9tailedflame said:
Actually, there's still huge levels of shame associated with any sexuality really. Straight women might have slut shaming worse than anyone, since for straight men, and homosexual people, at least there's a sense that you could congratulate each other for successfully finding someone to have sex with, while straight women are viscous to each other in this regard, and straight men are taught that their sexuality is violent and wrong pretty regularly, media shows rape all the time, and it's almost exclusively man on woman, and straight men have been taught that any time you approach a woman in a sexual context, you could be committing a crime, even something so banal as asking if she want to you back to your place could be considered sexual harassment. It's sort of along the same lines, but not as intensely, as being African American, you're kind-of assumed guilty, wrong, and a predator by default.
I mean the overall view of LGBT people is worse, but the idea that there's any sexuality that society is completely accepting of is pretty much just wrong.
No there aren't huge levels of shame associated with heterosexual sexuality...
While slut shaming is an issue, it's mostly an expression of either; possessiveness, cliquishness, religious extremism, or sexual insecurity... For the most part though, since at least the 1990's the concept of a woman being sexually liberated has been at worst an artifact of sexism, but is usually empowerment... Mind you that media is something like three decades behind the common culture. In the first case, that's an expression of toxic masculinity and sexism, revolving around the idea that women have no bodily autonomy, or sexual freedom, and are property. The second is an expression of the status heavy sexualized world women have to operate in, which links back to the first point. The third is an expression of repression as a method of violating people's rights... The last is an expression of again sexism regarding the sexual prowess and sexual preference of men. They all call back to a toxic masculine idea that women hate sex and a man is only a man when he conquers a woman... All of which are failing ideas in modern society.
The concept that male sexuality is "violent"? Again a concept of toxic masculinity, which states that women only submit to males for sex for the sake of survival. Really since the sexual liberation of the 1910s, 1920s, 1960s, and 1970s... The idea that all male sexuality is an assault? Well in media that's pretty much restricted to
Law and Order: SVU... In a social setting? That's pretty much a limited idea of sexist internet "MRAs" and militant lesbian extremist feminists... In common culture, hook ups between consenting heterosexual adults is perfectly acceptable, except to repressed idiots with unhealthy ideas about sex. That's to the point where "wanna come back to my place?" was an acceptable code word for "wanna have sex" under the code for films in the 1930s, 40s, and 50s...
On the other hand? Homosexual sexuality is still absolutely taboo today, unless it's lesbian, which is "hawt" and panders to the "male gaze"... The "male gaze" being a sexist rejection of female sexual autonomy and an entitlement of men to have sex with all women they meet. Still the concept of real homosexual romantic and sexual relations is seen as "sick", "gross", and "unnatural". If it's not fetishized for the male masses it's unacceptable... Which means honest lesbian romance is out, as is all gay romance and sex, and any transgender sexual expression... Well that's just 30 minutes worth of barfing...
Also heteronormative sexuality is used to sell fucking everything, from soda to condoms to vegetables and everything else. When was the last time you saw a same-sex couple in a milk, housing, or any other mass market commercial? Basically never I bet... Don't say that heterosexual sexuality is massively shamed, when it's the medium to push market sales and political messages. As the disbelieving friend of the inventor of the feces powered helicopter said; "that shit will not fly!"
If it's any consolation, i did try and be humourous at first. It tends to be like a sponge in the ocean though, unless it gets mistaken for seriousness, Which needs some sort of universal indicator to avoid future pitfalls. However, the best and only option now is start a fire, burn it all to the ground with no evidence left and claim off the insurance. There will be casualties of course, but to make an egg you've got to eat a few omelettes i say! 