So what are you looking for here? Is there some mythical Ideal Non-Controversial Woman? This concept as a whole is pretty irritating. Here is what I gleaned from the OP, with some of my interpretations thrown in.
She has to be pretty, because ugly is a statement on how pretty women are overdone, but not too pretty/sexy, because that's pandering. She has to be badass but not masculine, because masculine means the author is saying feminine is bad, but not overly feminine, because that's also pandering. So where in hell is this middle ground?
I'm going to ignore this and go for "awesome women who aren't there solely to be sexy or token females," since it's hard to nitpick to the middle of every axis of personality. Some of these have been done, but...
- Chie Satonaka: she fights in her school uniform, so you can't blame her for the skirt. She knows martial arts and can beat up the guys, but she is not so Ice Queen Badass that she can't chat about cute boys with her BFF Yukiko.
- Naoto Shirogane: her confusion about "men get the Better Treatment in my field, but I'm a woman" is genuine and not overplayed, and in the end, she's okay showing her more feminine side to people she trusts, while maintaining a strict neutral professionalism otherwise. I like.
- Samus, but you can argue that her gender is covered instead of simply made a neutral point.
- The Boss from MGS3. Badass enough to be the world's greatest soldier, female enough to birth and care for a baby, tough enough to shoot her lover for the sake of her country.
- EVA from MGS3. But her boobs are hanging out, you say? Ah, but that's the point! She *knows* what the stereotypes are, and she deliberately plays to them just to flip off all the people who are going "bleh, token boobsy female." In the end, she snows everyone because they're all too busy staring at her chest to notice her brain.
- People like Chell or FemShep can qualify, although they have been disqualified earlier in the thread due to being "author insert" shells.
- Tali from Mass Effect. She has a pretty female figure (suit curves WHOA) but wears the most clothes of just about any pretty female you'll ever see in a game, and she is reasonably proportioned. She plays support usually, but she also has a shotgun and has to deal with being part of a space-stranded species who are disparaged by everyone else in the galaxy. She holds her own, jumps into the crew of the most legendary starship known to man, and kicks lots of ass in the end. I'm tempted to count Liara for her stint as the Shadow Broker, but come on, all the Asari are there to be Sexy Blue Women. A female-only species who can mate with anything? Seriously now.
The problem with "oversexualized male" characters is that they tend to differ wildly in what "oversexualized" means. Some might consider hulking muscleheads with no shirt to be oversexualized, while I just think they're silly. Some might consider bishounen "girly-man" types to be oversexualized. For women, it's "tiny waist big boobs," but with men you get a range of pandering.
So...yeah, not sure what to answer for that.
Also, Dear Everyone: you *can* have muscles and boobs. What are you defining as muscles? Sure, bodybuilders scrape away every ounce of fat, but really, you can have a lot of *muscle* without being a *bodybuilder.* In fact, folks who can't store fat also can't usually gain much muscle. Have you seen women weightlifters? As distinguished from bodybuilders, women who just straight-up training lift are often larger people both in fat and muscle, which means they will also have bigger boobs. I will hazard a guess that because of this, most women who are not professional-no-fat folks, who have muscles, are also going to have at least an average size chest.
