MASTACHIEFPWN said:
Lilani said:
Just talk to her. However, you mentioned the way she looks twice, so it seems to me that is important to you. As a woman I can honestly tell you that is my number two turn off in a man, only surpassed by smoking--both lead to flat denials, however. To be perfectly honest, I don't think anyone who pursues a girl off of appearances deserves anyone, unless they find someone as shallow as they are. In that case, they're probably perfect for each other. The relationship probably just won't last through their 40s.
So, if you like that girl regardless of her appearance, then THOSE are probably some legitimate feelings you are having. It means you like her for who she is, for her substance rather than her wrapping. There is nothing more attractive than that.
Actually, personality comes first, so even if you are the hottest girl in the world, and your personality sucked, I would avoid you... simple as that.
I'm not talking about someone with a bad personality and good looks. I'm talking about a person with a good personality and a bad appearance. The way you stopped to point out that one looked "average" and how the other looked "attractive" to you means that those things are important to you, and that you would possibly avoid her if she were any less "attractive."
So it seems to me you're going to have to choose: Do you want someone you could have endless conversations with, or do you want eye candy?
And by the way, if it sounds like I'm talking about a "serious" relationship here, it's because I am. It's been my experience that most girls who don't play the flirt game want to enter a relationship for the long haul. Personally, I won't pursue a relationship unless I see attributes for someone I'd be willing to grow old with. That's right--that is how far we girls think things out. Surface level attractions won't cut it. Those are just...a bonus.
I suggest looking up the song Have You Ever Really Loved a Woman by Brian Adams. It really sets the tone for the kind of relationship I'm talking about.