Another hypothesis I have that?s likely supported in real-life is that a lot of people who have these fetishes for a certain group of people or activity haven?t actually known them or performed it in real-life, and that it may be more the ?forbidden? aspect of it. E.g. anal sex, which is apparently harder to do than what porn shows. When they actually try it out, it might not be what expected. Obviously, the whole ?don?t knock it until you try it? thing should come into play here, as long as it?s harmless.
Here?s a good blog post which basically says everything people have been saying and maybe a little more: http://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/02/15/chicks-with-dicks-trap-chans-chasers-and-trans-fans-the-question-of-fetishization/
On that topic, I?m not sure ?shemale porn? (which, frankly, is a niche genre anyway) is really dehumanizing, because you might as well say that about the entirety of porn, even the ones that focus on men (mainly gay porn). That?s what porn?s designed for: allowing you to get off without thinking about the girl?s backstory or something. If people are ?damaged? by that, then it?s their own impressionable fault, not porn?s. Although that may not be what the writer was trying to say.
Same for transsexual strippers and (legal) prostitutes. Yes, they?re objectifying themselves, but objectification in and of itself is not necessarily harmful, no matter what society tries to tell you. No, seriously. It?s a loaded term, but what I?m saying is that no-one should feel guilty about finding something attractive, unless it?s a prepubescent child or something. You
should feel guilty if you go into a relationship with someone, don?t lay out the ground rules and treat them
only as a glorified sex toy.
Melanie McGreevey said:
I was thinking about this last night... I AM trans, BUT, i would NEVER date a trans person... does that make me horrible. I don't know why, i just wouldn't.
No, it doesn't make you horrible. You can't help what you are and aren't attracted to. I'm no therapist, but perhaps it's because dating a trans person (maybe, especially the sexual part) would remind you too much of yourself, and most people aren't attracted to themselves (unless they're narcissists).
If I was going to compare it to myself and maybe some other people, it's like how I'm not attracted to black women at all, despite being a black heterosexual male. I think it might be the fact that I've been raised in a predominantly white environment - as in, most of the people that I see and/or fraternise with outside of my family are white - and black reminds me too much of myself and my family. If that makes sense.
Also, I'm somewhat insecure about my race and am unwilling to conform to stereotypes, to the point that I feel paranoid and embarrassed every time I walk out of KFC because I'm afraid of people looking at me, laughing and/or muttering something like, "See, I knew it, the stereotype's right!"
But whatever.
