PhiMed said:
Also: OP, could you please tell me an instance of a man falsely accusing a woman of rape? I know you've already stated that "the statistics are higher the other way", but I don't ever recall reading a single story like that.
Wutaiflea said:
I haven't heard of it either, but I think that's mostly due to societal issues.
The vast majority of rapes and sexual assaults on men go unreported, and even less go to court. Many men wrongly feel ashamed of admitting to abuse, even if its violent, and as such, I think even less men would be willing to take a woman to court- that background would make it hard for someone to make a false claim.
I have heard of men making false claims of spousal abuse though, as real cases become more common, so perhaps one day, we will hear about it.
False rape claims are abhorrent, and undermine genuine victims.
I can't find numbers, mostly because Google keeps "correcting" my searches, but its pretty much what Wutaiflea said (awesome name, BTW). Very few male victim rapes are reported, due to social norms and stigmas, which I feel is really the major issue at play in sexual assault of all kinds, especially rape and false rape cases. My point was more men can also be victims and perpetrators on both sides of the equation, and that it makes no sense to think that it can't (and most likely hasn't) gone both ways.
On that subject...
The drawing of lines about who is/isn't "always" at fault for one kind of injustice just perpetuates it, when in reality we should be teaching social skills and self-esteem rather than alcohol and drugs at parties is how sex "should" or "just does" occur. Plus how
everyone, not just women, should know being really drunk or high increases the likelihood of any crime (rape, mugging, racial violence, gender violence) happening due to lowered inhibitions (the reason most people drink or whatever in those situations) and lowered ability to control your body (reflexes, cognition, what most people have been referring to as "common sense," etc.).
The attitudes about both sexes just need to change. Women dressed "like they want it" doesn't mean they do. The idea someone finds you sexy or appealing as a sex partner is often enough, and "being led on" or "cock-teased" doesn't give a man the right to even tell her off for feeling led on by her wardrobe, let alone molest or rape her. And men aren't just animals that can't control themselves. This idea their penises are some separate entity is ridiculous and not all men are going to cheat or be unable to control their dicks. Telling them they didn't know better is just giving them a pass because no one wants to hold them responsible. Gender equality means equal responsibility, not "it's his/her fault!"
Yes, there will be men who drop roofies or wait til the girl is too drunk to tell him from the door and women who cry rape because they don't want the social repercussions of their actions, but
both of them are breaking the law! Plus, there will always be assholes, regardless or gender/sex/race/religion/political affiliation, and they're just that - assholes. Just pick up and walk away from them, no sense dealing with them, you just get stressed and they enjoy it.