Cheating, a dealbreaker?

[guntotingtomcat]

Don't really think I'd be upset about emotional cheating, because you can't control how you feel.
I'd be more upset about physical cheating.

I guess, however, that everyone is their own person. If my girlfriend wants to cheat, she can. It would be at least 50% my fault if she did. I don't want to tie her down to the extent that she feels like she doesn't have a choice.

In short, I would rather she wanted to be with me than make her cheat by continuing a fake relationship.

 

[Zeetchmen]

Would end it right then and there, cheating is a 100% deal breaker

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[PureChaos]

that would be the end of it, i've seen it too many times where one cheats, they stay together and they cheat again. not worth it

 

[DVS Storm]

I would probably be really fucking angry. I'm not sure if I would end the relationship though. It depends on the situation but at least I wouldn't be able to trust that girl anymore. So I would most likely end it now that I think of it.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

Well, they obviously don't think I'm that important, so screw them.
I'd dump em and not look back.

 

[Death_Korps_Kommissar]

Just curious, how do you cheat on someone emotionally?

 

[Colour Scientist]

Just curious, how do you cheat on someone emotionally?

Here're some examples of the argument from this thread.

He is talking about an emotional affair, which is just as much cheating as fucking a stranger. It involves building up emotions that you shouldn't feel for people that aren't your spouse.

That would be your opinion then.
I agree... Being in love with someone other than your spouse? That's bad. Very bad. Very detrimental to the relationship.
Is it "cheating"? No.

Some people feel just as betrayed if they believe that their partner is emotionally cheating. Such as falling in love with someone else or essentially being in a relationship with someone else except there is no sexual contact.

Being in two seperate, physical relationships is certainly cheating on either one of the people involved - if they don't know.
Falling in love with someone else, without acting on those urges, however, is not.

 

[SturmDolch]

Deal breaker, girl or guy.

And I've never experienced cheating in any form.

 

[^=ash=^]

*Dives into a hypothetical relationship*

Depending on the circumstances I could possibly forgive if she is honest to me about it.

 

[badgersprite]

I don't care. Really. This happened to me, and I didn't give a fuck. I knew she had a history of it, and I knew she was kind of screwed up, so it wasn't a shock. Not really a big deal.

 

[Jedoro]

I may not be loyal to organizations or institutions, but interpersonal loyalty means everything to me. I'd be out in a heartbeat if a girlfriend cheated on me physically. Emotionally doesn't matter, because it's our actions that make a difference; we can choose not to react to every thought we have.

 

[Ladette]

It would depend on the circumstances. I'm open to the possibility of a relationship involving more than 2 people, provided that everyone involed loves everyone else involved.

In high school this guy I was kinda with started trying to get with this one girl without telling me, then he lied to me when I asked him about it. So I did the reasonable thing and seduced the girl he was pursing, dumped him, and started dating her.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

In about 95% of the cases it would be a deal breaker

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

If the cheat intentionally (being taken advantage of doesn't count in my book, that's just unfair) then that's it. I could never feel as if I could trust them.

 

[Colour Scientist]

If the cheat intentionally (being taken advantage of doesn't count in my book, that's just unfair) then that's it. I could never feel as if I could trust them.

What counts as being taken advantage of?

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

This has happened to me. I forgave them. A couple weeks later, they left for the person they cheated with.

So now I have no more tolerance for it.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

If the cheat intentionally (being taken advantage of doesn't count in my book, that's just unfair) then that's it. I could never feel as if I could trust them.

What counts as being taken advantage of?

When they're too drunk (or high) to know what's going on. It's happened to a partner of mine before, and it's also happened to me once. It's basically rape.

 

[Plurralbles]

when simply telling the loved one to, "shut up" is apparently a deal breaker, fucking someone behind the other's back should definitely be.

which is more deeply disrespectful?

 

[trooper6]

Physically? It depends on the circumstances. Most importantly whether my lover was honest or lied. If my lover lied, then its over (because of the dishonesty, not the cheating). If my lover were honest about it? Then it would depend on a number of other circumstances.

Emotionally? It's over. I don't tolerate emotional cheating at all.

I have been cheated on, and I also cheated on one girlfriend once...but that was way back in the Army when I was 19. I've grown a lot since then.

I have also been in open relationships where physical intimacy outside the relationship was okay, but emotional intimacy was not. So while there were some random one night stands or making out here and there, there was nothing that broke the relationship agreements.

So long and short. Most important to me is honesty. Second is emotional intimacy.

 

[Colour Scientist]

If the cheat intentionally (being taken advantage of doesn't count in my book, that's just unfair) then that's it. I could never feel as if I could trust them.

What counts as being taken advantage of?

When they're too drunk (or high) to know what's going on. It's happened to a partner of mine before, and it's also happened to me once. It's basically rape.

I don't think I'd ever be able to take intoxication as an excuse. Perhaps I wouldn't be as angry but I'd probably still end it.