How do you make friends?
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I have no idea. I have quite a few friends, but I have no idea how I got them. However I would tell you to join some kind of activity where you can meet people. Join a club, try sport learn to play an instrument, anything like that should be a step in the right direction.
You're a bit of a bastard, aren't you? xDRawne1980 said:
To OP: Do what he just did. Not *that*, I mean look at the comment. It's funny and memorable. If this were a real life social situation, he'd be in.
"Friends"? What are those? Are they like something you eat?
Ok all kidding aside, don't ask me. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you.
Ok all kidding aside, don't ask me. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you.
In that train of thought, something in Skyrim always bothered me[footnote]stop the fucking presses, right?[/footnote]. You explore loads of tombs and find these urns. There's never ashes in a single damn one. Only money. Why is that?Mortai Gravesend said:
The only logical explanation I can think of is that people in Skyrim have mastered alchemy, and people are like "when I die, I want to be money!"
"Sure, buddy. I'll put your remains in the g-string of that Altmer stripper, just like you wanted!"
It should be my project to gather as much vampiric ash as I can and fill every urn in Skyrim.
Rather inadvertently. I do not have many overall but the ones i have are exceptionally close, I am awkward and talk about of conversations off the cuff and think it is just what "normal" people do. People find this intensely disturbing/annoying or intriguing/comforting and the latter become my friends.
By inviting people I like over for drinks. You can not buy friends with money but you can buy them with liquor and good company, and i can by best friends with liquor good company and multiplayer games
I feel you're old enough for me to make this claim:
MORE INFO!!!
I understand you want help, and you think that we can give it. But I'm sorry to say we can't, not like this. In order to give you some actual advice we need to know a bit more. How good are your social skills, are you male or female, are you generally a happy person, how old are you, in what country do you live? I understand that you feel uncomfortable with sharing all of this, but I need this information to give accurate advice. For example the advice I would give to the 18 year old me:
First off: always obey these three golden rules: 1. Always be completly honest, spread no kinds of untruths. 2. Always be as kind, cheerfull and spontanious as you can possibly be. 3. Always trust everybody, accept when your senses are actually telling you not too.
Second off: Confidence is all, fake it when you miss it.
Third off: Practice talking, and listening. It's just akward if you can't properly communicate
But this advice I could give to the 18 year old me for several reasons. My social skills were utterly terrible, thus I needed drastic ground rules. I'm and was 1.94 m tall fit guy, keen and smart so I can trust basically anyone, for not many people could seriously harm me. I also am and was a generally happy person, so I don't have to force cheerfullness. Also I live in the Netherlands where people can be somewhat shy in some ways, therefor people respond positlifly on someone following said rules.
So this advice would be great for the 18 year old me, but I've no idea if it would do you any good.
Now the only advice I could give you is to look for classes or courses regarded this subject. I'm sure those can be found somewhere.
MORE INFO!!!
I understand you want help, and you think that we can give it. But I'm sorry to say we can't, not like this. In order to give you some actual advice we need to know a bit more. How good are your social skills, are you male or female, are you generally a happy person, how old are you, in what country do you live? I understand that you feel uncomfortable with sharing all of this, but I need this information to give accurate advice. For example the advice I would give to the 18 year old me:
First off: always obey these three golden rules: 1. Always be completly honest, spread no kinds of untruths. 2. Always be as kind, cheerfull and spontanious as you can possibly be. 3. Always trust everybody, accept when your senses are actually telling you not too.
Second off: Confidence is all, fake it when you miss it.
Third off: Practice talking, and listening. It's just akward if you can't properly communicate
But this advice I could give to the 18 year old me for several reasons. My social skills were utterly terrible, thus I needed drastic ground rules. I'm and was 1.94 m tall fit guy, keen and smart so I can trust basically anyone, for not many people could seriously harm me. I also am and was a generally happy person, so I don't have to force cheerfullness. Also I live in the Netherlands where people can be somewhat shy in some ways, therefor people respond positlifly on someone following said rules.
So this advice would be great for the 18 year old me, but I've no idea if it would do you any good.
Now the only advice I could give you is to look for classes or courses regarded this subject. I'm sure those can be found somewhere.
For me it just... happens. I might end up in a conversation with someone and eventually over time I have more and more conversations with them and then eventually we start spending time together doing things... *shrug*. I never intend to make friends, it just happens with me.
Go to the Grocery store, Starbucks, or just ride public transportation. While doing these things have a hand held game or a book, someone will ask you what you're doing and you can kick up a conversation. at the end of said conversation, minimum 10 minutes see if they want to exchange numbers.
Very badly would be a good answer, not even through shyness, which is an issue, that crippling fear of rejection built up from 20 years of torment.Quiet Stranger said:
Frankly I wouldn't worry about it if you have any friends at all, just play games with people you know or something. I just have a few friends these days and we don't do much beyond have a few drinks and play games.
I'll be your friend xDDD
I'm no expert in friend- and relationships, but it depends on the attitude I'd say. I was training Parkour with a small group of people, ranging from the age of 13 to 25 for 2 years, and I didn't meet any many friends... Well, I did some, but I frankly couldn't give a rat's ass to invest anything into it, so they just faded away.
I was never actually looking, or open, to friendship. Therefore, no matter the amount of socializing, I couldn't make any connections.
If you want friends, then half the way is crossed. The rest is... Well, unknown to me. I can't remember how I met any of my 'dearest' friends in the first place.
As for me, well, I finally scraped up enough money to purchase a fine gaming computer, where I can run Diablo III with highest standards and not ram the cooler up to 11 (more like 2).
My beauty will replace the currently non-existing friends that I don't have for a year or two I'd say xD.
I was never actually looking, or open, to friendship. Therefore, no matter the amount of socializing, I couldn't make any connections.
If you want friends, then half the way is crossed. The rest is... Well, unknown to me. I can't remember how I met any of my 'dearest' friends in the first place.
As for me, well, I finally scraped up enough money to purchase a fine gaming computer, where I can run Diablo III with highest standards and not ram the cooler up to 11 (more like 2).
My beauty will replace the currently non-existing friends that I don't have for a year or two I'd say xD.
Join some kinda hobby club, i also have no close friends like i did in school
But having something fun to do together will certainly make friends eventually
My closest friends right now i met in an online game
But having something fun to do together will certainly make friends eventually
My closest friends right now i met in an online game
I slunk my way into a room and just stare at the nearest group until something I know about comes up and talk to them. Then I hound them until they're so used to my presence that they don't even notice that I'm part of the group.
And then, that is when I strike.
I mean, become their friend.
And then, that is when I strike.
I mean, become their friend.
