Could you be attracted to a bisexual?

[cthulhuspawn82]

I think males are more likely to respond positively on this because of the "two girls are hot" mentality. I don't believe girls think that way (i.e. "two guys would be hot")

Yes, but I'm a guy,

SNIP

That's how I remember the general opinion to be as well, and I'm afraid that for all my tolerance, I'm not much different.

The question that the OP put to us was if we would date a bisexual, NOT if we'd be ok with said bisexual cheating on us with a member of their own gender (if we're straight) or opposite (if we're gay).

I, a straight female, think guy-on-guy action is pretty darn hot, but that doesn't mean I'd be ok with my fella cheating on me with another guy. If we had an open relationship that would be different but I doubt I could have one of those.

The OP is wondering if anyone might be apposed to being attracted to bisexuals. There is no physical deference between someone who is bisexual or strait/gay, so the only reason someone would have a problem would have to do with emotional insecurities, and the only insecurities I could see someone having are the ones I mentioned.

As most people have responded, it doesn't bother them. I was trying to imagine why it would bother someone assuming it did.

 

[spartandude]

lets see, im bi, nearly everyone ive dated was bi, most of my friends are bi. so yh i could be attacked to bisexuals

 

[Belaam]

Of course I could. If I were looking for a monogamous relationship, I'd want them to only be with me, but that would be true regardless of their orientation.

 

[Fiad]

I'm a bisexual guy currently dating a bisexual girl.

 

[duchaked]

I suppose the question is pretty self-explanatory but I guess I can expand a bit.

Would you get in a relationship with someone you knew to be bisexual? Or if you were in a relationship with someone and they told you they were bisexual how would you react?

So, could you be romantically attracted to someone who's bisexual? Do you find it to be an attractive trait, or an unattractive one, or maybe neutral?

I'm curious because I'm a bisexual guy and I was wondering what other people might think of that so I thought I would see what everybody here thought.

Hi, you must be new here. Everybody here is aggressively liberal towards that stuff.

lol well in short: welcome to the Internet. where the youth reign.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

What? Nope. So long as they're attracted to me. My ex-girlfriend was bisexual, it really had no impact whatsoever on our relationship, except that we could both appreciate a really good pair of tits.

 

[Proverbial Jon]

Wouldn't be an issue to me at all.

Can't say much more than that really.

It's a total non-issue. It's like asking me if I could be attracted to someone wearing a hat, or someone who really liked spaghetti.

Yeah, but what if they really liked spaghetti? If ya know what I'm sayin'

 

[Souplex]

So long as they're attracted to what I have, I'm okay.

 

[Muspelheim]

It's a total non-issue. It's like asking me if I could be attracted to someone wearing a hat, or someone who really liked spaghetti.

Who the fuck could be attracted to one of those crazy spaghetti lovers? Shit's crazy son.

Indeed! It's a known fact that spaghetti lovers are much more statistically likely to be bolsheviks, just for a start!

No, ladies and mentlegen of a refined moral character prefer fusilli.

 

[WOPR]

I think I have to say yes considering I'm dating a bisexual girl... and we're dating a bisexual girl... Hey shut up don't judge me! I live as few men dare to dream! ...Then again I live in Humboldt where almost every 1/3 girls are bisexual. Or at least bi-curious. The coast is weird. You think our people are odd wait till you see our weather xD

 

[WOPR]

It's a total non-issue. It's like asking me if I could be attracted to someone wearing a hat, or someone who really liked spaghetti.

Who the fuck could be attracted to one of those crazy spaghetti lovers? Shit's crazy son.

Hey I'm dating a spaghetti lover! (the literal kind not the 4chan kind)
(also escapist glitched and double posted your comment, I don't know how you would go about fixing that but I don't want you to get warned or punished or anything)

 

[l3o2828]

As the test subject i wouldn't have a problem, although i am quite worried what other people think of...it.

 

[bananafishtoday]

I wouldn't care at all if the person I was dating was bisexual.

I have a friend who is gay and he told me that he wouldn't want to date a bisexual because, since their dating pool is larger, they would be more likely to cheat. Or something. Anyway, we had an argument about that and I think I convinced him of the absurdity of such a belief by the end.

Why is it that gay people are so prejudiced against bisexuals? Isn't it kinda hypocritical? I mean they struggle so much to get accepted by heterosexuals and yet here they are, showing the same amount of bigotry that they are fighting against in the first place, only towards bisexuals.

Two quibbles: "Some gay people," not "gay people" in general. Identity labels never describe a monolithic group. And certainly not the "same amount" of bigotry.

Anyway... for some gay folks, it's just simple prejudice. They heard about or met bi people who did X and subsequently drew the conclusion that most or all bi people do or are likely to do X. Maybe they already had preconceived notions and anecdotes/encounters "confirmed their suspicions." Confirmation bias is very powerful.

For others, it's part of a broader political framework focused on assimilating into straight culture. There is a subset of the gay community, generally well-educated, affluent, and urbane, that shuns activist politics and instead seeks to adopt heteronormative values--monogamy, the nuclear family, strict adherence to binary gender, and support of neoliberal economics--by presenting "gay" and "straight" as a simple dichotomy that has clear rules with no exceptions and that has no impact on or relevance to anything outside of relationship/sexual partners. Essentially giving up "We're here, we're queer" for "We're just like you" and in doing so casting out anyone who refuses to or is not able to conform to this framework.

Well, again, it's individual. I can't remember being present when the "Great Bi Cheating/Not Cheating Charter" was being signed. :3

Ugh, that's still languishing in committee. It's frustrating how this happens even to bills with broad bipartisan support, but I don't think I need to tell you how inefficient the Committee of Bisexual Affairs can be. See you next Tuesday for the vote on mandatory threesomes.

 

[Playful Pony]

How is this even an issue? Of course I could, but then I can't really explain why I am attracted to the people I am. They are just... Attractive! The only "problem" is that being a gay woman most of the girls I find attractive are not gay themselves, which is nobodys fault so I can't really complain too much =p.

 

[Muspelheim]

Well, again, it's individual. I can't remember being present when the "Great Bi Cheating/Not Cheating Charter" was being signed. :3

Ugh, that's still languishing in committee. It's frustrating how this happens even to bills with broad bipartisan support, but I don't think I need to tell you how inefficient the Committee of Bisexual Affairs can be. See you next Tuesday for the vote on mandatory threesomes.

No doubt they've all tired out from all the swinging groupsex every vote turns into. Next tuesday it is!

*Clacks heels together*

Glory to Gaga!

How is this even an issue? Of course I could, but then I can't really explain why I am attracted to the people I am. They are just... Attractive! The only "problem" is that being a gay woman most of the girls I find attractive are not gay themselves, which is nobodys fault so I can't really complain too much =p.

Aye... It's the way it is. Grass grows, fish swims, Scout bonks and all the cute lads are straight.

 

[Commissar Sae]

My girlfriend is Bi, she has never hidden the fact from me and I accept it as. Did she have relationships with girls before me, yup. Do I care, not really. She is loyal and loving that is all that really matters to me.

 

[LetalisK]

Considering my wife is bi, no, I would not have a problem with it.

Oh, and for those entertaining the fantasy that being with a bi chick would increase the probability of a threesome: it doesn't.

 

[Latinidiot]

Well, no, I don't think I would. I might feel threatened for a milisecond, as I cannot 'compete' with a girl, but that is a result of my own insecurity, and would disappear very quickly, just as the insecurity that pops up wen I meet a man who is more attractive than me.

They do exist, I have been told.

 

[Milanezi]

Yes. I don't see why it would matter if someone found out that thier partner is bisexual, as long as they aren't cheating or anything.

I might be biased because I'm bisexual too, but thats how I see it. If someone isn't willing to accept that someone is bisexual, they aren't the kind of person I would want to be aquainted with in any sense.

That's the way I see it too. My vision in the subject does not go far, I'm not bi not have dated a bisexual, so I'm speaking out pure opinion and comparison to situations with both heterosexual and gay communities, thus I act out of ignorance; however, I believe that if one dates a bisexual it is expected that said bisexual will commit to the relationship at hand, so say it's a bisexual woman dating a man, she commits not to see other women (or men obviously) just as well as that straight man commits not to see other women, otherwise you're betraying the very concept of a "loving serious relationship" (or at least the traditional vision of such, an not those agreements where the couple is ok with "going out" with other people, but then it's not cheating, it's just not usual, as long as both parts agree it's ok, I guess).
The main thing is: don't go all childish like thinking "wow I'm dating a bisexual chick, I'm going to bed with two girls", that's not necessarily true, actually if she/he loves you, that might be UNLIKELY, since you'll be enough. In other words don't mix bisexuality or any sexual orientation with tons of women/men on your bed.

 

[Rylingo]

Yes. Why not? It doesn't worry me in the slightest.