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Sorry I just put up with a lot of people who aren't.Squarez said:
as for the question...
Mainly through Skype due to it's IM capabilities.
and I'm almost always at home, I work from home (for now-)
I go to school at home (long story-)
so getting ahold of me is probably easier and more responsive then posting something on facebook and waiting for people to reply.
unless I'm getting groceries or in the shower or something in which case I'll reply within an hour... or if I'm asleep STOP BUGGING ME AT MIDNIGHT!
EDIT: Oh, or steam, skype or steam both have grouping capabilities (although skype is FAR better for it)
and on my list of ways to contact me add "Bnet" to that list
also emailing me
I respond instantly (thank you email notifier!)
You should probably have a Facebook if that's how everyone keeps in touch, but that was pretty... not smart of your friend to not even remember that he invited you.
Umm... I don't think I'm being "cool" or anything like that, I just don't have time for facebook (because I'm very busy) and if I work from home why would I waste money on a cell phone when I can have a home phone and save a couple hundred a month.mr_rubino said:
As for me being Luddite (or whatever you would say for someone being a Luddite) No, I used to be ahead in the tech curve all the time, but there are some things that just arn't needed and cost an arm and a leg to have
i.e. a car when everywhere I need to go is 3-5 blocks away (I kid you not everything is that close)
I'm not saying cars are bad or have no use, I love cars, I just don't need one for where I need to go and I save LOTS money on gas
(-okay THAT and there's only 1 car and 2 people, and one of those people *cough* my mom *cough* needs her car to get to work in the mornings... so I'm kinda STUCK walking everywhere, but it's no burden at all)
With the right settings (and **most importantly** if you don't accept random strangers as friends...), you don't get spammed on Facebook.
It was a bit insensitive from your friend not to notice you're not receiving the updates though.
However, I had the case rencently where some person I know at work was disappointed that nobody remembered his birthday, however my first thought was "no wonder given you did not fill the birthday date on skype [or facebook]", I guess times change.
It was a bit insensitive from your friend not to notice you're not receiving the updates though.
However, I had the case rencently where some person I know at work was disappointed that nobody remembered his birthday, however my first thought was "no wonder given you did not fill the birthday date on skype [or facebook]", I guess times change.
In her case, it was quite silly of her to wait to call if she wanted something urgent, however email (or Facebook in that case) feel more respectful of other people's time because phone requires a person's entire attention at the one random moment you call whereas an email or private message doesn't assume people are available to respond right now or that they should drop everything they're doing to respond.Whargarble said:
Another gripe is people who call from blocked numbers or abroad, yet don't leave a message if I can't respond, so I can't guess who the heck that was, but that's yet another thing.
Frankly OP, I wouldn't have called you either. This is apparently a gathering with a fairly large group of people, which is, surprise, much easier to organize with an event page on Facebook than pretty much anything else. Phone calls are saved for really serious situations where the personal touch is necessary, situations where an in-depth conversation between no more than two people is required, situations where an immediate response (as in, within the next minute or two) is necessary, or for talking to one's family/significant other. Facebook is very good at communication between large groups -- in fact, it's better even than e-mail, which on its own is far and away better than phone calls. Finally, when the situation is not time sensitive, it's actually more polite to contact someone over facebook, since you aren't imposing on their time in the way a phonecall out of the blue can do -- or am I the only one who frequently doesn't want to drop what he's doing to take a phone call about something trivial?
Also, the point of status updates, shared videos, pictures and the like is allowing people who know each other in real life to share and discuss them, even when they aren't in the same room -- or the same country, for that matter. The part in italics is why sites like the Escapist are not a replacement for Facebook -- I don't know a single one of you in real life, or if I do, neither party knows the other's username, and therefore may as well be strangers. On facebook, I personally know every individual on my friends list -- at the weakest connection, they're still acquaintances who I know in real life, and had some reason to add on facebook. As for status updates being annoying in and of themselves, yes, "Going to bed, see everyone tomorrow" may be pointless, but let's say the update is "Ran into Neil Patrick Harris on the city bus today!" to use an exttreme example. I don't know about you, but if one of my friends rode the bus with Neil Patrick Harris, I'd want to know. Ultimately, status updates are there to generate conversations; it's not the status itself that matters, but rather the conversation in the comments section.
In closing, if you actually want to stay in touch with your friends, do yourself a favor and get a Facebook account. At this point, you're acting like the luddites who complained that the telephone replaced the written letter. Well no duh it's being replaced, it's better suited to all but a select few forms of long distance communication, which the older option still gets used for.
Also, the point of status updates, shared videos, pictures and the like is allowing people who know each other in real life to share and discuss them, even when they aren't in the same room -- or the same country, for that matter. The part in italics is why sites like the Escapist are not a replacement for Facebook -- I don't know a single one of you in real life, or if I do, neither party knows the other's username, and therefore may as well be strangers. On facebook, I personally know every individual on my friends list -- at the weakest connection, they're still acquaintances who I know in real life, and had some reason to add on facebook. As for status updates being annoying in and of themselves, yes, "Going to bed, see everyone tomorrow" may be pointless, but let's say the update is "Ran into Neil Patrick Harris on the city bus today!" to use an exttreme example. I don't know about you, but if one of my friends rode the bus with Neil Patrick Harris, I'd want to know. Ultimately, status updates are there to generate conversations; it's not the status itself that matters, but rather the conversation in the comments section.
In closing, if you actually want to stay in touch with your friends, do yourself a favor and get a Facebook account. At this point, you're acting like the luddites who complained that the telephone replaced the written letter. Well no duh it's being replaced, it's better suited to all but a select few forms of long distance communication, which the older option still gets used for.
Excuse the double post, but what kind of phone are you looking at that costs a couple hundred a month? I have a basic prepaid phone, which I buy a $30 card for once every two months -- and I could easily squeeze another month's use out of one card if it didn't use service days in addition to minutes. You don't have to shell out for a smart phone and a data plan to have the use of a phone that you can carry in your pocket.WOPR said:
No problem with the double post.Owyn_Merrilin said:
And I need a phone that can take a LOT of calls, and not cost me an arm and a leg; not texts or anything like that, just calls, lots and lots of calls... *sigh*
SO! we have a home-phone pay next to nothing a month, local and incoming calls free, and long distance calls have a very low flat-rate (like... 5 cents/minute... and I never make long distance calls)
so that's like what?
$3 for an hour conversation across the country?
I'll say I had a myspace for a month or 2 for that exact reasonIronic Pirate said:
I made it to shut them up (because back then I just hated everyone I came in contact with instead of ALMOST everyone I came in contact with)
then I was getting 3x the messages form them telling me to "CHECK YOUR MYSPACE!"
I did something to shut people up
and I get bugged more
luckily that noise they made stopped when facebook became popular
So what's worse?
"Make a facebook" "Make a facebook" "Make a facebook"
or
"CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!" "CHECK YOUR FACEBOOK!"
(yes I did that a proper amount of times so you could see the spam difference)
You could just check it every time you check your email, it actually takes less time. For that matter, I check Facebook daily, but I only check my email two or three times a week -- but that's because Facebook has taken over for everything but business e-mails, not because e-mail is less invasive than Facebook. It sounds to me like you're just looking for an excuse to avoid dealing with people.WOPR said:
Screw it. Facebook isn't necessary, email is simpler for that kind of heads up, or even TEXTING. And they have been around for longer. And they still do their jobs perfectly well.
You are free to choose if you want to put your personal data in a social site or not. (Privacy concerns aside).
You are free to choose if you want to put your personal data in a social site or not. (Privacy concerns aside).
Get a social website that steals your email addresses to send to spammer sites for them to make cash? Just because all the weak minded individuals are doing it doesn't mean you have to, to be a leader you don't follow the mob mentality, you set yourself apart.MR T3D said:
My goodness, people.
Clearly, you're not worth the time of the people you considered friends either.WOPR said:
Number of times my email addresses have been "stolen" by facebook? Zero.Diamondback One said:
dont have facebook and probably never will, i dont see what the big deal about it is really, if people want to get a hold of me they can do so by phone,email,xbox live hell even msn if need be so id say im in the small minourity of people with out facebook and proud
if that were really all it was then i still wouldn't be able to cause I'd forget (like with my online German work) but that's not it. people expect things everyday. there are people checking every MINUTE cause that IS their LIFE and to be honest that scares me quite a bit.DeadlyYellow said:
Facebook is stupid. The only reason I have it is so I can see things people send me on Facebook, because you need to be logged in to see anything. Anyone who only uses Facebook to get in touch with people seriously needs to reevaluate where their priorities are.
I blame your friend for being lazy. No offense but I don't think he needed you that badly if he didn't make it a primary concern to contact you individualy rather then with the group
I have a Facebook page but never actually use it. Social interaction really isn't my thing and I really couldn't give a shit about 9/10 of the stuff people post on there. Especially the attention whores who don't even try to be subtle. If you have a problem with someone, take it to PM, Facebook has that feature. Why go to the trouble of posting it for the world to see...ohhhh...you want people to feel sorry for you and reply saying "Don't sweat it, you're a wonderful person and loads of people love you", jeez.
I'm notoriously difficult to contact, and the few people who I'll actually allow to contact me know to do it by text message. Nobody other than work even has my home phone number. Text me and I'll get back to you in a day or so, that's how I work.
I'm notoriously difficult to contact, and the few people who I'll actually allow to contact me know to do it by text message. Nobody other than work even has my home phone number. Text me and I'll get back to you in a day or so, that's how I work.