And herein lies the problem. You see, there are nice guys, and then there are Nice Guys. A nice guy will hold the door for his girlfriend, randomly give her a compliment or a little gift, listen to her wants and needs, and try to include her in aspects of his life that are important and that she might enjoy as well. A Nice Guy will fawn over his girlfriend, continuously put his own wants and needs aside for her, and act more like a groveling peon towards a princess than a human being who is in love.novixz said:So basically when I say nice guys, I mean people who talk to their GF 24/7 complementing her, treating her like a celebrity, not really knowing who their dating, they just know their dating somebody, and that's good enough for them.
And, invariably, the Nice Guy becomes resentful. He thinks, "I am doing so much for her; why doesn't she adore me like I adore her?" The reason: A Nice Guy is a doormat, and it's very hard to adore a doormat. A woman is much more inclined to be attracted to a man who is living his own life, but cares enough for her to make room in it for her. (And any smart man is likely to feel the same way about a woman.)
Look at it from an average woman's point of view: If a man is so fawning, has such a low view of himself, then how can he be an equal partner in a relationship? How can he help create a thriving family, when it's likely he'll miss out on opportunities due to his low self-esteem?
Also, a side note to all those reading this who are in high school: Please realize that everyone in high school is an idiot. Yes, that includes you, your best friend, your girlfriend/boyfriend, the bullies, the sportos, the motorheads, geeks, sluts, bloods, wasteoids, dweebies, dickheads- okay, you see where I'm going with this. You're all idiots. It's not your fault- high school is the absolute worst environment for normal human development. It is four years (give or take, depending on your school system) of accelerated mental and emotional learning with almost no guidance and everyone in a position of power watching you like a hawk to ensure that you follow THEIR ideals. My advice: Take whatever you can from the experience that will serve you in the future, and let the rest slide off your back. It truly is meaningless.