Sailor Jupiter Woman
- Jun 10, 2011
I guess things need to develop at the pace you both feel ready for, and it may be hard to gauge what the other persons speed is. Me, I get a feel for what someone is like quite quickly, and as such I've only been in two relationships, one I am still in and the other that lasted two years.Sarge034 said:Now this is interesting. Most women I know expect men to go at their normally slower pace, but when a man wants to have a leisurely pre-dating get to know each other friendship it is suddenly too slow. Women will even stop the relationship from making any forward progress under the guise of "moving too fast" just to get a better feel for the guy, but I had better try no such thing!Phasmal said:Well, sadly, you can't really test-drive girlfriends. Relationships obviously don't always work out and usually you are gonna need to experience a few shit ones before you find the right one. Sometimes you just have to go for it, even if it might not work out.
Yeah, it sucks you can't always tell if someone's going to be mental without finding out first hand. But that is sadly just life. My previous boyfriend was fine for a while then turned out to be balls-to-the-walls mental. Even if we had stayed friends forever I probably still wouldn't have seen his bad side until we went out.
Now don't get me wrong I have had some bad relationships and I have had some good ones. So I know the ropes, it just seems that in my age bracket more and more women are doing this stuff. So it might be an early to mid-20's thing... I don't know.
But what I meant was, there are certain things you can only learn about a person through dating them. If my ex had said from the start `I think its okay to dictate to my girlfriend what she can and cannot wear and who she can talk to and other such mindfuckery`, I would have avoided him like the freaking plague.