She was my first real girlfriend and we'd been together for over a year. What made it worse for me was I got on really well with her family and since we split up I can't exactly got visit them...
OT but to both of you - don't be afraid to ask. I have a beautiful girlfriend, who when we first met through work a little over a year ago I kind of fell for almost right away. We got on well, spoke quite often and became friends. However, both me and all my mates reckoned she was well out of my league as a potential girlfriend, but as a wise man once said, "Faint heart never won fair maiden" so I went ahead and asked her out.cahtush said:youre not alone... *sigh*Magicmad5511 said:I've not been in a relationship so I wouldn't know.
Also whenever I've fancied someone they have left my school.
*breaks into tears*
im sure we all have been in a similar situation...
OT:I havent as i've never had a realtionship but if i did it would be in a very cowarldy way, seeing as im not even brave enough to even ask someone out
Kill Bill 2, do I win something?TerribleAssassin said:With a shotgun and a very hollow piece of land and some deodorant, and maybe a lighter.
Could you explain to me how you're "horrible"? Because horrible could be anything.RAKtheUndead said:As I am myself a horrible person, it stands to reason why anybody who is attracted to me on any level other than pure, unadulterated physical attraction is also a horrible person. Otherwise, why would they be attracted to me? And if they're not attracted to me and are still engaging in a relationship with me, it means they mean to exploit me, thus making them a horrible person in that respect.Flamezdudes said:Seriously... I can't get my head around you at all. I don't understand your thought pattern and why you think anyone who likes you is a horrible person. I mean, seriously... What the hell?
Are you me?? I was basically going to put exactly that!Magicmad5511 said:I've not been in a relationship so I wouldn't know.
Also whenever I've fancied someone they have left my school.
*breaks into tears*
Probably the best bits of advice I've read on here. Ah, if only my recent ex had followed it! (My first proper relationship, lasted about 3 years);Indignation837 said:I've been looking for advice too and come up with these pointers:
- Do it in person. Texting is a dick move, phone call is less so, but in person is always best.
- Try to talk it out first, or at least let them know there's a problem before calling it off so it's not a complete surprise.
- Make it clear that the relationship is over to prevent extended drama.
- Have plans later in the day to keep your mind off of it after the fact.
i disagree with 7 and 9. Who's business is it if i or anyone else dates another person after breaking up , the point of breaking up is to no longer be with the current person , i don't see why this makes you a douchbag. Is it now wrong to date people when you are single?amaranth_dru said:1. Be honest.
2. Be direct, don't bullshit.
3. Face-to-face in a public place. That way if they make an ass out of themselves, its also public humiliation for them and helps you not be swayed by emotional outbursts.
4. Even if you might love the person, there's a reason you want to break up so keep that firmly in mind and don't give in.
5. If you're a douchebag and have been:
a. Cheating
b. Lying to get in their pants.
c. Emotionally mistreating them.
Then you are not entitled to any sympathy when breaking up and as stated before are a douchebag.
6. Don't give them any signs of hope, because if it was going to work out, it would have before this point.
7. DO NOT GO AND DATE SOMEONE DIRECTLY AFTER BREAKING UP. This means you are a douchebag, untrustworthy and non-committal. Take time to appraise your situation of being single, enjoy it for as long as it takes to make you feel comfortable being by yourself. Breaking up with someone is not license to jump to the next relationship to make you feel better. It means most likely you are co-dependant and have issues that will prevent a successful relationship.
8. Don't be an asshole no matter how bad the person might have treated you. If you want to walk away being the better person, then BE the better person.
9. Don't try taking things you gave the person as gifts back from them, that also makes you a douchebag.
10. If there's money involved, write it off as a bad investment unless you think you can settle it in court (and want to afford a lawyer) or have any way of proving culpability of the other party. Otherwise, don't expect it back, because you'll be tied to that issue possibly for years on end.
Basically if the relationship is over, end it and don't try to walk away being friends. It doesn't usually work out well. Be an adult, know when its over and accept it.
I doubt he'd let you hug him, so slap first, then while he is stunned, get in a grapple-hug, pinning his arms against his chest. (I clearly play too many videogames when I analyse a hug like a battle) Be careful though, there is only a brief window between the slap and his counter, so you'll have to have killer reflexes.SckizoBoy said:*sigh* And he strikes again... I don't know whether to give you a hug or slap you, y'know...RAKtheUndead said:Anybody who enters a relationship with me is stupid, deluded or manipulating and malicious enough to deserve it.
Reason for 7: If you're immediately jumping to the next person to date, then you're not thinking with a clear head. Yes being single is the right way to start dating, but in the interim give yourself a few weeks at least to get past the previous relationship. Jumping from person to person is a sign of emotional problems. Also how can you expect a good relationship to develop if you only just ended the previous one? I've had a lot of experience both first and second hand with this, that a good relationship almost never develops from jumping to the next one immediately after the previous one dissolves. There is always some form of emotional trauma associated with breaking up (whether you admit it or not) and you need time to deal with that. Its not about hurting the feelings of the person you just broke up with, its about taking care of yourself. Also I'll amend the douchebag statement to a point. There are some people who just break up to date someone else without a good reason to break up, other than they want to sleep with someone else and want a way to absolve their guilt of wanting to cheat so they break up. Those people are definitely douchbags because they shouldn't even date. Casual sex does exist and you don't have to date to fuck.krazykidd said:*snip*
i disagree with 7 and 9. Who's business is it if i or anyone else dates another person after breaking up , the point of breaking up is to no longer be with the current person , i don't see why this makes you a douchbag. Is it now wrong to date people when you are single?
Also, I'll be DAMNED if i give an expensive gift ( such as jewlery maybe even an engagements rings) have the person i gave it to break up with me and not get it back, the jewlery was a sign of love, and the love is gone, i want it back !
Yes. You are a coward. If that had happened to me, I would look you up, beat the shit out of you and give a great speech of how cowards disgust me.krazykidd said:I personally ( and i am not proud of this ) break up by text message, i know it is viewed as the cowards way to do it,but i handle emotional women rather poorly ( by emotional i don't necessarily mean crying, but also confusion or anger), so i rather not see them when i do it.
So how do you break up with someone?
This.Heimir said:If I ever hear about a friend dumping someone via text message. I'm going to plant my fist in his face, total puss out that is. Guys like that do not deserve to have a girlfriend at all.
Tell it to their face, thats what ive done and will continue to do. OP = Massive coward and should be ashamed of himself.