Could You Date A Transexual?

[thedevilscousin]

Hey there, qc fan too.

I seriously think i could date one, i know a coupple of then even. But i think it depends if i know beforehand or not though. I have some trust issues and those have to be defeated first, so yeah.

 

[Poetic Nova]

I would not have any problems with it.

 

[Undomesticated Equine]

First thing that came into my mind when i read the thread title:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2KsZHRrFpU
http://youtu.be/t7H_089RjrI

 

[Rawne1980]

Because you like it ;P

Okay, you're right. You've got me there.

I'll be quiet and get back in my cage.

 

[Beautiful Tragedy]

Because you like it ;P

Okay, you're right. You've got me there.

I'll be quiet and get back in my cage.

*Pats her whip in he hand* Good boy.

 

[chozo_hybrid]

No, simply because I want to be able to have children with my partner, if she was a male to female changed person, then that couldn't happen in the natural sense.

That said, I have no issue with people of transgender, I recently found out one of my male friends used to be a woman, It surprised me, and after just a few curious questions about the change, we went back to our normal friend state He is the only person (that I know of) that I know who has undergone something like that. Best part was, his family and friends of the time were all supportive apparently, so he was lucky in that department.

 

[Tyelcapilu]

If I was straight and at all interested in having biological children, I would at most want them to admit to being infertile. Still, I don't see what's wrong with just having adopted children.

 

[Eddie the head]

Hell, no. I understand it just fine, I also don't like it. It just creeps me out.

 

[afroebob]

This is a picture of Kim Petras, a 20 year old girl from Germany. Also, shes also a transsexual. Also, I would tear that shit up any day of the fucking week. Seriously, just ask and I'll buy a fucking plane ticket to Germany just to tap that, I couldn't give anything resembling the essence of a fuck about what body you were born in.

 

[Richard-III]

Yeah, easily, really. Though a bisexual orientation kinda makes that not such a huge deal.

 

[Abomination]

Some people might consider that individual to be a female, and they would be right. I consider that individual to be a male, and I also am right. They are right that the individual is female to them and I am right that the individual is male to me.

Reality is not some feel-good imaginary land where whatever you want to be true is true.

That sword cuts both ways in this discussion.

The 'true sex' of a transsexual is such a grey area because at what point do they transition from male to female? The moment the individual decides they're female? What if they haven't had any surgery (yet) and they've got a penis? After surgery? How much surgery? After hormonal treatment? How much hormonal treatment? The moment they "pass" for their new sex in the face of the average individual? Surely you can see how, to an observer, someone's gender does not define that individual's sex when signs point to otherwise.

I'm calling bullshit on your having ever been friends with any trans people. There's no way any self-respecting trans person would deal with your obnoxious, defensive bullshit. You're pissed because trans people call you out on your bullshit "respect." So you make up a bunch of trans friends and then give some lame excuse about them no longer wanting your friendship because one of them wanted to be in a relationship. Either you're mad because a lot of trans people have enough respect for themselves to not want to be friends with someone that doesn't respect them at all. Or you just made them up so that you could tout your opinion as if it added any validity to it.

After living in Thailand for about a year it's pretty easy to become friend with a transsexual. Sometimes I didn't even know it, sometimes I did. They didn't attempt to impose their personal gender identification of themselves on my perceived sexual identification of them. They believed they were women and I agreed they believed and behaved like women, I would call use female pronouns when referring to and addressing them.

Sexually I still viewed them as male but I treated them as their identified gender.

I left Thailand and made friends with another trans individual. After almost this exact conversation when I rebuffed their sexual advances and gave my reason they did not wish to associate with me anymore.

Gender has been spouted to me as being a person's own sexual identity. It doesn't mean it has to be mine. Any attempt to impose that on someone else is essentially demanding thought control.

If you were sexually born a male then, according to me, you sexually are male. Others can have any opinion they want, they're entitled to them. I wish others would afford me the same respect.

 

[scw55]

It does depend how they look.

Yeah being a Bisexual makes this less of an issue.

But I do have an aversion to masculine women or feminine men. So the conversion would have to be thorough.

 

[bioshockedcriticjrr]

maybe, perhaps... possibly...
to be fare, it's a better chance than most women born women would be willing to. Although it would be nice if we were friends or something first

 

[bioshockedcriticjrr]

Some people might consider that individual to be a female, and they would be right. I consider that individual to be a male, and I also am right. They are right that the individual is female to them and I am right that the individual is male to me.

You're not helping your case in regards to trying to act as if things are unknown. Their sex does not change at that. Further the way you put it, as if it is merely a decision that they can change? Not helping your case.

snipped.

I appreciate what folks like you are trying to do, but I would like to take this opportunity to remind my fellow escapists of rule 14 of the internet: DO NOT ARGUE WITH TROLLS--it means they WIN!!!!!

 

[Benny Blanco]

Have previously dated a MtF (I didn't know initially, due to Southeast Asians being a bit more androgynous than most and judicious use of lube on her behalf, but continued dating for 6 months after I found out) as I mentioned on a different thread. It ended due to trust issues: she lied unneccessarily about a lot of things and tried 9-year-old-level emotional blackmail techniques.
Don't know if I would go out and date another transwoman TBH: a lot I've met are a bit messed up, plus I'm too much of a fan of the real thing to get a bad substitute, and I might want kids in the next 5 years. Still an LGBT rights champion, I just prefer my women cisgendered, thanks.

 

[Rawne1980]

*Pats her whip in he hand* Good boy.

I get the feeling we are turning the thread into a 50 shades fanfic.

Although I won't complain, plus we seem to be the only people that haven't argued with anyone yet. We does good.

Although that might change if the person i'm about to quote isn't friendly and reaches through her monitor to punch me.

I'm calling bullshit on your having ever been friends with any trans people. There's no way any self-respecting trans person would deal with your obnoxious, defensive bullshit. You're pissed because trans people call you out on your bullshit "respect." So you make up a bunch of trans friends and then give some lame excuse about them no longer wanting your friendship because one of them wanted to be in a relationship. Either you're mad because a lot of trans people have enough respect for themselves to not want to be friends with someone that doesn't respect them at all. Or you just made them up so that you could tout your opinion as if it added any validity to it.

Calm down lass.

This is a touchy subject for a lot of people and some folk have strong feelings about it.

Whether that's right or wrong is a large debate that goes downhill fast. Best bet is to not let it get to you, especially here where people voice those strong opinions a lot.

Some people are far more accepting than others in regards to this subject.

If you get annoyed and want to argue then i'm usually around, I love me some friendly banter. Much like I have with my friend just above your quote although she's now taken to wanting to lock me in a cage and beat me.

She used to be nice, now she's evil .... evil I tells thee.

 

[Nokturos]

Anything with a Y-chromosome is right out.

 

[Cheery Lunatic]

Hey do MtF transsexuals experience periods? Honestly that's what I'm most curious about.
Not that it matters tbh (though if they don't I am seriously jealous).

Also, are transsexuals essentially infertile?

Sorry if I'm being offensive to anyone btw. I've found these are better questions asked online than in person

 

[Darken12]

Hey do MtF transsexuals experience periods.

Honestly that's what I'm most curious about.

Not that it matters tbh (though if they don't I am seriously jealous).

No, they don't. So far science hasn't allowed for the gender reassignment surgery to include the implementation of functional ovaries (or uteri), so they cannot have periods. They can still be affected by their hormones, though I am loath to mention that, as the popular conception of "affected by hormones" is closer to "mind controlled" than "normal but slightly off".

 

[SweetxVicious]

I've never really considered the possibility of this in my own life, but I believe that, faced with the possibility, I could definitely see myself dating a FtM transexual. Hell, for that matter, I could see myself dating a MtF transexual as well. And my opinion has nothing to do with my being bisexual, as being attracted to both men and women is not (in my opinion) comparable to being open to dating a FtM or MtF transexual. Just because you like both genders doesn't mean you'd be okay with being in a relationship with someone who has undergone surgery to change their gender.

However, I won't lie, it would feel a little awkward to me if I decided to be intimate with someone who hadn't completely finished their sex change - for instance, if someone who had undergone the beginnings of a FtM sex change operation, but still had lady parts - but I don't think I'd be completely against attempting an intimate relationship with such a person, if I had genuine feelings for them.

Also, as a curiousity question: is it just me, or does it seem like most females are more willing to be, or more open to being with, a transexual (read: FtM) than men are willing to be/more open to being with one (read: MtF)? Just an observation I've made in reading this thread and in hearing discussions about it in the "real world," and wanted to get other opinions if possible.