Cheating, a dealbreaker?

[Colour Scientist]

If you discovered you partner had cheated on you, I mainly mean physical but emotional can be included, how would you react? Would it mean that you would automatically end the relationship or would you try to find a way to continue together?

Also, have you ever been cheated on or have you been the one who strayed?

Personally, I would never be able to commit to someone who I knew had cheated on me. I could possibly forgive but I would never be able to trust the person nor would I believe that they truly wanted to be involved in the relationship.

 

[lewism247]

If anyone cheated on me they'd be out the door as soon as possible, the relationship clearly didn't mean very much if they went behind my back. Fuck 'em, they should have thought about it before if they still wanted to be with me.

Oh and I haven't cheated or been cheated on.

 

[Joel Soh]

I can't be sure but I think I'd react by distancing myself from the other person. In my eyes, they're a traitor.

I'd try and find a way, but I think it'd end sooner or later.

 

[Valksy]

If they cheat, we are done. Simple as that. Without trust, what is the point?

Oh, and I really don't believe that cheaters ever change.

 

[Devil's Due]

I've been cheated on in the past and forgave her, but only a few months later she did it again, shattering my heart severely after being with her for over a year happily until these events happened. After that, I am paranoid in relationships, which honestly saddens me that my trusting has seriously dropped pretty low after such a bad experience. Now I cannot even imagine staying in a relationship should I be cheated on physically or even emotionally.

Been cheated on? Yes, twice. One who strayed? Yes, sadly. My current love has forgiven me for it, but I'm still confused as to why she has, even though I made it clear to her I'd feel no anger towards her if she left me for my stupidity, but she still stayed. (I honestly think she just doesn't want to go out alone and find someone again, as I can tell from lately that she's not happy in the relationship, yet has been having low self-esteem. Sigh, complications.)

I miss the times when I didn't have such relationship issues, I was a happier person back then. Oh well, can't live in the past, have to continue on and make the best of my current situation! Hopefully I can rekindle the current relationship back to a flourishing happiness again.

 

[Astoria]

Well there was a...incident about a year ago. I wouldn't say my boyfriend cheated on me but it was pretty much as close to it as you can get. Obviously I forgave him but I find that I haven't been able to 100% trust him since. I think each situation is different. If he had of slept with the involved girl I would've broken up with him but if it were to happen now I'm not sure how I would react. How the person cheated, whom with and the state of the relationship all factor in to whether or not you should break up with a person. Though I have to say that from what I've seen the phrase 'once a cheater always a cheater' seems true.

 

[DazZ.]

Wouldn't even bother trying to sort it or end on "good terms".
I'd more likely stick with them for a week and cheat on them before telling them to fuck off.

I don't deal with things healthily.

 

[qeinar]

kinda depends on if my gf cheated on a girl or a guy. : p well really it kinda depends on i would have to talk things over, we could go into a open relationship i could be ok with her seeing other people, but then she would have to let me do the same. ^^ also getting some threesome action into your relationship to spice things up isn't bad. (if she is cheating on you in the first place then things probably aren't working out to great. )

 

[Dys]

I can't imagine why I'd care, as long as she (my girlfriend) was responsible and clean.

 

[Outright Villainy]

See, this is a difficult question for me. I mean, before I would have though, yeah, instant deal breaker, get the fuck out of there, that's it.

But at the same time, being in a relationship for a few years now, the question has become a lot harder. What if she was really drunk, or we had a huge fight, or both?

I mean, it wouldn't be excusable, but would I want to give all that up, probably the best part of my life?

Gah, that's depressing to think about...

 

[Colour Scientist]

kinda depends on if my gf cheated on a girl or a guy. : p

See, my boyfriend has said the same thing to me and I don't understand how it's different really. I'd break up with him if he cheated on me with a guy or a girl.

 

[Bitter_one13]

It varies on how much they tried to cull loyalty from me. I'm okay with them cheating on me if they always made it abundantly clear that I could always go with someone else myself.

 

[Snork Maiden]

Pretty much in an open relationship, which kind of eliminates cheating from the spectrum somewhat.

That said, an open relationship only works if you are honesty and, well, open with each other. You could absolutely emotionally cheat by falling in love with someone else. I want to say *that* would be a deal breaker, but to be honest I'm so smitten with my partner that if she didn't outright leave in this situation and wanted to make it work somehow I'd totally try to stick by her. I'd have to be totally miserable to break up, and she's not once made me anything close to miserable since I met her.

 

[Mondai Randy]

I'm honestly not sure , depends on the situation and such

 

[Actual]

My girlfriend of a year, got drunk in a club and made out with a guy there. She called me up and told me about it and I ended the relationship right there. I was so furious I'm glad I was not in town or I would have done something very stupid.

Later when I calmed down I realised I didn't want to give up what we had built together for a moment of foolishness. Unfortunately, though we both tried, the relationship never recovered and we split up shortly after. I still regret reacting in anger.

So no, cheating would not be a deal-breaker for me, it would be heavily dependant on context.

 

[qeinar]

kinda depends on if my gf cheated on a girl or a guy. : p

See, my boyfriend has said the same thing to me and I don't understand how it's different really. I'd break up with him if he cheated on me with a guy or a girl.

well that just means your boyfriend would be open to a threesome tbh. : p do you never think about other guys? this is different for everyone some people are ok with their partner beeing with someone else and others are not.

 

[l_w_88]

A person that dishonest and who shows such flagrant disrespect for their partner is not worth my time.

Cheating is a deal breaker yes.

 

[qeinar]

It varies on how much they tried to cull loyalty from me. I'm okay with them cheating on me if they always made it abundantly clear that I could always go with someone else myself.

well the thing is if your in an open relationship where both are clear on that you still have interest in other people, then your not really "cheating" on the person since your both open to the possibillity of that happening. if your girl says "i'm gonna go have sex with that dude is that ok with you?" and you agree to it well then you can't really define that as cheating.

 

[Throwitawaynow]

I forgave her, which then totally screwed her up. I guess it made her feel even worse, idk. I wanted to keep dating, as I said I forgave her. But she couldn't get over it = /.

 

[s0denone]

Wait, what "emotionally"? How does someone "emotionally" cheat on someone else?
If you aren't fucking other guys/girls, you aren't cheating on anyone.

On topic:
Yes, of course it's a dealbreaker.
Why would I need to be with someone who sleeps around?
I don't have self-esteem issues, or problems with my confidence.
You sleep around, you can be damn sure I can do better than you.