He's interested, even though he might not be ready to talk to you or ask you out.Chancie said:Alright, I need your guys' opinion on something.
There's this guy in my college math class who's always staring at me. We sit on opposite sides of the room, and I'm constantly catching him looking over at me. I'm one row behind him, on the opposite end. Unfortunately, I've never really had the chance to talk to him or anything like that.
Note, if it helps: Yes, he looks away when I look back. Dunno if that's a good or bad thing.
My sister is convinced he's got a thing for me. I'm not sure, and I don't want to try anything and sort of "jump the gun," so to speak.
So, I'm asking you guys because I don't really know how the male mind works with that sort of thing. Can staring really equal interest? I thought maybe it was only girls that did that, but I could be wrong...
Help me, please? :/
As a guy, I can understand how this other guy must feel, because I'm exactly the same. I do that when I'm interested in a girl, I recall one memorable occasion on the train home from a nearby town I'd visited when I did the same thing with this really attractive girl sitting a little way away. It was a crowded train, she noticed me looking, and we did keep playing that little 'stare-and-smile' game, but I didn't have the balls to actually say anything to her. And the reason is that the stereotype that guys will be confident enough to ask the girl out is a complete and utter lie. It's nothing but bullshit.Chancie said:Alright, I need your guys' opinion on something.
There's this guy in my college math class who's always staring at me. We sit on opposite sides of the room, and I'm constantly catching him looking over at me. I'm one row behind him, on the opposite end. Unfortunately, I've never really had the chance to talk to him or anything like that.
Note, if it helps: Yes, he looks away when I look back. Dunno if that's a good or bad thing.
My sister is convinced he's got a thing for me. I'm not sure, and I don't want to try anything and sort of "jump the gun," so to speak.
So, I'm asking you guys because I don't really know how the male mind works with that sort of thing. Can staring really equal interest? I thought maybe it was only girls that did that, but I could be wrong...
Help me, please? :/
This. If he is interested in what you are saying, and listening, then carry it on. If his eyes stray to Boobtown while talking to you, abandon ship.ottenni said:The mind of a guy is a simple thing. At any one time he is either thinking 'mmmmmmm boobs' 'mmmmmm food' or 'mmmmmmmm sleep' or any combination of the three. Try talking to him and watch where his eyes go, that should answer all your questions. And remember, you are a girl so you always have the initiative.
Damn brain slugs. Always latching on to people's heads.Sacman said:He likes you he's just shy...<.< No other explanation unless you have a brain slug on your head...
This sounds about right, I will admit that there have been times where I've simply been unable to spit it out, so it may be that he's interested but shy.DaJoW said:Most likely he's interested in you but just shy. He's probably looking at you so much because he's thinking to himself "Why can't I just talk to her?" etc. It's what I used to do at least.
Of course, he could be more of a creep you just likes to look at you. Hard to say without knowing more, but if he were he'd probably not look away.
You could try to keep looking at him after you catch him looking, to see how long it takes until he looks at you again and how he reacts to you looking at him. This could be sending signals you don't want to send of course, but it could provide some insight.
That is an unfortunate stereotype. I think about video games a lot too.ottenni said:The mind of a guy is a simple thing. At any one time he is either thinking 'mmmmmmm boobs' 'mmmmmm food' or 'mmmmmmmm sleep' or any combination of the three.
You sir, have summarized my thoughts on the matter far better than I could have.Trivun said:As a guy, I can understand how this other guy must feel, because I'm exactly the same. I do that when I'm interested in a girl, I recall one memorable occasion on the train home from a nearby town I'd visited when I did the same thing with this really attractive girl sitting a little way away. It was a crowded train, she noticed me looking, and we did keep playing that little 'stare-and-smile' game, but I didn't have the balls to actually say anything to her. And the reason is that the stereotype that guys will be confident enough to ask the girl out is a complete and utter lie. It's nothing but bullshit.Chancie said:Alright, I need your guys' opinion on something.
There's this guy in my college math class who's always staring at me. We sit on opposite sides of the room, and I'm constantly catching him looking over at me. I'm one row behind him, on the opposite end. Unfortunately, I've never really had the chance to talk to him or anything like that.
Note, if it helps: Yes, he looks away when I look back. Dunno if that's a good or bad thing.
My sister is convinced he's got a thing for me. I'm not sure, and I don't want to try anything and sort of "jump the gun," so to speak.
So, I'm asking you guys because I don't really know how the male mind works with that sort of thing. Can staring really equal interest? I thought maybe it was only girls that did that, but I could be wrong...
Help me, please? :/
Understanding how this guy must feel, I urge you, as the girl, to make contact. Talk to him, or if you can choose where you sit each class (i.e if seats aren't pre-allocated) then try and sit a bit nearer to him sometime. He won't make first contact, because he's shy, but he's definitely interested. So it's up to you to make first contact yourself. Do it, just talk to him about something, as a casual conversation, and see what happens. And good luck, to you and to him .
Oh, and guys, please don't quote me saying things like 'man up' and say that I as a guy need to grow a pair of balls, because I already have them, thank you. There's a difference between having self-confidence, which I do actually have, and having the guts to talk to a girl you like, especially when you don't even know if that girl realises you exist.
If he's anything like me he's not gonna come up with one, he's just gonna tell himself, " she doesn't care what I have to say, there is no reason for her to talk to me." or something like that, than go home cut a little bit get beat by his step dad and cry himself to sleep alone and unloved only for the same thing to repeat itself for the next year until he finally comes to the realization that life isn't worth living and try to off himself with a fist full of extra strength advil only to vomit it up and go on living a miserable existence in a hollow emotionless body...<.< you know if he's anything like me...Xpwn3ntial said:Damn brain slugs. Always latching on to people's heads.Sacman said:He likes you he's just shy...<.< No other explanation unless you have a brain slug on your head...
OT: He's interested in you in some way, and is probably thinking of an excuse to talk to you right now.
Well i could be serious and make a more comprehensive list, i mean not all guys are going to be thinking about boobs. But i'm lazy.Kittenmauler said:That is an unfortunate stereotype. I think about video games a lot too.ottenni said:The mind of a guy is a simple thing. At any one time he is either thinking 'mmmmmmm boobs' 'mmmmmm food' or 'mmmmmmmm sleep' or any combination of the three.
Exactly what I was going to say.Trivun said:As a guy, I can understand how this other guy must feel, because I'm exactly the same. I do that when I'm interested in a girl, I recall one memorable occasion on the train home from a nearby town I'd visited when I did the same thing with this really attractive girl sitting a little way away. It was a crowded train, she noticed me looking, and we did keep playing that little 'stare-and-smile' game, but I didn't have the balls to actually say anything to her. And the reason is that the stereotype that guys will be confident enough to ask the girl out is a complete and utter lie. It's nothing but bullshit.Chancie said:Alright, I need your guys' opinion on something.
There's this guy in my college math class who's always staring at me. We sit on opposite sides of the room, and I'm constantly catching him looking over at me. I'm one row behind him, on the opposite end. Unfortunately, I've never really had the chance to talk to him or anything like that.
Note, if it helps: Yes, he looks away when I look back. Dunno if that's a good or bad thing.
My sister is convinced he's got a thing for me. I'm not sure, and I don't want to try anything and sort of "jump the gun," so to speak.
So, I'm asking you guys because I don't really know how the male mind works with that sort of thing. Can staring really equal interest? I thought maybe it was only girls that did that, but I could be wrong...
Help me, please? :/
Understanding how this guy must feel, I urge you, as the girl, to make contact. Talk to him, or if you can choose where you sit each class (i.e if seats aren't pre-allocated) then try and sit a bit nearer to him sometime. He won't make first contact, because he's shy, but he's definitely interested. So it's up to you to make first contact yourself. Do it, just talk to him about something, as a casual conversation, and see what happens. And good luck, to you and to him .
Oh, and guys, please don't quote me saying things like 'man up' and say that I as a guy need to grow a pair of balls, because I already have them, thank you. There's a difference between having self-confidence, which I do actually have, and having the guts to talk to a girl you like, especially when you don't even know if that girl realises you exist.
Why would you- Just-Sacman said:If he's anything like me he's not gonna come up with one, he's just gonna tell himself, " she doesn't care what I have to say, there is no reason for her to talk to me." or something like that, than go home cut a little bit get beat by his step dad and cry himself to sleep alone and unloved only for the same thing to repeat itself for the next year until he finally comes to the realization that life isn't worth living and try to off himself with a fist full of extra strength advil only to vomit it up and go on living a miserable existence in a hollow emotionless body...<.< you know if he's anything like me...Xpwn3ntial said:Damn brain slugs. Always latching on to people's heads.Sacman said:He likes you he's just shy...<.< No other explanation unless you have a brain slug on your head...
OT: He's interested in you in some way, and is probably thinking of an excuse to talk to you right now.
but saying he isn't like me he will probably talk to you about the weather or what ever mentally stable people talk about these days...