Could you be attracted to a bisexual?

[Darken12]

Why is it that gay people are so prejudiced against bisexuals? Isn't it kinda hypocritical? I mean they struggle so much to get accepted by heterosexuals and yet here they are, showing the same amount of bigotry that they are fighting against in the first place, only towards bisexuals.

Because a lot of bisexual people (myself included) enjoy straight privilege. So long as you don't "come out" or are seen with a member of the same gender, you can coast by on the presumption that you are straight. Most gay people cannot do this (unless they're celibate or really, really good at stealth-dating). So a sector of the gay community resents bisexuals for being able to retain straight privilege (and avoid homophobia) while still having same-sex contact (usually on the down low).

And then there's the fact that being under constant homophobia/transphobia leaves some LGBTQ+ people with lower than usual self-esteem (it's been studied and everything), which leads them to instantly assume that anyone who "has it better" than them (that is, bisexuals, because they retain straight privilege) will eventually leave them, cheat on them, or be unsatisfied with them.

Also, everything bananafishtoday said. Their dissertations on gender, sexuality and the interesctionality of class/LGBTQ+ dynamics are always spot-on.

 

[GeneralFungi]

I'm gay, so if I was dating a dude who said he also liked women it wouldn't exactly be surprising to me. I'd be completely cool with it. I'd even consider the notion of him telling me a sign of trust. He would trust me to trust him to stick around in our relationship even though he has a much wider pool of people to choose from. If that makes any sense.

And besides, it's the best of both worlds isn't it? I'd give my lover a pat on the back and wish that I could appreciate the wonders of the vagina the same way others do.




...That's a joke.

 

[Trillovinum]

Years ago I dated a bisexual guy, he made it known he was bi by bringing up whenever he could. He slipped up by saying how he thought gay sex seemed disgusting and he'd never do it and how he didn't see the appeal to men. I reminded him of his 'bisexuality' and he was like 'oh yeah I am!'

While that guy indeed seems like a 'weirdo' (as you describe him)I actually kinda sorta feel I can relate... a bit. because myself, (as a man) I could picture myself blowing another man's whistle or polishing his knob any time of the day but I would never let him poke his stick in the brown bear's den nor will I ever put my own cane into the waste disposal shaft.
Though that's probably just me being funny about me bumsies...

On topic though: I don't see a problem dating a bisexual person. Not in the slightest. And while some of the fears people have described in this topic would indeed trouble me, I can be safe in the knowledge that I can rationally explain them away.

 

[Ilikemilkshake]

Almost everyone I've ever been out with or done anything with has been Bi... So I guess that's a resounding yes from me.

 

[Yuno Gasai]

I could be attracted to anyone.

It all depends on their personality and how well we "click".

I definitely wouldn't rule out a relationship just because the individual I was interested in happened to like both genders.

As long as they're interested in me, why does their sexual orientation matter?

 

[Relish in Chaos]

Yes, why wouldn?t I? It?s not as if they?re going to automatically cheat on me just because they may have a wider dating pool. Bisexual does not equal polygamous. If anything, a partner being bisexual would be a bonus, because they might be more open to some kinky stuff. Say, if a partner mentioned that she was attracted to Asians, would I suddenly expect her to run off with one? No, I?m not a paranoid dickbag, so why should this be any different?

Besides, I have at least one friend who?s bisexual (although he?s told me that he prefers girls to guys), so it?d be pretty hypocritical for me to not want to get into a relationship with one.

I don't believe girls think that way (i.e. "two guys would be hot") they are more of a monogamous bunch.

The vast yaoi fandom seems to disagree...

 

[Eternal_Lament]

I guess...?

I don't know, it's not something I've really thought of before. Straight guy here, so I guess it's not really an issue. It's not to do with the "threesome" fantasy, rather I guess dating a bi woman who is monogamous would be the same as dating a straight woman who is monogamous.

Perhaps only one thing would make me reconsider. If they're someone who simply happens to be bi-sexual, then whatever, they just happen to be dating a man instead of a woman. Hell, even if they're someone who likes the idea of introducing someone else into the mix, I'd be "okay" so long as they at least discuss it with me before anything happens. If they're someone however who considers themselves bisexual because they think everyone actually is, that's more a matter of attitude/personality than a matter of sexuality. If that's the case then no, but again simply because I think personality wise we wouldn't get along at that point.

 

[Busard]

White straight here. My ex and best relationship I had was a bisexual.

I'll take all the bisexuals if they're all like this.

Please

 

[Exius Xavarus]

It shouldn't even matter. They're attracted to me and they're with me. Provided that they actually are the trustworthy person you believe them to be, you should have nothing to worry about.

 

[BM19]

That depends: does it affect how much she cares about me?
No?
Then I don't care.

I'd like to know if she was, but honestly if she was still sorting through it herself, it is what it is. And if she knew it and was comfortable with it, then I'd probably pick it up naturally. And if she didn't tell me out of fear of prejudice, clearly she doesn't know ME very well.

 

[Goofguy]

Yup, I could be attracted to a bisexual and would have no problem dating one. Really, it'd change nothing. As long as we're attracted to and interested in each other, it wouldn't bother me that she also fancies women. It could make for some pretty fun conversations.

 

[Tyler Trahan]

To be quite frank literally EVERY woman I have dated has either been bisexual or pansexual. No friggin' joke every single one

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Would you get in a relationship with someone you knew to be bisexual? Or if you were in a relationship with someone and they told you they were bisexual how would you react?
So, could you be romantically attracted to someone who's bisexual?

I am only romantically interested in partners who are also bisexual.

I mean, I'll have sex with people who are just straight or just gay, but not long term. For a relationship, I want someone who I can relate to better.

Edit: Also, I'm pleasantly surprised with this thread. Everyone is being very positive. Except about spaghetti, but I don't much care for that kind of pasta myself.

 

[Something Amyss]

I don't see why it'd be a major point of interest for most people. The only points I can see are multiple partners (if that's your thing) or the fear of increased infidelity (which is inane).

 

[loa]

Does that entail anything?
Like would it have to be an open or poly relationship or something?
Cause I can't see the difference to non-bi.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

To be quite frank literally EVERY woman I have dated has either been bisexual or pansexual. No friggin' joke every single one

You lucky bastard.

 

[Darth Sea Bass]

What do you mean could i? I already have been attracted to a bisexual girl never went anywhere but i was still attracted to her.

 

[The Gnome King]

I suppose the question is pretty self-explanatory but I guess I can expand a bit.

Would you get in a relationship with someone you knew to be bisexual? Or if you were in a relationship with someone and they told you they were bisexual how would you react?

So, could you be romantically attracted to someone who's bisexual? Do you find it to be an attractive trait, or an unattractive one, or maybe neutral?

I'm curious because I'm a bisexual guy and I was wondering what other people might think of that so I thought I would see what everybody here thought.

I am a bisexual guy married to a bisexual woman for the past 13 years and in a polyamorous relationship with a gay man who has lived with us both for about half of our marriage so... yeah. Yeah I'd do it.

I find bisexuality to be attractive in a person. Honestly I am much more likely to be attracted to a bisexual man or woman than I am to a straight woman or gay man.

I think it's my rampant narcissism that causes this, though.

 

[Bug MuIdoon]

Bi male here, been with my bi girl for around 9 years. So yeah, I could definitely be with someone who's bi. In all honesty I think it's quite an attractive quality!

I do have some bi friends who's straight partners have asked me (towards the beginning of their relationships) if they will be enough to keep their bi partner happy. I've had this on a few occasions, so I guess it's a fairly commonplace worry with bi-straight couples.

I am a bisexual guy married to a bisexual woman for the past 13 years and in a polyamorous relationship with a gay man who has lived with us both for about half of our marriage so... yeah. Yeah I'd do it.

That sounds like a fairly complicated relationship (not judging at all btw, I just find it interesting) I'd love to know how your male partner feels about the relationship. Obviously he's happy with it, otherwise he wouldn't be there, but it must be very weird at times for him?

 

[Jegsimmons]

I suppose the question is pretty self-explanatory but I guess I can expand a bit.

Would you get in a relationship with someone you knew to be bisexual? Or if you were in a relationship with someone and they told you they were bisexual how would you react?

So, could you be romantically attracted to someone who's bisexual? Do you find it to be an attractive trait, or an unattractive one, or maybe neutral?

I'm curious because I'm a bisexual guy and I was wondering what other people might think of that so I thought I would see what everybody here thought.

well im a straight guy, so getting a bi-sexual girlfriend is like the damn holy grail.

So yes.