Gentlemen, Is chivalry dead?

Jfswift

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I don't think it's dead yet. I still hold the door open for people, and some women still appreciate little displays of courtesy like that.
 

Smooth Operator

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Well most of my acts of chivalry have been met with condesending looks or remarks, so it's not that chivalry is dead, just unwanted.
On the other hand women always complain how there are no true gentlemen left... silly little game we play.
 

Glaive_21842

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I've always wondered why chivalry should be limited to men helping women. I, for one, can honestly say that I've held open doors for just as many men as i have women. Of course, most of my door holding experience comes from waiting for my ride after college lets out. I'm just there, so i may as well open doors.

I can't say the same for coat borrowing. Although, I've only borrowed out my coat once (to a girl) and most guys i know of aren't particularly succeptible to the cold. With that said, i can't really see myself doing anything different for a freezer-baby girl as i would for a freezer-baby guy...unless its below freezing. Nobody gets my coat then >_<.

In the end, if chivalry is simply manners, then why doesn't it apply in all situations?
 

Elburzito

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Nay, I don't think it's dead, just much harder to find. I've seen a few occasions of chivalry myself.
 

Imperius

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Chivalry is not dead.
I just can't show its face during the daytime.
Chivalry is underground now,
If you're really lucky you might glimpse it.
It stays in the shadows, watching and protecting.
It is....the Dark Knight!
 

II2

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I dare say it needn't be, good sir. Though perhaps an investigation of context is in order to ensure a modicum of success, right-o!
 

gamerguyal

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I've been called a gentlemen several times when I was just doing something because I felt it was the right thing to do. Apparently all it takes to be a gentleman this day is to be a good guy. I've been told that I'm just "being someone's *****" when I'm simply doing someone a favor or helping them out because guess what, that's what a decent person does. The only time I will go out of my way to treat a girl differently than a guy is if I'm into her/we're dating. It might still happen with a girl that's just a friend, but the difference is, in that case I'm not thinking about it, I just do it almost automatically, and it's usually something small.
 

Hman121

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I believe that chivalry is not dead, but if it is considered dead by society, then I have no trouble living in the past. Anyways, it's basic manners.
 

BiscuitTrouser

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DonMartin said:
Good sir I couldn't agree more, I have a great deal of friends of the female nature and i've noticed none of them seem to accept any gentleman like behaviour I show without at least a verbal sparring match. For example if it is raining and I offer my coat to a friend she will inevitibly argue she does not need it, even though it is common knowlegde I like the rain and cold weather. Also when I attempt to purchase a hungry lady any food I am met with resistance, as if my generosity will leave them indebted to me, any attempt to explain this is simply a gift seems to pass right over them. I am baffled as to why all my lady friends seem to find my generosity strange and unfounded as if I do it only to recieve praise or leave them in some sort of debt to me. Indeed I have had to learn ways to make any lady friend accept my gifts, for example refusing to wear the coat myself if they do not. Although they begrudgingly accept it they seem thankfull afterwards, indeed they seem to appreciate the gentleman conduct until the situation arises again where inevitibly they will object to any kind of favors I may attempt to do for them. This reaction is most confusing, I enjoy looking out for my female friends. This harmless ettiquete does not leave me down by any large amount, I am surprised people are so reluctant to recieve gifts or any attempt to make their lives easier. It is only out of the fact I enjoy the company of my lady friends do I help them like this.
 

Emperor Platypus

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I just brought a lady home because she was to drunk to do it herself.

Did I know her? Not really
Did I try anything with her? No
Will I be trying something with in the foreseeable future? and did I simply try to harvest some 'nice guy points' by doing this selfless deed? No

Does that make me a gentlemen? I dunno, I rather see myself as a nice guy.
 

Tenlaius

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it isn't dead. it lives on barely..usually because it seems as of late, for me anyway, followings the gentlemen's code is a 99.9% chance way to 'Friends Only Lane'
but it is just manners, and despite what i'm told..i'z keep 'dem
 

jboking

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were bringing it back from the grave​
Seriously though, Chivalry these days is just courteous behavior with no preference towards gender. It's not dead, it's just changed.
 

haddaway234

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To quote Dave Chapelle "Chivalry is dead, and women killed it". IMO that is very true. Because first of all, women don't really care. Guys are dating and marrying women just fine and often women want to be with like "bad boys". Secondly, honestly if you tried to be chivalrous people would think you were really corny and lame.

Seriously, next time your with a girl and walking somewhere after it rained, throw your jacket on to a puddle in front of her and we'll see if she thinks your a gentlemen or just stupid.