lol i agree with everything you have been saying so far omg lol we both have basically said the same thing but you was less harshRevolutionaryloser said:Well, obviously if you aren't one to boast about what a nice guy you are none of this criticism or the criticism you responded to prior is directed at you. We're discussing specifically the sort of sleazy guys that hang around women, bending to all their whims and when it turns out the girl has no interest in them, the first thing they moan about is that they can't understand why they aren't loved seeing as they're such a nice guy. Trust me those guys are everywhere. To me at least, people who spend all day banging on about how nice they are are a bit like if I went around telling people I'm not racist for no apparent reason and acting all smug about it. So what? There's absolutely nothing commendable about that; it's not an achievement. What's more, it's just plain arrogant to go around boasting about your qualities, especially if it's something that's inherently humble like "being nice". The fact that somebody goes around being so hypocritical with absolutely no sense of irony like that is in itself kind of disturbing. It says a lot about that person that they have practically no self awareness, something most people develop during infancy.Cyfu said:I don't really know how to answer this, but i will try.Revolutionaryloser said:I can't say how you can be offended. You go around labelling yourself and then you are surprised when others think it's ok to label you themselves. If you have nothing else to take pride in than the fact you are a "nice guy" by your own admission and feel the need to point it out to your friends then you shouldn't be surprised you aren't as interesting to people as you'd wish. Being nice isn't a virtue, it's a minimum requirement of human decency.Cyfu said:could you generalize any more than that?
I for one am offended, I consider myself a "Nice-guy" and i am neither a push-over, cornball nor creepy. I may not be the most attractive guy in the universe and i may be a bit socially awkward. but to say that everyone who are a "nice guy" is a creep, is idiotic. it's like saying every beautiful woman is a ***** and is stupid and self-centered.
To clarify, I do not feel entitled to a relationship just because i was nice to them. and those who think that should not be considered or consider them selves as "nice guys" but be considered as douchebags.
Please. I don't want to be rude but you can aspire to a bit more than being nice.
you assume that i go around telling everyone that how nice a guy I am. and that i think that being nice, as you said , is a virtue.
yes, I pride myself in being a nice guy. but this is the first time in my entire life I have labeled myself as a nice guy. I don't expect anyone to behave in any other way than this. because like you said it's the minimum requirement of human decency. but when someone says that behaving according to human decency is a sign of being bigger ass or creep than people who are behaving below the minimum requirement of human decency is, in my opinion, a pretty good reason to be offended.
as a woman im tired of hearing "nice guys" compalin about rejection aas a man getting rejected is apart of life and is something your going to have to learn how to deal with either that or make yourself into the type of man that gets approached by women so you can reject them isntead of them rejecting you