Competitive Gamer Arrested For Hitting Ex-Girlfriend
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Okay, if this is like that dumb spider man 3 scene when Mary Jane get's thrown like everyone else while Peter is being a douche, well, whatever. I don't think he meant to hit her. Still assault isn't that good of a thing.
(Seriously, if you're breaking up a fight, expect to get hit.)
Putting the point of him hitting a woman isn't helping the situation by making it seem worse in general. People will get more upset over a man hitting a woman, over a man attacking another man. When I opened this I expected it was about the woman being attacked, but her being hit/pushed was a side effect of what one man considered an affair and subsequent assaulted the 'other man'.
It's a shame in any case, but at least it could be told more straightforwardly. It has nothing to do with gaming in general, but headlines start with 'Competitive Gamer'. That has nothing to do with it.
(Seriously, if you're breaking up a fight, expect to get hit.)
Putting the point of him hitting a woman isn't helping the situation by making it seem worse in general. People will get more upset over a man hitting a woman, over a man attacking another man. When I opened this I expected it was about the woman being attacked, but her being hit/pushed was a side effect of what one man considered an affair and subsequent assaulted the 'other man'.
It's a shame in any case, but at least it could be told more straightforwardly. It has nothing to do with gaming in general, but headlines start with 'Competitive Gamer'. That has nothing to do with it.
Is this really even news? Unfortunately this happens all the time, is this just being brought to light because he's a "competitive gamer"?
You do understand that the charges suggest that too, right?Legion said:
Emphasis mine.Andy Chalk said:
You know damn well that by "domestic" I wasn't referring to the legal definition, but the social one. He got into a fight with a guy and is claimed to have hit his ex when she intervened. The title suggests he is just a woman beater.Zachary Amaranth said:
Circumstances are a bit different in the middle east i would say. The fact that people are not given much agency in terms of being able to leave a bad relationship actually makes adultery a bit more understandable in their culture, despite the consequences. Those of us living in western civilization don't have any such excuse. The door is always there. The only reason not to use said door and instead cheat, is simply to illustrate how evil and spiteful they are. It is completely without justification.LifeCharacter said:
Wow Escapist...
I'd just like to say, for a gaming website and all, that title really doesn't help the image of competitive gamers.
Seriously, it had nothing to do with him being a gamer. He found his girl getting hot and heavy in his own suite with another guy... And so hit the guy. When the girl tried to intervene, he pushed her away. The title makes it seem like he was provoked due to some gaming reason and then beat his ex-girlfriend.
Not to mention that she was still his girlfriend when she was banging the other guy.
I'd just like to say, for a gaming website and all, that title really doesn't help the image of competitive gamers.
Seriously, it had nothing to do with him being a gamer. He found his girl getting hot and heavy in his own suite with another guy... And so hit the guy. When the girl tried to intervene, he pushed her away. The title makes it seem like he was provoked due to some gaming reason and then beat his ex-girlfriend.
Not to mention that she was still his girlfriend when she was banging the other guy.
Seriously the whole focus on "violence against women" bothers me. He may or may not have hit the ex-girlfriend, but he definitely hit the guy. So why does the ex get mentioned? Oh yes, because a fight between men is not important, but if a girl gets hurt we make it a big deal. *Sigh* oh well...
The answer is money. Just like it always is. Violence against women is big business. Corporate sponsors love stories about that as do governments. Advertisers know that people are automatically more susceptible to feelings of outrage and sympathy over any negative thing that happens to women. It attracts more page views and traffic for sites to sensationalize any such negative things done to women which of course leads to blatant exaggerations.Lonewolfm16 said:
The whole abuse industry loves these stories as its yet another shining example of the need for more funding from both government and private agencies/individuals which helps keep there coffers filled and keeps public sentiment of there job positive so that there business practices are rarely ever looked upon critically(not to imply that abuse shelters are typically corrupt, but there have a been a few cases of corruption/abuse within that have surfaced here and there).
And of course governments love these stories as it gives them more justification for passing increasingly draconian legislation which increases government control in people's lives while doing little to actually hinder the problem they were implemented to solve(i.e. VAWA). Plus politicians can attach pretty much any rider they want for whatever money wasting pet project they want with domestic violence legislation it will still be likely to pass.
The implication is that it was a hotel room, and hotel rooms cannot be opened from the outside without a key. Evidently he had a key, so it was either his suite, or he was sharing the suite with the 'ex-girlfriend'. Or the other tournament player, but since the article insists on calling him another player and not a friend, I'm going to have to assume that he shared the suite with the 'ex-girlfriend'. I use the apostrophes like that because a lot of focus seems to be on the fact that they weren't together, but nothing else really supports that.Flaery said:
OT - Yeah. How is this news? This isn't a case of a competitive gamer being a dick, this is a regular guy who just walked in on something that would make 99% of men and women totally fly off the handle. I'd probably have reacted the way he did. And I'm a pacifist. There's a reason exemptions are made in court over this sort of thing - very rarely is anybody actually punished for assaulting a cheating partner's lover, unless they accidentally kill them or cause GBH.
It concerns me that there's a fair few posts in this thread against him. Whether or not you agree with violence or the situation, you can't possibly be so lacking in empathy that you can't understand why he reacted as he did. He doesn't need anger management or mental therapy, he's not ill or irrationally angry. This reads like an attempt at slander, and that's never a good thing.
For hitting a guy tapping your girlfriend? Sounds par for the course. Fucker should have known better. Hitting the girlfriend is of course unacceptable, but it doesn't sound like he actually "hit" her, she just tried to jump between two fighting males, which also isn't a terribly smart move. Mandating mental treatment for hitting the guy banging your girl is overkill. If you kill him, sure. Or even if you hit him with a car. But hitting him with your fists, the moment when you catch them together? No, that's not abnormal. Certainly nothing that requires *mandatory* mental treatment.JarinArenos said:
This is only "news" because the girl is making a stink about getting hit herself. And who knows if it's even true, Kotaku isn't exactly known for journalistic integrity. Aside from that, guys beating each other up over girls is nothing new.
