Might I recommend counseling? If you are that emotionally messed up that you'd get into an abusive relationship, and you know it, then you should do something about it. Because no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.psrdirector said:wont ever be an issue with me, since I will bet money im never getting a relationship to be cheated on anyways, but if I did, im probly to much an emotional fuck up to kick a woman out for doing it. I am prime picking for being an an abusive relationship
Cheating, a dealbreaker?
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Pretty much this. If the person is just going to cheat, why the hell should I put up with such nonsense. They have made it clear that they don't care for the relationship so might as well end it and move on with our lives. They can choose to cheat on someone else and I can find someone better who can respect me and not just use me.TheRightToArmBears said:
As one who has concluded that they have enormous trust issues, yes, it would be a deal breaker. I mean, I don't feel as though I could engage in the relationship the way that would be healthy for either party, and it really is a huge betrayal, so...yeah. "Emotional" cheating is sort of a gray area. As a self-described asexual, I can see it being a bigger deal for me than otherwise, but, as has been mentioned, the defining factor here is intent.
If they actually act on whatever it is that they've got going on, yeah, I'm done, but if they don't, I can't say I'd be too put off. I mean, I am of the belief that people can have feelings for more than one person at any given time, and it's something that doesn't bother me to any substantial extent. However, if action is taken, even with a lack of sexual contact, I can't say I would be in any way pleased/indifferent.
If they actually act on whatever it is that they've got going on, yeah, I'm done, but if they don't, I can't say I'd be too put off. I mean, I am of the belief that people can have feelings for more than one person at any given time, and it's something that doesn't bother me to any substantial extent. However, if action is taken, even with a lack of sexual contact, I can't say I would be in any way pleased/indifferent.
Hm. *frowns* I don't know you. But I do know that nobody deserves to be treated poorly. What I wish for you is, rather than finding someone who'll take advantage of your temporary wounded status, you'll find someone who will treat you well and that in the space of that love, your healing process will be accelerated rather than retarded. I know that there are people like that out there. My hope is that one comes your way. And that is a totally possible thing.psrdirector said:trooper6 said:Might I recommend counseling? If you are that emotionally messed up that you'd get into an abusive relationship, and you know it, then you should do something about it. Because no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.psrdirector said:wont ever be an issue with me, since I will bet money im never getting a relationship to be cheated on anyways, but if I did, im probly to much an emotional fuck up to kick a woman out for doing it. I am prime picking for being an an abusive relationship
*sending a hug across the intertubes*
In my experience, women don't enjoy being hated...and also find being worshipped gets old. So, perhaps work on cultivating a more grounded relationship to women--that would probably help in getting women to want you. And also, you really don't want to date any woman who enjoys being hated, or who enjoys being worshipped. Women are human beings. Treat them like that.psrdirector said:My opinion of woman is a strange combination of worship and hatred
We're all pleasure seeking beings, loving someone is wanting them to be happy.
If a partner cheated on me I'd question their commitment to the relationship and ask if they'd rather have an open relationship rather than an exclusive one.
Doing that always freaks women out.
If a partner cheated on me I'd question their commitment to the relationship and ask if they'd rather have an open relationship rather than an exclusive one.
Doing that always freaks women out.
It would depend on how I found out. If she confessed it to me the next day, there would be a chance of forgiveness, but if I found out on my own or even a few days later or if this had happened before (in the chance I had forgiven), she'd be out the door.
It wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker, I would kick him in the nads so hard that next time he even thought about cheating on my he would remember the pain. If he did it again anyways then yes it would be a very painful breakup. So painful he might never be able to have kids again.
Exactly, trust is the foundation for any serious relationship. With the trust gone the relationship is like a house without a foundation. It's all going to come crashing down on you.ravensheart18 said:
It depends, but for me, a relationship is all about trust. The moment I can't trust you, we have a problem.