Girls DO actually like a guy who can cook... Ladies like to be pampered and they like good food. The older they are the more they'll appreciate it.
Do girls like men who can cook?
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Hell yes. You must have been dating the wrong women then.
Every woman I know would kill for a man that is willing to cook for them.
You would have women at your door every night over here. I'm so serious.
Every woman I know would kill for a man that is willing to cook for them.
You would have women at your door every night over here. I'm so serious.
The woman you have been with hated it?!TotalHobNob said:
What sort of woman are you seeing?
Do they have some sort of mentality that it is 'womans work' or something?
Just let them know that it was considered 'bad luck' for a woman to be in a kitchen during the old days and that male chefs where the only ones considered skilled enough to handle food more complex then stew. That it has only been a recent change to the social mentality, and even then mostly limited to the 'western' countries, that have made it womans work. Even to this day, in many countries, it is still considered wrong to eat food prepared by a woman not part of your immediate family.
So yes, many countries still view knowing how to cook well as a positive masculine trait.
It is my experience that most woman just love men who know how to prepare food and are willing enough to make complex dishes for them to enjoy. They consider it extra romantic if pulled off right and that isn't hard to do. Set a nice table and wait on them, serving food prepared well by yourself that you know they enjoy, and leave the impression that they can have that every night if they are willing. See how many of them still hate the idea of a man in the kitchen after that.
That wasn't what I was stating. I was referring to the effects of gender roles on people's perceptions of a man cooking. Even in reference to proffesional male chefs, it is rarely (if ever) their cooking skill that expresses masculinity. They can be respected for their phenomenal skill, but I have never seen someone say, or look like they want to say, "Wow, that guy cooked me an incredibly fancy meal, how very masculine of him".Sleekit said:
Those girls are crazy. The ability to cook is one of the most desirable qualities a man can have (it means he won't expect you to do it every single time).
Without the last line explaining it, that logically parses in some interesting ways.Troublesome Lagomorph said:
Anyhow, where you live makes me think of Yahtzee's manly vs. macho essay.
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Every women who's ever learned I liked to cook has had the hots for me, or at least thought it was cool.
are you communicating from an alternate dimension where people eat rocks, and anything that tastes edible is considered to be committing a crime simply by existing? do the people there have shoes in their mouths because that's the popular fashion trend as well?
alright, I'll stop joking, but seriously, cooking is a great skill, sometimes a talent. what're they complaining for?
alright, I'll stop joking, but seriously, cooking is a great skill, sometimes a talent. what're they complaining for?
I'd say the manly line is drawn just before a roast. So basically if it is a semi-basic red meat dish, or is the result of a successful hunt (including fishing), then it can be cooked without any social stigma. Also, I think the social view comes from a lingering presence of the house-managing wife stereotype, where the female did all the household chores like cooking, cleaning, sewing, etc. Personally I don't think any more or less of a man (in terms of manliness) if they can cook. I think that a guy who can cook would be desirable for people interested in a male romantic partner, as it seems to show that the man will contribute to the relationship as a full member, rather than letting the woman do all the work while they hang out with mates and get drunk (or whatever hobby they happen to have). As in, it looks more like the is involved in the relationship by not having a clear dependency on gender roles, meaning the relationship is between to equal partners.Sleekit said:eh i've never heard anyone assign or even hint at assigning a sexuality through producing food...well outside the oddly shaped vegetable "joke".Biosophilogical said:
you are saying it's feminine. i hear that. never have i heard anyone say such a thing in RL tho.
where do you draw the line i wonder ? is BBQ manly ?
what about gutting and cooking fish you just caught ?
or an animal after after hunting ? are butchers pansys ?
if your making a cake for a child is it manly if its in the shape of a transformer and the child is male or are you a closet homosexual because you cut the same basic cake into the shape of a pony and put pink icing on it for your little girl ?
sooooo many questions...
yes at this point i'm taking the micky
EDIT: Then again, I've never really thought about it, so I'm really just feeling my way through the topic and hoping for the best.
Most, if not all of the girls I know, appreciate it when their boyfriend can cook. Aside from the fact you feel special and looked after when someone goes to the trouble of making you nice food, it also implies, that he's competent and grown up enough to take care of himself.
Being a good cook is as manly as being a good musician, only more so because cooking usually involves blood and dead animals in some form or another. Neither is inherently manly since they don't involve directly brutalizing anything, but most things don't.
Any guy who thinks cooking is worthy of mockery is either a lazy prick or is intimidated by any one aside from himself being good at anything. For any woman who thinks it's weak, firstly self-sufficiency isn't weak, secondly please try to work in a restaurant and reaffirm that point (tip: don't wear mascara, it will just stain the tear-streaks into your skin).
Any guy who thinks cooking is worthy of mockery is either a lazy prick or is intimidated by any one aside from himself being good at anything. For any woman who thinks it's weak, firstly self-sufficiency isn't weak, secondly please try to work in a restaurant and reaffirm that point (tip: don't wear mascara, it will just stain the tear-streaks into your skin).
It's not that complicated. In the abstract, watching two hot guys can work for women the same as two hot girls for men. In the more personal relationship sense, it means you can have a threesome with no other girls (if that's your preference and your relationship). Besides, I've totally bonded with partners over noticing cute girls, being bi rocks.Jinx_Dragon said:
There. Figured out ^^
Oh man, a guy who can cook is generally a rare thing. I know that it always blows my mind when I have a boyfriend who can make me supper.
It shouldn't be a gender-based thing... my father and my brothers are three of the best cooks I know, and my boyfriend not only cooks, he makes an effort to get family recipes for the two of us to make together.
If you want to make something 'manly', may I suggest the recipes from artofmanliness.com? I have yet to try it but they have a delicious-looking recipe for roast chicken, as well as a few articles on the proper tools and skills you need for the kitchen.
It shouldn't be a gender-based thing... my father and my brothers are three of the best cooks I know, and my boyfriend not only cooks, he makes an effort to get family recipes for the two of us to make together.
If you want to make something 'manly', may I suggest the recipes from artofmanliness.com? I have yet to try it but they have a delicious-looking recipe for roast chicken, as well as a few articles on the proper tools and skills you need for the kitchen.
Oh God yes. As the oldest female in my household, I'm expected the cook every day, for everyone, and for every taste. Now, before you all state the obvious--yes, I hate it, and I know it's not fair. I know it's not my job to feed my brother or his children. But, because I do this, I'm not asked to pay rent by my father. I consider this a fair trade for now.
But the second I've got a place of my own and a man I like enough to share it with, I'm going to ask that he be respectful enough to share the load. I'm perfectly happy cooking for someone. I love it, in fact. I just hate that it's 'expected' of me. All I ask is this: If you CAN do it, Do it. Don't be such a lazy ass.
But the second I've got a place of my own and a man I like enough to share it with, I'm going to ask that he be respectful enough to share the load. I'm perfectly happy cooking for someone. I love it, in fact. I just hate that it's 'expected' of me. All I ask is this: If you CAN do it, Do it. Don't be such a lazy ass.
I love a man who cooks, I'm in love with a man who loves to cook. All the women I know love men who can cook. Your friends are dicks for making fun of you and you need to find yourself some ladies who aren't going to be snobby bitches about it and will actually be grateful about it. Cooking is a fantastic skill to have. It can also be very sexy. As a lady, your honey makes you a nice meal...mmmm (in more ways than one).
Well your group of friends is either really young or you are really bad at cooking.
Either way keep those skills and improve them if nothing else do it for yourself, and yes girls do like that skill, just not those teenage bimbos.
And most notably that cannot be your sole relationship sales pitch, if you can attract girls with your personality, then cooking just sweetens the deal.
Either way keep those skills and improve them if nothing else do it for yourself, and yes girls do like that skill, just not those teenage bimbos.
And most notably that cannot be your sole relationship sales pitch, if you can attract girls with your personality, then cooking just sweetens the deal.
*sputter*TotalHobNob said:
Weak...? You, my friend are hanging out with the wrong type of women. Next girl that calls it weak, challenge her to do just one hour on a line at dinner rush on a Friday night...
How can it be weak? You're dealing with fire and sharp shit... How is that not masculine?
In my family the men cook. My mom, my sisters and my wife are all barely competent when it comes to food. Whenever I go back home, my dad and I do 7 course wine-paired dinners with amuse-bouches etc.... In what universe would that not get you laid?
And now I'm upset....
Salaam