I don?t claim to be some master of relationships or a self-help guru. I?m just a guy logging his penny?s worth. You can get the fashion tips and pick up lines anywhere; I?m just giving you my account on matters.
I would say that the most likely people to actually attempt to ask a girl out are those who project the necessary suave and confidence and are usually the more outgoing ones. Allot of the time the more confident types are also the more likely to take advantage of their dates or come and go as they please.
However the more shy, what you might consider ?The nice guys?, guys usually don?t even attempt to ask girls out out and therefore the women usually end up dating the kind of people who are more likely to take advantage than the shy guys who may treat them better.
My advice on meeting someone would be as simple as talk to her. The majority of times guys are so petrified of rejection they miss every opportunity that presents itself. Simply approaching someone and saying hello is a big step that very few guys ever dare to take. If you?re the kind of person who doesn?t go to bars chances are you won?t find the kind of person you would want to be with there. Go to parks, coffee shops etc. If you try to change yourself or model yourself after someone else people will smell it a mile off.
My advice on keeping someone you care about is simply hearing. Probably the worst thing you could do (Outside of cheating, abuse etc) is ignore what they?re saying or ignore them. That doesn?t mean call them 24/7, give expensive gifts or remain tied at the hip for all eternity, it just means make sure that you have time together and that you actually hear what they say, there?s a difference between listening and hearing.
After reading allot of the comments here I can say that I spent allot of time like that. I used to think of myself as a Lone Wolf type, never understood relationships, and never thought I would have one. Personally I was lucky to find my girlfriend, mostly because she asked me out on a completely unrelated topic and I was completely clueless to her advances at first. But it happened to me, I remember it as the happiest time of my life and it showed- my work improved, my friends saw the change in me and I had a revelation that has stayed with me. Never think it can?t happen for you or you?re too far gone, the only obstacle you have to overcome is your own fear.
I would like to challenge anyone currently single in search of some kind of relationship to go out this weekend and talk to someone you see you think you might like. I guarantee whatever the outcome you will find it a richly rewarding experience. I hope to have a few replies to this to accompany the torrent of hate mail, death threats and court injunctions one has to from expect posting things on the internet these days.