Do I deserve to be spat on for saying this to a gay person?

[Drazeric]

This type of shit always gets me steamed. If it would have been a man and a girl the media would have never done anything. Like yes im grossed out by 2 guys kissing but i would have done the same thing to a man and a woman. Like has no one ever heard of the expresion "get a room?". Im glad that your buddy decided to take the right course of action and smash his face in.

 

[Megawizard]

I hate seeing ANYONE suck-face in public regardless of gender, especially if it's someplace people generally gather (like a movie theater). Save it for privacy.

 

[RelexCryo]

I support gay marriage and treating gays like everyone else. But here is the key thing: I support treating them like everyone else. Some homosexuals are assholes, simply because homosexuals are human beings, not benevolent angels. Simply because they are human beings like everyone else, some of them are jerks. And assuming a homosexual who is a jerk got hurt because he is homosexual-rather than because he is a jerk- is bigotry in itself.

 

[Vunts]

To reply to the question in the OP: the spitter was being rude. Unless your friend used some different wording while asking them to stop, he shouldn't have reacted as such, unless he's a [censored].

 

[X10J]

i love movies and the expirence as a whole. detracting from said expirence is, for me, a huge no no. and im easily distracted. in short, if your friend wasn't a jerk about it, he's got every right, in my opinion, to ask them to stop.

off topic: Inception was awesome right.

 

[Sneaklemming]

reminds me of the little knackers who were showing off each others ring tones during the last 30mins of return of the king, because being little shits, they got bored, and decided to treat the place like their own halting site.

People can be assholes, and even if it was a girl and a guy eating the face off each other infront of a guy trying to enjoy a movie, then the reaction of the person kissing should certainly not be to immediately spit into the face of the person asking them to stop.

 

[Blindswordmaster]

Though your friend didn't deserve to be spat on and the gay couple was being rude, it's never a good idea to interrupt two people doing the do. That's just something a lot of people have a hair up their ass about. I imagine a straight couple would have reacted the same way.
P.S. Two men kissing doesn't really bother me, as the internet has brought me many more disturbing images. Two guys kissing is nothing after seeing someone's head after a train ran over it. But I'll admit that I may just be jaded.

 

[Alandoril]

Both parties were wrong.

 

[Shock and Awe]

I believe the gay dude deserved to get an ass kicking for spitting in someones face, that is just not something you do.

 

[TheBaron87]

The guys kissing were definitely in the wrong. If they wanted to do that sort of thing in the theater that's what the back row is for, and spitting on a person, no matter what they said, is escalation. They made it physical, not your friend.

 

[Kenko]

I think its rude and impolite to do it whether yer a gay-couple or a straight-couple. Keep that shit in either open public spaces like fuck if i know a park or in private places like yer home. Not in places like cinema's where people have payed to get into.

Its gross when everyone does it in public. But its especially so when its two attention-craving losers who do it just to aggrivate people. Keep yer goddamn tonsil hockey to yerselves couples. No1 else wants to see it. Whats next? People fucking in the streets? Atleast keep it civil.

 

[SenseOfTumour]

I don't mind who it is, cuddling and occasional kissing is fine, but when it's constant and audible kissing, it's gone too far for public, and either move to the back or just out completely.

To me tho, it does rather hang on whether he asked' hey guys, you're kinda interrupting there film there, could ya tone it down or move back a few rows?' or 'hey fags! quit being such faggots, you fags!'

One is entirely fair enough, one displays a reason for them to react badly.

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

This is more of a PDA issue than a homosexuality/homophobia issue.
If you would have accepted a heterosexual couple making out but reacted this way in this scenario you're a bigot.

Well, see, part of it is that my friend probably wouldn't have cared as much and/or ignored them if it was a heterosexual couple (in fact, the friend has probably done far worse things in public with his girlfriend. Not to mention in my other friend's bed. Ick.)

The guy's no angel, but he's a nice person at heart, and I really wouldn't describe him as a 'bigot'. He just hates watching men kiss. As do I. I mean, if it were two straight dudes kissing just for the laugh (i.e. they were just drunk, and not gay) I'd be just as disturbed as two guys who love each other. It's purely the mental image. For some reason.

Is that still bigoted?

That's natural disgust you can't help.
At the same time, if you would have let a heterosexual couple get by with it, yes it's bigoted.
It's like if I gave a white-white or a black-black couple a pass on making out in front of me but God forbid there be interracial kissing.
Your friend sounds like a hypocrite who partially got what he deserved in this new light, but at the same time, the gay guy still deserves a punch in the face, because there's no way he would have known about all this background before he spat at your friend.

 

[zHellas]

Am I Wrong?-Snip

Nah. You probably should have beat the guy who spat in your friend's face up.

 

[Naheal]

I do the same to hetero couples. I find it irritating that they decide to share so much of their affection for each other with the world. Get a damn room, people.

 

[Imp Erection]

I think both parties exaggerated.

Also, it's hard to judge who is right and wrong when you're only hearing one side of the story, told by the friend of the guy who was spat on. For all we know the tone the guy used to tell them to stop was venomous or somethin', or maybe the OP is leaving something out or exaggerating more.

I personally don't see how anyone kissing is distracting, but think of it from the couple's POV. Maybe the friend caught them in their first kiss, or maybe it was a really tender spur of the moment type thing, or maybe one said "I love you" for the first time or some shit like that, and then they hear someone tellin' them to stop. I'd be mad too. Granted, spitting was wrong.

ALSO, what some people consider "making out" is sometimes a few pecks here and there. This goes back to my previous statement how the OP could be exaggerating.

tl;dr, no one can really say who was totally right or wrong because we're only aware of one side of the story.

Oh, and also, fuckin' media. They make everything into a hate crime! >.>

 

[thebreadbinman]

if it was a guy and a girl getting off in front of me I'd ask them to stop.
If it was a girl and a girl, I'd watch that instead
sure inception was good, but come one...

 

[Levitas1234]

The friend made a wisecrack i guarantee, if not than those guys were douches and hopefully got their asses kicked in the brawl.

 

[dallan262]

I wrote the title in first person so it'd be more immediate and attention-grabbing, but this actually happened to a friend of mine (yeah right, I'm sure you're thinking). Though it could hypothetically happen to me.

My friend and I have discussed how we feel about homosexuality, and we generally agreed that we accept it as long as it's not annoying or obnoxious, just like everything else. We don't like gays going all "look at me, I'm so gay!" just as we dislike emos going "look at me, I'm all deep and dark!" or political extremists or whatever. We're both friends with a gay guy, and we treat him the same as anyone else (I mean, we "tease" him about it, but he doesn't mind, and he slags us right back. Everyone's got something to rip on).

But one thing was that it always creeped me out to see guys kiss. I don't think I'm really alone on this. It's like the equivalent of watching someone pick their nose. It's just... eew. It's not something I have any control over, it just disturbs me on a fundamental level. People have been throwing slogans around like "homosexuality isn't a choice, but homophobia is", and I'd have to say that if being a bit disgusted by men kissing is homophobic, then it really isn't a choice. If I had a choice, I wouldn't choose to be disgusted by anything. (On a side note, I always hated the word "homophobe". 'Homos' means 'one and the same', so 'homophobia' would technically mean 'a pathological fear of things staying the same')

Anyway, here's the thing. Recently my friend and his friend went to see Inception (I think), and the cinema was fairly empty, except for these two other guys in front of them. And halfway through the film these two other guys got bored, for whatever reason, and started making out. And my friend was distracted, and grossed out, and couldn't enjoy the film properly. So, never being one to suffer in silence, he gently (according to him) said something alone the lines of "here lads, would you give it a rest? We're trying to watch a movie". And then, one of the guys turned and spat directly into my friend's face.

This apparently resulted in a big brawl (as all things in Ireland inevitably do), and everyone was ejected from the cinema. The local newspaper even caught wind of it, spinning the whole thing to sound like some sort of hate crime riot.


So, what do you think? Was my friend being intolerant, and deserved what he got? Were the homosexual couple being rude, and should've stopped when asked? Did they overreact? Do you think gays in general seem to be more intolerant of people expressing their feelings about homosexuality than heterosexuals are? Or do you think the homosexual community should take a zero tolerance policy to any form of discrimination?

I'm not really sure what to believe.

i have kind of a similar story that did actually happen to me...

me and you seem to have the exact same opinion on gay people they are cool make good friends and are generally sound guys but i cant stand the ones that try and make a big deal aboutit...

anways storytime.

it was my girlfriends (at the time) birthday and since it was her night i said to her we could go anywhere she wanted it was just us some of her girl friends and her gay friend so she chose the gay club "for some grope free dancing and so her friend can pull" i said sure (although woulda been much happier if she chose the union or something, anyways when we get there we danced to some hefty choons and were having a great drunkin time, when someone grabbed me on the ass, i knew it wasnt my gfs, but thought it was her gay mate you know taking the piss having a laugh inding me up like he does, so i turn round and it was some pervy old man me drunk and not feeling happy about the whole thing (naturaly) i turned round and punched him in the face being dundee this esculated into quite a big fight, we managed to get out, i did feel really bad since it was my gfs birthday so i apologised for being a dick and overreacting like i did but then she started gettin angry because i am such a homophobe i pointed out that and her gay friend is like one of the soundest guys i kno and that see if that was a guy that groped her ass (that wasnt me) she wouldnt turn round and slap him? but apparently thats not the same thing =/

anyways yeah your mate had every right to tell them to stop making out i have been told numerous times in cinemas to stop making out with the girl im with... they fight for equal rights but then when they start gettin treated equally they complain about its bein homophobic? thats what annoys me most its the same with racism sexism etc etc its getting a bit rediculous especially in the UK