone of the same sex since the freaking human race began, it's not non-normal at all, it's something that can't be helped. So it should be encouraged a little more.

Trust me, homosexuals are totally chill, and natural. Just try to forget all this religious bull and cultural stuff that seems to resent this. Homosexuality is natural, and normal. Even if you think you're straight, you are still susceptible.

There's also a 75% chance that your neighbor fancies horses, but you don't condone that do you?

Interspecies relations is slightly different from same-sex relations. Wouldn't you say?

I'd also say that interspecies relations is natural, but I don't condone it.

 

[OldNewNewOld]

There is a difference between being gay for 1 man and being gay.
I would say that the first one can't even be considered being bi, not to speak about gay.

It's perfectly normal and has nothing to do with sexuality.

And on the other hand, being gay is perfectly normal, so even if it has something to do with sexuality, it's still normal. lol

That is just my humble opinion.

 

[LikeDustInTheWind]

Nah, most guys who are comfortable with their sexuality have had one or two over the course of their life (at least in my experience).

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

So what? It sounds like your girlfriend is just over-exaggerating, and isn't the finest trimmed bush in the Butchart Gardens. So many people are just not used to such things because they grew up with different values.

But to the question at hand; Are Man Crush's Normal? I think they are, and think they are not. It all depends on the rational thinking of the individual at hand. People who are against such things would of course say 'no', but than people who are not for either side would say "So the fuck what?". It all really depends on you, and asking random strangers on the net won't really give you a straight answer until you give the answer yourself.

 

[Defenestra]

Normal's a concept I have trouble with, but I don't think that man-crushes mean there's anything wrong with you.

But if your fantasies consistently include kissing the likes of John Barrowman, NPH, or David Bowie, you should probably accept that you are not entirely straight.

Oh, and if your girlfriend shows a platant disrespect for you and/or your privacy? I can't just out and tell you to break up with her, but it's not what I'd call a sure sign of a relationship destined to endure.

 

[The Random One]

Not having man crushes is not normal.

 

[Rin Little]

Your girlfriend sounds like a world-class ***** dude. There's nothing wrong with a little experimentation or having thoughts like that. My one girl friend is completely straight and even she admitted having a crush on one of her girl friends during high school.

 

[Rusman]

You'll get bias from me as I'm Bi but here my two cents anyway, they are totally fine. I know plenty of self-proclaimed straight guys that can admit that X is an attractive man.
Incidentally a few man-crushes got me out of my own closet, it's just that my man-crush was on my gay best friend in high school.

EDIT: As some people have mentioned their own man-crush I'll chuck mine in, Joel McHale (from Community and other stuff) and Josh Holloway (from LOST... and other stuff.) Both of them seem to take their tops off a fair bit too... Can't complain!

 

[FilipJPhry]

Well, if it's a sexual attraction, then it would mean you're bisexual. Nothing to be ashamed of. Probably.

 

[EeveeElectro]

THY BURN IN HELL, ******!11!!1!

Seriously though, your girlfriend doesn't sound very nice...
There's a bunch of lovely ladies I'd love to get my hands on and I'm straight. Nothing to be ashamed of, especially if you're a similar age to me you're just like "I don't care if it has a penis or a vagina, GIMMIE!"

And, don't be ashamed about experimenting. Heck, if you're young you probably should (but stay safe) I have and nothing came of it.

 

[dogenzakaminion]

Totally normal. End of story.

I actually want to try with a guy. Don't want to date one, don't actually find guys that attractive (other than from a "the human body is great" way) and wouldn't consider myself gay. I don't really need a label.

 

[Dags90]

I've never experienced the reverse, but so what. It's not like you killed someone, chopped off the hands and teeth, and disposed the body in the cranberry bog by your nana's.

Also, purposefully "outing" someone is so gross.

 

[The Night Shade]

Normal and most times man crushes aren't related to sexuality at all most men like other men because of the way they are

 

[Dogstile]

Your girlfriend is a fool.

It's probably more like hero worship and not really sexual in nature at all, people anymore seem to have forgotten that admiration doesn't have to mean "I want to fuck this person."

And I would totally fuck Liam Neeson. I don't care how weird it would be, I would do it. So its normal.

 

[Fiad]

Not in the slightest. I remember reading somewhere that most males have a sexual experience with another male before they do with a female. Nothing odd really.

As for Barrowman, he is a damn sexy man.

 

[McMullen]

Your experimentation is, in my opinion, quite normal. At the very least, it is far less bizarre than your girlfriend's behavior. I know I don't know anything else about her but I still can confidently say that she is a ***** and you should dump her. Worthwhile, decent people don't do what she did, and it'll only get worse.

 

[Saltyk]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
Kinsey Scale, dude, you sound like a one or two, I consider myself gay at five, so there's that. Not a big deal unless you make it one, or society does, which it often does...

I'm probably a zero on that scale.

Anyway, I don't think there is anything wrong with man-crushes. Or anything wrong with being sexually attracted to men for that matter. I think everyone has at least at some point wondered about that part of themselves. So, whether it's introspection, experimentation, or outright having sex with men exclusive or otherwise, why would it be wrong?

Your girlfriend sounds like my mom. "Hey, mom, do you wanna meet this girl that I have been having sex with (or at least trying to)?" "Why sure. Do you wanna hear about the time my son went trick or treating as..." "Well, it was fun, mom. Now, I have to go repair the damage that you just did to my sexual prospects." Yeah, my mother is fun.

 

[jacilon]

I can only be gay for fictional characters. You should hint about a secret and dont tell her about it for payback.