That's another thing I wonder too when it gets to be this early in the morning... What's the difference between being an ass and being assertive? For me it's the manner of approach. The ass will say and do things knowing it'll bother people and get them attention (but in some cases they see no connection with their actions and the reactions of others) while someone who's assertive will act in a way people will notice but not always just to benefit their own agenda.aPod said:
Myths, just plain myths. Being an asshole does not = alpha male behavior. Why do people always confuse being an asshole with cockiness (confidence). I'm a nice guy, but i'm confident. I walk into a room large and confident. That's what a women notices. Just like if a girl walks into a room with grace and an air of confidence i'll notice that.
To simplify the thought process before I fall asleep: Walking into a room and shouting obscenities will get attention for being bold and obnoxious. Walking into a room and shouting a greeting will get attention for being bold and obnoxious too, but still more approachable than the first option.