Could you be attracted to a bisexual?

[Darken12]

So the key really is openness about what you and your partner want.

This is true of every relationship. Some do it through swinger sex, others through more standard means, but the goal should be the open and full communication you'd have with a trusted friend.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

Sure, I don't see why not.
(It would have to be a female bisexual, but that's because I myself am heterosexual.)

 

[Adeptus Aspartem]

Wait.. so you're asking me, a man, if i'd have a problem with a girl, who likes to do some kinky girl-on-girl action and thus majorly increases the chances to include said sexiness into our bedroom compared to a straight girl?

Jeah, i'd be upset and throw her out!

 

[Legion]

Lesbian here and I don't really like it, I've tried dating girls who were in to guys too but I always had the feeling that one day she might start gawking at boys or say 'Isn't he fit? Phwoar!'. Possibly whilst drinking diet coke in an elevator with her coworkers. But that's all a 'problem' with me rather than with bisexuals, I'd just rather avoid the awkwardness that I would create in such situations and stick with girls-who-like-girls.

Hopefully you don't all hate me now.

I'd ignore anybody who has a problem with that. It's your life, and if you don't want to date bisexuals, that's your choice. It's not like you are are saying you don't like them, or wouldn't want to be friends with them.

Also, were you referring to this advert?


It made me laugh remembering it.

So the key really is openness about what you and your partner want.

This is true of every relationship. Some do it through swinger sex, others through more standard means, but the goal should be the open and full communication you'd have with a trusted friend.

Indeed. Think about how many less divorces/break ups in the world there'd be if people were capable of just talking to their partner properly.

 

[Thaluikhain]

I don't see the issue.

Could be a plus, not in an "inevitably leads to a threesome way", but if they have a wider range of experiences, intimate knowledge of both sexes bits, etc.

 

[The White Hunter]

Well It'd be pretty hypocritical for a bisexual male to b e put off by their partner being bisexual so.. no? Don't really care...

 

[Dirge Eterna]

So the key really is openness about what you and your partner want.

This is true of every relationship. Some do it through swinger sex, others through more standard means, but the goal should be the open and full communication you'd have with a trusted friend.

Yes totally. I learned my lesson with my ex-wife that if you can't open up for fear of ridicule or rejection about what you want and like sexually or otherwise then nothing you do will ever improve the relationship. Now with my wife we are totally open about how we feel and what we want and desire. Its pretty freeing when you and your partner have the same taste in women and you can openly admit she is beautiful or he is hot. I am not attracted to guys but I can admit when a guy looks good.

 

[The White Hunter]

I'm quite tired of being told to 'grow up and get a boyfriend', or 'why would you choose to be gay?'

It worries me that there are still people like that. Thankfully I haven't met any myself.

Instead I come across people who say "Bisexuals are greedy". What concerns me is that I don't think all of the people saying it were joking.

I can vouch that they do genuinely believe that bisexual means you want one of each at the same time all the time. It's qutie an unpleasant notion that made my time at school uncomfortable and lead to more than one violent encounter.

It's a mentality that needs educating out of people to be honest, it's harmful both to society and individuals subjected to that kind of bullying because of something they just are.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

My first serious girlfriend is bisexual. Hell, she and I are still good friends to the point that I've been invited to her wedding. It doesn't matter what the orientation of my partner is really so long as they're with me.

Hate to break it to ya OP, but you don't choose who you're attracted to.

This.

 

[Kroxile]

I am and I can.

It doesn't matter to me if she's bisexual or not as long as she doesn't cheat all is well. I actually think I could take her cheating on me with another woman better than with another man though.. but thats just me.

 

[trollnystan]

The question that the OP put to us was if we would date a bisexual, NOT if we'd be ok with said bisexual cheating on us with a member of their own gender (if we're straight) or opposite (if we're gay).

My intention was not to make suggestions about cheating. Just saying that, on balance, if you ask men how they'd find it if their girlfriend was bisexual, they'd probably entertain this thought more positively than if you ask women about boyfriends.

Ah, I getcha now. I can't speak for ALL women of course, but if my boyfriend told me he was bisexual I'd be fine with it. If he told me he was bisexual and wanted to date men AND me, I'd be not so fine with it, just as I'd not be fine with him dating other women AND me.

I'm pretty sure I'm a monogamous creature, not that I have any experience in relationships, lol. But I know a few women who have been or are in open relationships and were/are totally happy with that.

 

[MysticSlayer]

Hey man, having a bisexual partner has its benefits...

Joking aside, I would have absolutely no problem with it. Why would I? Sure, it opens up another potential avenue for her cheating on me, but if I'm constantly worried that she could be cheating on me with another man or woman, then we aren't going to have a very healthy relationship. I guess, for some people, it could cause some self-esteem issues, as you know you're only satisfying one side of their sexual desires, but in any relationship you likely aren't the only person they're attracted to, regardless of sexual orientation. A heterosexual partner will likely be attracted to other people of your gender. Opening it up to more options should not make things any worse.

 

[aaronobst]

A bisexual of the opposite sex? that's a given

 

[Headdrivehardscrew]

Attracted? Absolutely.

In a relationship or married? Hell no.

 

[EstrogenicMuscle]

In a relationship or married? Hell no.

Why? Do you think there is any more change that they would cheat?

There isn't. Heterosexuals and homosexuals are equally as likely to cheat as bisexuals.

Being bisexual does not mean having relaxed morals.

 

[masticina]

What.. does it change the person inside? No!

You might yeah have to deal with that the person you like.. goes both ways. Eh so be it.

 

[Bigsmith]

My Girlfriend is Bi as am I.

If I was to, hypothetically speaking, go out with a guy. I also wouldn't care if he was Bi.

 

[Dirge Eterna]

In a relationship or married? Hell no.

Why? Do you think there is any more change that they would cheat?

There isn't. Heterosexuals and homosexuals are equally as likely to cheat as bisexuals.

Being bisexual does not mean having relaxed morals.

Maybe they are afraid of a Bi partner because then they wouldn't have a "safe" friend to hang out with. A lot of my friends want their girlfriends to go out with other women because they don't have to worry about them being attracted or cheating with a girl.

 

[Vault Citizen]

Yes and I have, I don't see how that would be an issue in the relationship.

 

[Headdrivehardscrew]

In a relationship or married? Hell no.

Why? Do you think there is any more change that they would cheat?

There isn't. Heterosexuals and homosexuals are equally as likely to cheat as bisexuals.

Being bisexual does not mean having relaxed morals.

I know quite a number of gay and bisexual men. Those living in a relationship model and sex life I can somewhat relate to are TWO, well, FOUR if I add their significant others into the mix. All the others are either cockring-wearing ever-hard, ever-humping poof fairies living in random sauna sex wonderland or they're meanwhile full time drug addicts and/or deranged-level crazy, either on heavy medication or living the dream of dedicating themselves to fight society, the power, the man, capitalism and whatever fancy windmill du jour needs poking - And that's all with or without the freebie HIV they picked up during one of their sex, booze and/or drug binges. Some of those used to be handsome, very intelligent, charming. I've seen enough of that and I am not willing to put up with any glamorization of the relaxed morals involved in their very personal iterations of the falling from grace bit, it's just not a lifestyle I find very tolerable. Three of the gay men with HIV that I interact with are dear to me, and seeing them deal with their lot is heartbreaking, day after day. A couple of the HIV carriers lost it in the last decade and starting fucking around again, spreading the love and the bonus content, just because. One is now a brainwiped prescribed drugs zombie, the other one is on the run because he didn't fancy jail much. He might also be dead, which would probably be best as he'd just be bound to put satisfaction of his own sexual cravings over the lives of anyone unlucky enough to fall for his looks or his smooth talking. So, yeah, maybe I've seen too much of sexually liberated wonderland to really be much fun and very open to the blessings of an 'anything goes' approach.

As for the cheating bit - If I were to find out, I'd raise hell like you've never seen before, no matter who or what you stick your private parts into. So, that bit of my stance is all-inclusive and very much not discriminating in nature.

I just don't find the anal bit very appealing, just as my gay menfolk friendlies don't fancy boobs and pussy much. We still get along just fine, but the sex life bit is considered personal. If you wank/kiss/pet/fondle/hump in public or on facebook, I'll have you sacked before you climax. We don't ask whether people fancy men or women or children or animals when we hire, so we do not intend to find out, because it's not part of our business relationship.

In my personal life, I cook/eat/drink/hang out with gaysexuals of various self-declared denominations at least three times a week, and just about every weekend. I just consider the very idea of my man getting it on with another man to be a major turn-off. Knowing that, and my own temper, I don't feel like trying this situation on for size.

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