Hankage said:
Aries_Split said:
"No skin off my back so why should I give a shit? I mean, who cares if they gays cant get married. I mean, my rights aren't being infringed, so who am I to care?"
Pretty much, yes. As far as I'm concerned, the human race consists of three people: me, family and everyone else. Beyond that, I consider anything or one that doesn't apply to or interest me personally pretty much irrelevant, and you're raising your irrelevance quotient more or less by the second.
More is the pity this board doesn't have an 'ignore' feature if only to aid in my complete apathy of you.
I have mixed opinions about Ignore features, just because you really loathe someone on a few topics doesn't mean you won't wind up getting along on far more. Many times I've wound up becoming great friends/debate partners with people I first wound up loathing (not involving me here, but I come on strong at times, and some of the things I say do tend to irritate people since I'm hardly politically correct).
At any rate, I think everyone should care about the gay marriage issue because it DOES effect them. It's also a misrepresented and misunderstood arguement. It took me a while to really form an opinion on it.
I'm not great at articulating this, but it all comes down to tax money. The issue isn't so much a prohibation against them getting married, but the legal recognition of such. Generally speaking, there is no law preventing some priest or other authority recognized by those involved from presiding over a ceremony to bond two people of the same gender. None at all. In general marriage itself is pretty much declaring too people bonded to each other and "off limits" to everyone else. If the gay community accepts this and respects the bond then the marriage works on the fundemental level. Nobody is stopping this despite how it's portrayed.
The actual issue is the abillity to file as married for the purposes of things like taxes. Married couples gain benefits for a lot of things simply by being married. While not specifically stated these tax breaks and such are given based on the assumption that a married couple will be having children, and raising a family. While this does not ALWAYS happen, that is typically how things go. Two homosexuals, are not going to bear children no matter how much they love each other (barring some possible genetic engineering down the pipleline). There are issues about possible adoption, or whatever, but again the odds of that happening aren't quite up there with the "getting married, having a family" thing. There are also apparently various ways for those adopting children to get support ouside of the tax structure. Various foundations and such exist specifically to help with adoptions.
Others have broken it down far better than I can, as I am not an expert on tax law. But the idea being that a married gay couple will generally wind up paying less on things like property taxes for their main residence, compared to a single person or two people just living together at the same address. Any way it goes this means that when the goverment acknowleges those marriages a whole lot of people suddenly pay less taxes on things they paid more money for, and the goverment being what it is, is going to raise taxes in other places (who knows where) in order to allow for it. So ultimatly this comes down to a cost out of YOUR pocket since your going to be paying for it.
It ultimatly comes down as to whether you think the married tax breaks are fair when applied to homosexuals who are far, far, less likely to ever raise families as was intended by those laws. Though admittedly a lot of people do argue that they do not believe that this was the intent behind those laws.
There are other arguements that are used to sell this, like gay couples saying "oh why can't I be admitted into a hospital to see my dying life-partner without a marriage certificate". Of course there are other ways to pursue such things, and you already see a lot of hospitals changing their policies, and increased pressure (as the gay rights movement picks up steam) on the hold outs. So basically if gay rights succeeds this kind of thing goes along with it, and thus becomes somewhat seperate from the marriage issue.
It all basically comes down to "free money for being gay". That tax money that you save presumably to raise your family (and in the overwhelming number of cases that is how things will turn out, even if not all heterosexual couples have children), becomes money that the majority of homosexuals are just going to have availible to spend.
People are going to say "But Therumancer, your an anti-gay bigot, I expect this of you. It's mindless because of your overall rants".
Well let me put it to you this way, whether you think I'm a hypocrit or not, I have said I have no problem with Lesbians, but I do not believe in legally recognizing their marriages for these purposes. Even if I accepted gay men I wouldn't approve it for them.
From my perspective it all comes down to what those legal benefits for married couples are for. Whether I like the gay rights movement or not, the SOCIAL benefits will rise or fall as the overall movement does. But those legal benefits and little cuts one can get by claiming a spouse were put there for having and raising kids as I see things. Thus I feel those who are highly unlikely to ever do that should not gain those benefits. In the end that is all the legal recognition of marriage does for practical purposes.
On top of this the rest of the system isn't really ready for it. Let's say a gay couple breaks up. One dude sues another dude for spousal support (even if no kids are involved). Laugh if you want but I feel that entire area of law was developed around gender roles. Things like spousal support laws are a big enough mess that is hard enough to try and balance and untangle from the existing man/woman stereotype (it's gradually getting there though) without dumping homosexuals into the system.
What might make for an interesting episode of Jerry Springer is not nessicarly what I want to see the legal system I pay tax money for wading through... and of course stuff like that costs more money to deal with the increased case load. Not recognizing gay marriage also takes the legal burden off the system.