Certainly rules out the possibility of a surprise reach around : (Melanie McGreevey said:I did once, they have such short arms they can't hugScars Unseen said:
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Dating a Transsexual
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I do not consider myself gay because I'm not attracted to men. I do not, however, care if a girl happens to have a dick. I don't know what that makes me, I just don't think about it. I like what I like and I'm fine with that. Anyone who isn't aren't people I want anything to do with. Simple as that.
Treat the person with dignity and respect and everything should work out the way it was meant to
Treat the person with dignity and respect and everything should work out the way it was meant to
If he's looking for somebody who is essentially a female with different parts, wouldn't it sort of defeat he purpose to just look for somebody who, as bad as this might sound, had a bad/unconvincing transition? : \Dags90 said:
I figure somebody who you wouldn't be able to spot so easily would be preferable. I guess for somebody who is bi/pan it wouldn't matter so much either way though.
OT:
As people said earlier in this thread, you'll probably find somebody at LBGT rallies, meetings and such; I wouldn't recommend bars/online for anyone who is looking for a real relationship though (not to say people never find the 'right person' by those methods, they just tend to draw those looking for a short fling).
Why would you be sorry if someone was gay?jizzytissue said:
"I'm so sorry, Mr. and Mrs. Smith, but... your son has caught the gay. There's nothing more we can do for him."
Also, not only are transgirls female in every sense of the word, gender and sex are pretty different. Like, totally unrelated.
Oh Frappe, you're always so damn awesome. World needs more of you.Caramel Frappe said:
No.usmarine4160 said:
Just no.
Stop being a bigot.
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It's only gay if balls touch at the same time eye contact is made.
well for starters, dont say your interested in transexuals. im a trans female and if i ever felt my partner was interested in me simply because im trans, i dont think i would want to stay with them very long. i think you should be less concerned with the body of your partner and more concerned with their mind
Bahaha xD How fun.tobi the good boy said:I never forget my duct tape!SkarKrow said:
Seriously useful stuff though.
I understand that, I really do, and some guys and girls are just into transgender or transsexual people out of fetish or kink. But I think you've gotta see it a bit differently with me. Like, take your average heterosexual guy-he doesn't go looking for people who happen to be female, he just... notices them. To him, the way women look, feel, act, think or whatever else is what his mind is attracted to. I'm the same, only with transgirls. It just so happens what I find attractive is harder to notice, so it seems more apparent.00slash00 said:
It's not attracted to them from some sort of fetish or kink or anything and I don't wanna experiment. To me, they are just as much an ordinary woman as any other. My brain simply finds male genitals more appealing than female's. What kind of things do you find attractive in a man or woman (or neither, or both or whatever you prefer)? It might be brown hair, tall, slim, white, dark, big, tiny-whatever it is, you don't limit yourself to them, but you can't help but think they are nice, yeah? Same here; if I ran into a woman or man that I just clicked with, I don't care one bit what they look like--love is love. But my primary attraction is to transgirls.
Transgirls are just girls and I get that. I don't even like the term, honestly, because it makes them out to be something separate. If people didn't assume penis = man, I would just say woman. To me, nothing on your body (or not on your body) has anything at all to do with your gender. As it stands with society, however, clarification is needed to avoid confusion when talking in a forum like now. I think it's all a bit silly. I mean, do we consider a brunette any different to a blond? They're both still women.
Do you get me?
Not attacking you or anything. Just hopefully trying to explain myself and the situation. I wouldn't want people to think wrong, you know?
Not really. A single bacterium that divides in an hour (or something like that) has the potential to reproduce until it and its daughter cells are the visible mass of the universe in about 48 hours. It doesn't because of limiting factors like nutrients and hand sanitizer.CrazyCapnMorgan said:
If anything, we're populating the planet so heavily BECAUSE we're unnatural. I don't believe that because to be unnatural would require something of Ghost in the Shell proportions, (and even then, it's still technically natural because the base design was human) but I think that's what you meant. The social constructs we make are what limit us from overrunning the planet. It is unnaturalness that lets us expand so successfully and yet still not ruin the world.
OT: Honestly, it sounds more like a fetish than a sexuality. I say this because transgender is supposed to provide the illusion of the opposing gender (and it does, you're still whatever your 23rd pair is) and thus I ask myself "how the fuck would you know?" Unless you go after the ones that you can clearly tell are transgender, you would have to find out first. At that point, it's probably more a sexual construction than an innate attraction.
You know, I find that fetishes are quite a tricky subject, since what do you really define as a fetish? What's the difference between having a preference for black girls and having a preference for BDSM dominatrices? How about paedophilia? Is it both? I mean, many paedophiles are only attracted to prepubescent children, not attracted to adult woman and prepubescent girls at the same time (perhaps then, it wouldn't be as much of a problem).Freechoice said:
It's a topic that people don't really seem to entertain in real-life social situations, and I think many people just dismiss it with "Oh, it's icky, it's a fetish!", yet people took the same mindset with homosexuality, thinking that it was some kind of threat to society when it was actually private. You know, it's easy to say that putting your cock into someone's shitter is disgusting, but really, is it any more disgusting than licking out someone's vagina, where piss and blood also comes out?
Anyway, sometimes you can tell that someone's transgender if there's simply something different about them that you notice; for example, slightly masculine facial features. Or if you go to a LGBT bar. I wouldn't go online, though; people lie all the time on the internet and it's somewhat more risky if you don't meet them face-to-face (or if you agree to meet them face-to-face, when they're still literally strangers to whom you've merely exchanged words through a computer).
Grey Day for Elcia, do you basically mean that dating a trans woman would be a bonus? As in, if I liked ginger girls (which I do) and I happened to fall in love with one, that wouldn't necessarily be shallow, would it? I think the same applies here. If it was just a sex thing (and I'm not saying that it is), then you'd have to set out the ground rules first: make it clear that it's just a one-night stand.
But, as others and I have already said, if you're looking for a relationship, then its fine, as long as you don't make it the all-encompassing object of your desire. Love and sex can get easily mixed up with some people, and I'm both sure and unsure as to why.
Really? That's... I dunno, that just seems like an odd stance to take.Melanie McGreevey said:
Then again, I have a hard time understanding anyone who says that an entire group of people are off the list of people they would consider being romantically involved with.
Still, as one who does not want to be judged on body issues, it seems... well, not horrible, but a bit hypocritical* to make that a "deal breaker" for yourself.
*[sub]No offense intended - at some time, about some things, everyone is a hypocrite, including myself - sometimes that's just the way it is.[/sub]
I kinda had the same belief.Melanie McGreevey said:
My reasons were:
1. Almost all trans people I know are huge 'omg I hate everyone!' type activists. I can't stand people like that.
2. Most trans people I knew would sequester themselves to the trans or maybe lgbt communities, and not involve themselves in anything that may have cis people in it. Fuck that, I'm not becoming a hermit.
I wouldn't go looking specifically for a transman to date, but I would consider it if they weren't the type of transman outlined in 1 or 2, and had had the srs already completed.
Grey Day,
Meeting a pre-op transsexual online is easier then you might think. Trust me I know what you are feeling and going threw! It took me a while to figure out what I was feeling and then once I was ready to date, oh my goodness, where do I find the special someone I am looking for? I will give you some ideas that you might not have considered that I have come to find by trial and error.
If you aren't familiar with the different types of transsexuals, you might want to stop by the site http://www.tggirlfriends.com/ where the transsexual beauty Amber Lynn offers free advice and a downloadable tgirl dating guide. This was actually pretty helpful for me and filled me in on a lot of background information that I had no idea about.
If you haven't tried a transsexual dating site before I highly recommend it. A few I like are http://trannyconnections.com/ and http://localshemalehookups.com/ . They are probably the best way to search for real people near you. Plus everyone is there for the same reason, you don't have to wonder if they are single or if they are just trying to get you to buy a drink.
You might also want to check out some tg chat rooms, they can be a fun way to start talking to people in the tg community- you never know who you might meet. Forums can be fun as well if you are looking for some social connectivity online. There is a pretty neat tg social networking site called http://fantasytgirls.com/ if you wan't to check it out too. I also have a profile there.
Hope this helps a little bit, I know it can be frustrating at first if you don't know where to look!
Meeting a pre-op transsexual online is easier then you might think. Trust me I know what you are feeling and going threw! It took me a while to figure out what I was feeling and then once I was ready to date, oh my goodness, where do I find the special someone I am looking for? I will give you some ideas that you might not have considered that I have come to find by trial and error.
If you aren't familiar with the different types of transsexuals, you might want to stop by the site http://www.tggirlfriends.com/ where the transsexual beauty Amber Lynn offers free advice and a downloadable tgirl dating guide. This was actually pretty helpful for me and filled me in on a lot of background information that I had no idea about.
If you haven't tried a transsexual dating site before I highly recommend it. A few I like are http://trannyconnections.com/ and http://localshemalehookups.com/ . They are probably the best way to search for real people near you. Plus everyone is there for the same reason, you don't have to wonder if they are single or if they are just trying to get you to buy a drink.
You might also want to check out some tg chat rooms, they can be a fun way to start talking to people in the tg community- you never know who you might meet. Forums can be fun as well if you are looking for some social connectivity online. There is a pretty neat tg social networking site called http://fantasytgirls.com/ if you wan't to check it out too. I also have a profile there.
Hope this helps a little bit, I know it can be frustrating at first if you don't know where to look!
